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But—there’s a figure on the horizon, distinctly Grian shaped with his stupid puffy sweater. And the coil of anxiety is unspooling in his chest. Of course, he stayed. It’s Grian.

or it goes like this: Scar doesn’t trust Grian.

dusted off on only slightly moldy and spoiled from the closet! thank you robin for the feedback <3

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I always love when people make a post like “don’t ship this thing, the characters hurt each other!!!” Then uou look at the series it’s from and the entire thing is about people murdering each other

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But—there’s a figure on the horizon, distinctly Grian shaped with his stupid puffy sweater. And the coil of anxiety is unspooling in his chest. Of course, he stayed. It’s Grian.

or it goes like this: Scar doesn’t trust Grian.

dusted off on only slightly moldy and spoiled from the closet! thank you robin for the feedback <3

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But—there’s a figure on the horizon, distinctly Grian shaped with his stupid puffy sweater. And the coil of anxiety is unspooling in his chest. Of course, he stayed. It’s Grian.

or it goes like this: Scar doesn’t trust Grian.

dusted off on only slightly moldy and spoiled from the closet! thank you robin for the feedback <3

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LOOK AT THEM Q-Q

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This is the dream, tho?

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Tommy talks about the elephant in the room

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“You simply cannot fit more America into a single incident than a man dying a horrifying death in protest of war crimes while a first responder screams at cops to stop pointing their guns at him and go get fire extinguishers. If you were to pick a single moment in history to sum up the essence and expression of the US empire, that would be it.”

Caitlin Johnstone, The Most American Thing That Has Ever Happened

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Anyway, while people are discoursing about men and not sharing Shubble points, here’s the actual advice I got from watching the stream bc I think that probably needs to be spread more. Shubble elaborates it much better but if you can’t watch it’s better than nothing.

Physical abuse is not just hitting or kicking, anyone causing physical pain intentionally to you without consent is physically abusive, regardless of how that manifests or if it seems silly.

Pressuring someone into using a safeword on something that’s not, like, a mutually agreed thing and is just something one partner wants is controlling and creepy.

Partners who push at the edge of your boundaries and avoid safewords are abusive.

A partner insisting you’re remembering things wrong and making you seem crazy is abusive (specifically, it’s gaslighting)

Grand romantic gestures from the beginning can very easily be a sign of abuse, as abusers use it to endear themselves to their victims.

Controlling behaviour and refusing to break up while also refusing to make changes is possessive and unhealthy at best.

Abusers will manipulate things to make it seem normal to those outside of their victims- by being kind and helpful even as they neglect their victim, by pressuring their victim to treat their abusive behaviour as a joke, ect. It’s often very hard for an outside observer to know if something is abusive, and making assumptions off of what you know in front of closed doors isn’t helpful.

It’s very hard to tell that you’re being abused, and you'll often still retain affection for your abuser for a long time- this is normal, and this isn’t your fault if you wanted to stay friends.

Even if an abuser is struggling with their own problems, taking it out on you is not acceptable. People can be bottling up their emotions and struggle with depression and past trauma and that gives them no excuse to hurt you.

If your partner relies entirely on you to take care of them, and support them financially, that’s financial abuse one way or another.

Abusers tend to hurt more than one person, and their actions escalate without outside influence (be it intervention if possible or something that keeps them away from victims if not.)

Listen to your gut, if you think a relationship is bad. Even if you’ve been through this before, sometimes you can’t realise in it, but you’ll feel it subconciously.

Also, Shubble is being supported by friends who helped her cope and went through different but similar things. She's specifically mentioned right now keeping the stories anonymised, but she might change her mind, if I interpreted the last bit correctly. She's doing alright, she's healing, and it sounds like she's being believed by her friends, at least most of them. I wish nothing but growth and healing for them, and wish them the best moving forward.

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Everyone say “thank you, Shubble”

And, if you’ve got time, I would say that while we should be worrying about deplatforming an abuser, supporting Shubble is really what’s most important!

I recommend watching a few of her videos to give her that boost! You can throw a like and a comment her way. Remember that content creation is a job and we can contribute even if just a little.

Her recent hide and seek video featuring Gem, Jimmy, Lizzie and Scott is incredibly cozy, her SOS video is cute and for a series that’s just barely started, both her empires seasons are solid (one link because they’re on the same playlist), her Witchcraft smp series is fun! She has a bunch of videos on other assorted games, and a small AITA podcast series featuring HBomb!

Send all the love to Shelby! Let’s put our time where our hearts are 💗

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Do you think theres someone out there on this site who is completely non lgbt yet has all their identity written out in their bio in the format of someone with detailed microlabels

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the most self indulgent doodles possible. figure skater etho bc im insane

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with joel on hermitcraft how long do you think it's gonna take before someone asks him if he's gonna kiss their neck. personally, i'd give it about five seconds,

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bunch of gem doodles i did while not paying attention in apgov 👍

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