thebestaroever

[thebestaroever]

big shoutout to trans people that decide to change their last name too. sometimes you’ve just gotta throw the whole name out and start from the beginning.

[thebestaroever]

I'd love to hold your hand. I'd love to be casually physically intimate with you. But I can't, because we're just friends.

I'd love to build a future with you. I'd love to adopt you, and perhaps your family, as my family. But I can't, because we're just friends.

I can see it so clearly. I can see the future we could have. But I can't build it with you, because we're just friends.

And friendship is transient, isn't it? We insist on treating romance and marriage like they are permanent, despite the divorce rates, and everyone knows that "friends forever" is just a nice sentiment, while "I do" is permanent. Right?

My friendship cannot be forever, because I can't offer you a ring. I genuinely could, though. If you wanted one. But of course I dare not ask you to wear a ring for me, because we're just friends.

My friendship cannot be forever, because I can't marry you. Can't have children with you. Can't plan a household with you. Can't stake my future on our feelings for each other. Can't, can't, can't ...

It's just friendship. It doesn't matter what I would do for you; all the things I can't do weigh more, don't they.

It doesn't matter how much I love you platonically; the missing element of romance is the only part that really matters, isn't it.

So you'll go and build a future with someone who can give you all the things I cannot, and I suppose we all just agree to ignore all the things that she might not be able to give you that I could.

It's just friendship. You can have it with anybody. Common as muck; deep, intimate, meaningful friendships are just lying around like litter, aren't they? Like dead leaves; lightweight, worthless, easily tossed. Not like romance. Romance with someone you barely know is priceless, right? Every date a gold brick.

No matter how much effort I put into our friendship, and no matter how rare and special I think you are, in the end you'll choose someone else to create your life with, and I'll ...

I can't have romance; do you know that? Do you understand that the thing you have planned your life around is something I can never have nor even comprehend?

Do you realise that this means that friendships are the closest relationship available to me?

Who knows? Who cares? It's just friendship!

[thebestaroever]

It just makes me so frustrated when people go “not all aroace people are romance- and sex-repulsed! Therefore it is WRONG to say THIS aroace character is romance- and sex-repulsed even though that is how it is consistently and clearly written!” (“Therefore it is wrong to say any aroace is sex- or romance-repulsed! Don’t you know aros and aces can still have sex and romance?”)

it doesn’t come across as respect for sex-favorable aces and romance-favorable aros, it comes across as a fundamental inability to believe that anybody could actually not want sex or romance.

[thebestaroever]

people who deserve more respect and recognition:

intersex people

trans men

aromantic people

multigender people

people in qpr's

aplatonic people

[thebestaroever]

Feminism isn't about doing whatever feels good and fuels your specific personal interests btw sometimes you do in fact have to change how you think and behave

[thebestaroever]

If you don't feel interested in romance, don't often have crushes, or dislike the idea of romance in general, I have news for you: Rare Sierra Nevada Red Fox Spotted In Southern Sierra Area For First Time In Nearly A Century

[thebestaroever]

tapping the sign theres no moral weight to sexual, romantic, platonic, or any other kind of attraction, be it the presence or absence of it with co-relation or non-relation to other types of attraction

[thebestaroever]

i have another bomb to throw, girls who hated pink and femininity in childhood were not experiencing internalized misogyny; it was a rejection of the conditioning pushed on us from birth which we never felt passion for and grew resentful towards because of adults’ insistence on us following the rules of being a girl. when you hit middle-high school and get more say in how you look it feels fucking incredible to reject and be openly hostile to the things you were forced to embrace your whole life. you people just don’t know what internalized misogyny is and tumblr choice feminism lied to you

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GOD I wish more Western books would take cues from danmei for how to write fantasy romance, danmei is like the only genre I’ve encountered that understands my ideal ratio of fluffy romance to body horror

[thebestaroever]

Loved one got top surgery yesterday so I made this for him but I think y’all would appreciate it too

[thebestaroever]

[looking at a canon/fan ship] yeah theres no romantic explanation for this sorryyy :3c people who are romantic dont look at each other like that wow they are such good friends/qpps!! do you think they hold hands and keep an eye out for each other and hug? do you think they text each other every day reminding each other to eat? childhood crushes to friends am i right :D

[thebestaroever]

"spam like = blocked" if you spam like me i am going to cast 1000 protection spells on you so nothing bad happens to you ever

[thebestaroever]

there is still time. there is still time. until your bones are in the fucking ground there is still time.

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dan and phil being like "who would tell their friends what they do in bed that's so weird" this is how you know they don't have friends

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I haven’t platonicposted in a while