thehyperromantic
thehyperromantic
The Hyperromantic
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I don't even know why I'm on tumblr anymore. I can't figure out how to implement paragraphs in this thing. Okay, so here's the deal. Green Party, social-anarchist, radical relationship anarchist, queer, mixed race, autistic, physically disabled, etc. I am 100% okay with people who have biases checking out my blog. Why? Because there is no point to activism unless I convert people, and converting people takes time. People don't change in a day. TERFs don't become trans allies in a day. Nazis don't shed their racism and antisemitism in a day. If anything I say on my blog convinces biased ppl to *eventually* shed their prejudices, then I've done my job. And in "the real world", I have and do manage to help people lose some biases. Tumblr's unrealistic expectations and blog-reader shunning only makes my real-life activism harder for me. Like all forms of extremism, it turns moderates off and yet makes anyone who even considers their side look bad. People who give up this toxic peer-pressure culture are likely to do a full 180. Which means it makes more biased ppl who won't give an inch, which is very bad. If you don't like reading that, then...do what you always do and block me or something, idk. Makes it easier for me to find my people. But you're free to read my blog or interact with me. After all, if you realize it's harmfulness, that's a ball in my court, and the world a slightly better place. Cringe culture is usually bad but it is reflective and important for identifying emotions and trends. And frankly, 90% of stuff everyone posts online IS cringe culture. From shunning TERFs to watching CinemaSins. Sassy Sylveons to funny pics of people parking terribly. It's all an aspect of cringe culture. If you complain more about the media actively trying to help us, like Steven Universe, then the media actively set out against us or that panders to such (such as Gravity Falls or BBC's Sherlock) then maybe think about your priorities a little more. I had a genuine, ...
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thehyperromantic · 6 years ago
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hey, @bunjywunjy - this might be your jam (and any other dinosaur enthusiasts, it’s a heck of a read)
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Talking back to the Geek Social Fallacies: they’re a non-intersectional analysis that doesn’t take into account how diverse our community is, and assumes we don’t have agency in our own social relationships.
Geek Social Fallacy #1: Ostracizers Are Evil
From the website:  GSF1 is one of the most common fallacies, and one of the most deeply held. Many geeks have had horrible, humiliating, and formative experiences with ostracism, and the notion of being on the other side of the transaction is repugnant to them.
I think this is true some of the time, but not all. Here is the problem with how this is framed. The biggest problem with this (like with the rest of the analysis of the GSF) is that it’s a non-intersectional viewpoint of a diverse set of spaces that have unspoken traditional power dynamics. People outside of those dynamics - women, POC, and or LGBTQ people - talk about those dynamics *all the time.* Plenty of geek social issues aren’t individual, they’re structural.
There is a lot of geek exceptionalism here: it’s as if geek culture exists in a hermetically sealed bubble apart from the rest of society or its dynamics, pissing contests, or biases, and it’s as if problems that take place within geek space, are specific to geek space.
It’s also as if geeks don’t have agency or ever choose their friends and spaces with intention, and never reject or ostracize people. Plenty of us are geeks/nerds because we don’t hang out with just *anybody* and a lot of us really do think we are smarter and or more successful than a lot of other people in our own social class (which is part of the unspoken class anxiety in nerd/geek identity). A lot of us have defensive walls up in non-geeky spaces - but there are some of us who actively think we’re more interesting, higher class, better informed, or smarter than non-nerdy/non-geeky people.
Finally, the problem with assuming that the problem is “Ostracizers Are Evil”
assumes that geeks/nerds don’t prioritize some friendships within their group over other friendships, and ignores that structural and or unconscious biases may exist in geek/nerd space just like they do in other spaces. The person asked not to be an ostracizer is so often someone who’s expected to do emotional labor/be “the Giving Tree” or who has a more subordinate status in the group. The people we’re expected to tolerate aren’t merely some elephant in the room that everyone is working around, the group is often actively prioritizing that person over the people who don’t like that person. They’re not merely tolerating them. They put up with Jason the Creeper and Cat Piss Man because they like them and/or Jason and CPM go way back in the group! 
Geek Social Fallacy #2: Friends Accept Me As I Am
The origins of GSF2 are closely allied to the origins of GSF1. After being victimized by social exclusion, many geeks experience their “tribe” as a non-judgmental haven where they can take refuge from the cruel world outside.
Well… maybe this is true for some people, but the problem is, there are power dynamics *within* geek/nerd culture. This is another case where I feel like the author isn’t seeing the forest for the trees. Plenty of people don’t find geek/nerd culture to be a haven and don’t take acceptance for granted! Just because geek/nerd culture may be a haven *for some cis het men* from some kinds of gender essentialist tropes, doesn’t mean it’s a haven for other people.  
If you’re somebody who is always fighting for space in that world because it’s the only space you get to have *anywhere*, and you’re always running into the power dynamics of other groups, then it isn’t that easy to miss in geek/nerd culture. 
Geek Social Fallacy #3: Friendship Before All
I’m not really arguing with this one as a common problem within geek space.  I do wish analysis of it would go further, because I feel there’s often an active codependent or enabling/co-addictive process. People really do get addicted to fantasy based stuff, and to video games, and to media. Even addiction specialists acknowledge this. But there are very few people doing analysis of addictive dynamics, anti-recovery, or enabling within geek/nerd space. One of the problems is that this is really pervasive in geek/nerd space and it’s almost impossible to get away from unless you completely quit geek/nerd space altogether, at least for a while. The thing is, many cases of “Friendship Before All” aren’t necessarily that the person has a broad feeling of this, as much as it reflects a specific codependent or co-addictive relationships within the group. (The fallacy I keep seeing here is again the assumption that geeks don’t have social agency, or specific social choices.) Some geeky spaces can even get into folie a deux dynamics or cult dynamics. 
The problem I had dealing with maladaptive daydreaming (which is often seen as addiction-adjacent) was that geek culture, especially tabletop gaming, was actively reinforcing it, and I actively needed to get away from that group for a while to get a handle on the maladaptive daydreaming that was taking over my life. The thing I needed to NOT do was be around people who obsessively daydreamed about their “ships,” or in any space that encouraged me to spend ten hours a day daydreaming about my RP characters. (I do RP again, but only because I’m in a space where it doesn’t take over my life.)
I had a couple of uncomfortably intense friendships that were as enmeshed as they were because they were based around us sharing the fantasy lives that neither of us could share with other people, let alone reveal to the world, and because we enabled each other’s bad escapist tendencies.
Geek Social Fallacy #4: Friendship Is Transitive
Every carrier of GSF4 has, at some point, said:“Wouldn’t it be great to get all my groups of friends into one place for one big happy party?!"If you groaned at that last paragraph, you may be a recovering GSF4 carrier.GSF4 is the belief that any two of your friends ought to be friends with each other, and if they’re not, something is Very Wrong.
I won’t say I’ve never seen this, but in a lot of cases, I don’t think it’s anything but the behavior of *young and socially inexperienced* people in general. It also assumes that we are talking a group of people who are all potential in-group and none of whom are ever one-down or on the business end of bias. It assumes that geeks never compartmentalize their friends, which is wrong - lots of us do, especially if we’re social climbers (which lots of geeks/nerds are and won’t admit it). (Let’s be honest, would YOU really introduce everyone you have ever gamed with, to the people at your staid/conservative job that you’re trying to get promoted at?)
GSF4 ignores the phenomenon of gatekeeping.  If you’re ever the person on the other end of gatekeeping of any kind, you certainly don’t experience every geek wanting to introduce you to all of their friends. It’s another case where I feel like the author’s viewpoint is just too narrow and that their generalizations are based upon a small set of people who are themselves always the gatekeepers.
Geek Social Fallacy #5: Friends Do Everything Together
GSF5, put simply, maintains that every friend in a circle should be included in every activity to the full extent possible. This is subtly different from GSF1; GSF1 requires that no one, friend or not, be excluded, while GSF5 requires that every friend be invited. This means that to a GSF5 carrier, not being invited to something is intrinsically a snub, and will be responded to as such.
This is another case that tries to oversimplify and lump multiple kinds of situations in geek/nerd space into one Grand Unified Field Theory: experience of *young* social spaces, experience of structural bias/gatekeeping, individual neediness (or projections coming from same) that also happens outside of geek spaces, and dynamics that happen with lots of subcultural spaces.
The biggest issue I have with the author’s analysis is about the structural bias, because GSF5 totally ignores 
ignores the existence of bias and structural stuff in geek/nerd spaces. And I don’t deny that GSF5 actually exists, but it has to be analyzed intersectionally. In adult spaces, I feel like I’ve seen people more often accused of some form of GSF5 to gaslight them about elitism, than I’ve seen actually being carriers of GSF5. 
I mean, what if you *are* being excluded and everyone around you is saying “don’t be silly, we don’t exclude people?” What if it *is* a snub and you’re told you’re imagining things? What if you’re actually not being invited to the thing?
There *is* an issue in geek space where individual cliques of friends intersect with larger groups, and friends-of-friends, and friends-of-friends-of-friends. But plenty of geeks just associate with their specific cliques.
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Building Relationship in Your Pop Practice: Ideas #1
Working with a Pop Pantheon? A few useful ideas. [Not all are mine, but I wanted to share these cause they are useful!]
Develop a relationship with the entity you are working with by keeping a journal to them, either hardback or electronic. Write to them daily; ask how they are; tell them about your thoughts; ask for their assistance or approval on different projects.
Think of times when it’s hard to focus your energy. When you’re sick, anxious, frustrated at work, on your period, have a headache or migraine, etc. Develop methods of dealing with these issues via your pop pantheon. See what entity or ritual you can make work for you.
Everyone has preferences, so to do your pantheon. Learn what they like as offerings for daily practice, simple things from your home. I share coffee daily; it is something my whole household loves and cant get started without and it is fresh brewed and given from our own table. Including these beings into your daily life can help strengthen your relationship with them.
In a home with little understanding of your path? Can’t set up an altar, keep a book of shadows, or otherwise give offerings or observances? Sit down to watch your pantheon on Netflix, play their game, or read their book. This can be an offering, observance of faith or fealty, or even a ritual in and of itself. 
~popcultureandrogyne
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thehyperromantic · 6 years ago
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I wanna make a masterlist of lgbt+ witches on tumblr
so reblog this if you are a witch and are lgbt+ pls!
alsoi wanna follow all of you
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thehyperromantic · 6 years ago
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Please rb this if you’re a witch?
Especially if you:
🌻 are not Wiccan
🌻 are a green witch
🌻 are a kitchen witch
🌻 are a lunar/solar witch
🌻 are a pop culture witch
🌻 are LGBTQ+
🌻 do divination
🌻 do tarot
🌻 are looking for more witchy pals
🌻 like musicals
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thehyperromantic · 6 years ago
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Reading A Candle
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Watch your candles closely and learn to read them to help you with your practice.
The Flame
A strong flame: It means that your energies are raised. There is a lot of power behind your spell and little to no resistance. Indicates that all your power and energy is focused on your manifestation. This is a good sign. If a candle shaped into a figure is used and has a strong flame it means that whoever it represents is either angry, winning, or using authority over another. When their are two figures the candle with the higher flame has authority over the other person.   
A weak flame: Indicates that the magick you cast is facing a heavy opposition and is a sign that you may need to recast your spell in order to overcome the opposing force. On a figure candle this may indicate that the representative may be loosing a battle or an argument. 
A jumping flame: This indicates strong emotions. There may also be some sort of resistance against you. Maybe close your circle and bring your mind back to focus before continuing. It may also mean an explosion of energy. When two figure candles are being used it often means that an energetic or a heated argument is taking place between them.  
A noisy candle: Indicates a conversation. It may may that a spirit is trying to send you a message or get in contact with you. The louder the noises get the more urgent communication must be. 
The flame catches something on fire: Someone one may be using malicious magick against you.  
A clean even burning candle: Means your spell and manifestations are likely to come true.
Fast Burn: The results of your spell will happen quickly.
Flickering Flame: If there is no breeze then it means a spirit is near by. If it is a devotional flame it means you were able to get in contact with your deity.
Cannot blow the flame out: A spirit may not be finished its conversation with you or you did not complete a spell. The spirit needs to complete its work, something may be may in the works that you do not want to interrupt. 
A flame goes out while burning: This means the spirits cannot help you and the answer you seek is already determined.  
The Smoke
Black smoke/soot: Your energy and magick is being blocked. Negative energy is being sent your way, whether as a curse or hex. You may soon be faced with tough challenges and a hard road ahead of you. 
Smoke wafts towards you: It means your call will likely be answered or your spell has been cast successfully. You will get results quickly.
Smoke wafts away from you: You must work harder in order for your calls to be answered.
Watch the direction the smoke wafts: East - Something powerful is assisting you, North - You are ready to begin your ritual and get results, South - The spell will be successful, West - A powerful interference from an outside force.
Smoking Candle: Negative energy is being burned away.
The Wax
When a candle leaves wax residue: Your spell may need to be repeated.
Look for symbols in the candle wax, like reading tea leaves.
Resources: askanthony.weebly.com, anamericanwitch.wordpress.com,   
May the Moon light you path!
☾ Moonlight Academy ☽ 
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thehyperromantic · 6 years ago
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me: *knows about the full moon for literally weeks but doesn’t prepare or plan anything in all that time*
me, a witch, 8h before the event:
let’s get this party started ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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No one:
Absolutely no one:
Not a soul:
Me:
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Giratina on a string
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Predator in the Occult Community
There’s a guy out there preying on young women, nonbinary individuals, and pre-transition trans men in the spiritual community and I think you guys should be aware of him. He says that he’s Sammael incarnate and tries to tell girls that they’re Babalon. He has done it to quite a few girls as well as me when I was 19.
He says that he and his victim have been bound to each other for centuries. He claims that in order to end “The Game” his victim must have a child with him. I have no idea what this “Game” is but it has something to do with Sammael and Babalon ending the world. Even if you protest this identity he assigns to you, he will continuously impose his beliefs onto you. If you argue with him, he will call you “silly” or “stupid” along with misogynistic slurs. He’ll throw a temper tantrum and say that you will eventually be his in another life.
He is in his early 40s and seems to pick out young women who are vulnerable, mentally ill, and have identity issues. He is extremely misogynistic and should be avoided at all costs.
He is also transphobic. At the time, I used they/them pronouns, but he refused to use them even after my friend and I corrected him. He used she/her to refer to me because he sees the “Babalon” identity as female.
He told me a story about how his past girlfriend was Lilith incarnate, but Lilith’s spirit left his girlfriend’s body after she broke up with him. Apparently Lilith left to search for a “better” incarnation. (In other words, if he is rejected, you’re suddenly no longer the incarnate spirit he was looking for.)
I don’t want to write his url here, but if you would like to message me for it, I will tell you.
I would really appreciate it if people in the community would reblog this. This man is a predator and a threat to young women, non-binary individuals, and pre-transition trans men.
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thehyperromantic · 6 years ago
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stop using your autism crutch when you piss people off. They have a right to be angry at you, even if you have ~autism~ wanker
Not sure what this is in response to, but I don't use it as a crutch. Mental disabilities can piss other people off. If someone has anger issues and punches me, expect me to punch back, even if I understand that they have low self control.
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it fucks me up that tolkien only died in 1973. dude has the vibe of a victorian scholar who wrote all his manuscripts by candlelight but then you look him up and realise that he knew what color tv was. what the fuck.
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“For The Plot,” I whisper, deleting a rad detail that no longer works as tears fall from my eyes
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Anything’s better than the 1450s
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