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nobody's unlovable and loneliness isn't new, this just what happens when the first generation of men and boys allowed to say "I desire kindness" emerge at at same time as women and girls allowed to say "I don't owe men anything".

And they're both right, they're both correct- Masculine figures are allowed to ask to be treated gently and Feminine figures are allowed to decide who they share intimacy with.

The PROBLEM is men thinking "I deserve gentleness" is the same as "someone owes me intimacy".

The PROBLEM is women thinking that "I don't owe you gentleness" is the same as "I don't have to treat you well".

Men need to start GIVING what they ask for.

Women need to be FIRM without being cruel.

If men were kinder and gentler, if we raised our boys with emotional literacy and taught them compassion and self-care and generosity, personal responsibility and concern for others, they wouldn't see WOMEN as a united monolith marching out to deny them their "right"- they'd have support networks and friendships of their own to rely on, not just a mom or a wife to dump all their needs onto.

Men being lonely isn't new. They're just allowed to talk about it. And, coincidentally, the socially-conditioned second-class-citizen support role is rapidly vanishing. We've yet to stabilize: its that instability that has people chewing at the rope.

It's a rough transition, but that's all it is. A step to something better.

male loneliness epidemic maybe theyre just unloveable

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friend of mine at the dinner table said "how do you kiss someone for over twelve minutes and not, like, die?" and i was like "do you think people hold their breath???" and they said "no, but i mean, how do you keep your face on someone's face for THAT LONG?" and i said "it's NOT hard, i've made out for WAY longer than twelve minutes, twelve minutes is NOTHING it's like BARELY ANYTHING!" and my other friend who's 19 going on 12 just looks me dead in the eye and says "OKAY, PUSSYMASTER!" and guys, i think i have a new official title i'm going to ask that everyone address me by,

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Black girls from the hood who buy dollar doorknockers, get their long nails done for cheap at the salon down the block, who wear $20 wigs and  who find their party outfits from Rainbows and rock  bright lipsticks from the the beauty supply store. They are culture. They created this “baddie IG” trend years and years ago, back when black girlhood was ugly and scary and ghetto to you. 

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biologist here! why are plants green? well they suck up air from the sky (blue) and mix it with the sunlight (yellow) i fucking love science.

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My boyfriend's professor doesn't believe I exist, so I sent this email

And his professor responded with this

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Trying not to kill a man

Being dramatic about holding a plank at the gym

Impressing my boss

Hitting on kinksters

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Praying I guess

Knowing the Lord's Prayer and the Hail Mary has so far in life been so useful in so many unexpected ways

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Knowing the Lord's Prayer and the Hail Mary has so far in life been so useful in so many unexpected ways

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"Are you ok?" I'm actually tired bro. From the bottom of my heart I'm tired

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when you're 32 you will meet someone who will change your life forever

Easy prediction, everyone I meet changes my life every day

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I recently seared a nearly perfect crescent into my arm (not paying attention while fixing a sink) and am tempted to get some lil stars tattooed around it. Since you are fine with your scars, have you ever thought about decorating them?

me? Nah, it'd feel like decorating an existing tattoo. I like how they look on their own :)

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I know you’ve had cats before and already gotten a lot of advice but thought I’d chip in some as well. It’s been a while since I’ve had a kitten under 10 weeks old but if ur kitten still needs help going to the bathroom cotton pads work great. And make sure to boop them on the nose (both because it’s fun and also if ur worried about if they’re too hot as an adult they’ll be used to it) Also get them used to you looking at their gums as young as possible, I’ve found it’s easier to tell if theyre anemic based off gums than ears or butt or toes personally. Plus checking regularly helps u to know what their gums look like normally. Pls give your kitten pets for me.

Thank you, this is great!!

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Not sure if you’ve already gotten this advice but a good way to also socialize your kitten is to gently bother them and scoop them up and carry them occasionally

Obviously don’t overdo it but the more you teach them that humans are grabbing them for benign reasons the more they’ll be likely to let you clip their claws or stay still for the vet

We got cat #1 when she was too old to socialize and the difference between cat #1 and cat #2, who /was/ socialized and bothered is like night and day. Cat #1 isn’t mean, but she’s half feral and terrified of any human contact besides occasional petting while cat #2 can be picked up and manipulated as much as needed

Oh also; every cat I’ve ever had has /hated/ to have their back claws clipped, I don’t think this is the case for every cat but be aware that your new guy may wiggle and scream more when you get to the back claws

If you have any breakable items in your house I would recommend getting some good reusable adhesive and sticking anything you don’t want pushed off the shelf down

Copy, Captain!!

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Response: YES, ABSOLUTELY THEY SHOULD NOT BE SEPERATED UNTIL THEY ARE 8 WEEKS OLD AT LEAST

Unfortunately I arranged to adopt one to*before* I found out, "hey btw I'm leaving the country and not taking the small ones with me so you're getting him at 4 weeks" SO WE ARE GONNA DO OUR BEST HERE

UPDATES ON THE YOUNG LORD

He is three weeks old and his mom's owner has sent a picture

Momma is the big grey cat, the ears are the bottom of the photo belong to one of his sisters, and the runty black jellybean up by her chin is him.

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UPDATES ON THE YOUNG LORD

He is three weeks old and his mom's owner has sent a picture

Momma is the big grey cat, the ears are the bottom of the photo belong to one of his sisters, and the runty black jellybean up by her chin is him.