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“If this hurts my shows I’m gonna riot” “they better not cancel my favorite show” “this is so selfish I NEED this show” “what about my mental health now that they—“

So you agree. Show-writers are important to you and to the industry and should be compensated accordingly for their important work.

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Since once in a blue moon I actually discover a decent rule for adulting, and since I know I have followers a few years younger than me who are just entering the workforce, I want to tell you about a very important phrase. 

“I won’t be available.”

Imagine you’re at work and your boss asks you to come in on Saturday. Saturday is usually your day off–coming in Saturdays is not an obligation to keep your job. Maybe you were going to watch a movie with a friend, or maybe you were just going to lie in bed and eat ice cream for eight hours, but either way you really, really don’t want to give up your day off.

If you consider yourself a millennial you’ve probably been raised to believe you need to justify not being constantly at work. And if you’re a gen-Z kid you’re likely getting the same toxic messages that we did. So in a situation like that, you might be inclined to do one of three things:

Tell your boss you’d rather not give up your day off. Cave when they pressure you to come in anyway, since you’re not doing anything important.

Tell your boss you’d rather not give up your day off. Over-apologize and worry that you looked bad/unprofessional.

Lie and say you’ve got a doctor’s appointment or some other activity that feels like an adequate justification for not working.

The fact is, it doesn’t matter to your boss whether you’re having open heart surgery or watching anime in your underwear on Saturday. The only thing that affects them is the fact that you won’t be at work. So telling them why you won’t be at work only gives them reason to try and pressure you to come in anyway.

If you say “I won’t be available,” giving no further information, you’d be surprised how often that’s enough. Be polite and sympathetic in your tone, maybe even say “sorry, but I won’t be available.” But don’t make an excuse. If your boss is a professional individual, they’ll accept that as a ‘no’ and try to find someone else. 

But bosses aren’t always professional. Sometimes they’re whiny little tyrants. So, what if they pressure you further? The answer is–politely and sympathetically give them no further information.

“Are you sure you’re not available?” “Sorry, but yes.”

“Why won’t you be available?” “I have a prior commitment.” (Which you do, even if it’s only to yourself.)

“What’s your prior commitment?” “Sorry, but that’s kind of personal.”

“Can you reschedule it?” “I’m afraid not. Maybe someone else can come in?”

If you don’t give them anything to work with, they can’t pressure you into going beyond your obligations as an employee. And when they realize that, they’ll also realize they have to find someone else to come in and move on.

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astrology isnt real but every positive thing written about my sign is true 

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Miriam Miller in A Midsummer Night’s Dream

photo by Paul Kolnik

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‘I love that. She doesn’t have to find an amulet, she doesn’t have to reverse a spell to save her father, all she has to do is learn how to be happy. Just the fact that Pixar would put the importance of mental health on a pedestal and say, “If you’re uncomfortable about something, it’s worth talking about and it’s a journey worth seeing,” is fantastic.’ — Mindy Kaling on Inside Out

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Great Yarns

A longish list of SUPER-long books.

Recommendations by Estelle, Hermione Hoby, Ragini, Mads Jensen, Monika, Jane Marie, Stephanie, Anna F.,Meagan, Naomi and Tova.

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“What was great about this is that the luxury of a love story was not where we were, I mean they can’t even talk to each other. It was always going to be two warriors on par, starting off with very little respect for each other and ending up with a massive respect for each other.” - Charlize Theron

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SUPPORT BISEXUAL GIRLS WHO HAVE NEVER DATED A GIRL SUPPORT BISEXUAL GIRLS WHO HAVE NEVER DATED A BOY SUPPORT BISEXUAL BOYS WHO HAVE NEVER DATED A GIRL SUPPORT BISEXUAL BOYS WHO HAVE NEVER DATED A BOY SUPPORT BISEXUAL GIRLS AND BOYS NO MATTER WHO THEY’VE DATED BECAUSE YOUR OPINION OF THEIR PREVIOUS EXPERIENCES DOESN’T DEFINE THEIR SEXUALITY

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Hey runners (and walkers)! Thought this might be helpful :)

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what you said was very sweet and means a lot to me but i am incapable of properly responding in any way besides “thank you so much aaaah” because i do not know how to accurately express the exact level of my gratitude to where you completely understand how much what you said meant to me without me getting even more emotional and looking like a fucking nerd: an autobiography

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6.18.15

“Fox News just makes my fucking head explode.”

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OHH my goodness look at these pics of the baby elephant at the zoo in tucson she got a box of hay for her 6 month birthday and she was so happy she fell over

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Cats That Need Your Attention The Exact Moment You Start Reading  

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Larry Wilmore responds to the shootings in Charleston 

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to some who are confused: he didn’t play deadpool, he is deadpool.