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bro that post literally is an iteration of an actual scene from seinfeld like. i dont go here this isnt brainrot speaking it just genuinely is from that.

OH. oh. I definitely did not know that lmao. i take back my annoyed tags

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Being in your twenties is just

Have I eaten today? Do I have autism? I want a new job. Am I dehydrated? God, I want top surgery so bad. Where's my birth certificate? Oh it's nice out today! Should I get high tonight? I'm so hungry. I'm so sad. Do my friends hate me? I need a nap. I'd be so much hotter without tits.

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bro I love how your new girlfriend is exactly like me! but like.. she’s a she yknow.. haha! I kinda resent her for being able to spend that extra time with you, for being closer to you than our platonic binds will let us be.. but it’s ok! she’s a lot like me so, in some corner of your mind, when you make love to her.. ah, well lost my train of thought. anyways I guess I approve of her, she seems to make you happy, she seems to challenge you, so good pick! by the way, off topic but I’m in love with you and have been over the course of our entire friendship, seeing you happy with someone so close to my personality is heartbreaking because I just know that if I were born with tits we would’ve been together already. hah, but whatever! doomed by the narrative! see ya champ!

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Golden Fields, Amber Brunsden — 2023 Oil on canvas

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i often wonder how many ppl from 2012 tumblr are still active on here

are u also still here, lurking in the shadows????

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“Carnation Coffee-mate” mug (1993, botanical series)

source

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for someone never meant for this world,

i must confess, i’m having a hard time

leaving it

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[image description: a photo of a white button on a grey background with black capitalized text- “it’s great to be gay on valentine’s day,” with “gay” in large cursive letters at the center.]

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lighthouse ghosties

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save these (or download them here) to use for posters, social media, zines… whatever u want! it’s never too late to start wearing a mask again :-)

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“I say to her, “You are the only woman who ever answered the demands of my imagination.”

— Anaïs Nin, from Henry & June; A Journal of Love: The Unexpurgated Diary of Anaïs Nin (1931–1932)

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small buildings of Kyoto, Japan shot by photographer, John Einarsen

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On of the less intuitive things about love, I've found, of any kind, is the importance of needing things.

I didn't realize it until recently, but I've always seen love as something requiring sacrifice, selflessness, patience, and generosity- to ask for nothing is to be the best person I can be, small and quiet and never in the way, always happy and helpful, self-sufficient and present when desired.

It's only as an adult, now, that I'm beginning to see the selfishness of wanting nothing.

I cut my friend's hair in my kitchen the other day. They wanted a trim and I had the skills, so I offered, and was genuinely excited when they stopped hesitating over "bothering me" and took me up on it. It was a peaceful afternoon, and we had tea and chatted for an hour or more.

My brother and I shared popcorn at the movies a while ago. When I came time to pay, I pulled my card out like a wild western sheriff and slapped it on the machine before he could fight me for it first. The satisfaction was delightful.

Someone called me crying on the phone the other day. Kept apologizing for disturbing me at work, talking about how they were bothering me on my lunch break. I was telling the truth when I told them that really, I was flattered and honored and relieved, knowing that if they were hurting I would know, that I didn't have to worry in silence. It felt good to hear them slowly come down, and to know that they knew it would be better soon, and to hear them laugh wetly on the other end. We're getting together for a visit next week.

It's hard to need things, if you've trained yourself not to. It's hard to want things, when you don't know how to want anymore. Trusting people is difficult, and so is relying on them, but I don't know where I'd be without the people who rely on me.

I've heard a lot of people say, "Nobody will love you unless you love yourself". I've had a lot of thoughts about it. It's not right, but it's not wrong, either, I think.

"Nobody will love you unless you love yourself"... I've always taken that to mean, "You will not be lovable until you develop a positive view of yourself as a person".

Now, I think it's sort of inside-out.

"Nobody will love you unless you love yourself"... because nobody can show their love to you in a way that you can accept until you treat yourself kindly, and learn what you need, and what you want, and how to ask for it, and then give that vulnerability away.

Love, for me, is someone I ask for a ride to the airport. Whether they end up doing this or not is irrelevant.

It's not needy, or selfish, or taking up energy. It's giving the gift of being wanted, and needed, and thought of. It's giving someone the security of being part of someone's life.