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you guys gotta stop deactivating your blogs cause you're making it harder for me to go back in a reblog chain to remove the annoying additions

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I have thought about reblogging this post several times. But then I remember that my advisor was once accused of being a monarchist for writing a book about a monarchy that doesn't say "it was awful, terrible, and oppressive."

I'm not sure I trust people to understand what is and isn't royalism.

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"You wearing a collar in public is bad cuz I didn't consent" you wearing a bracelet in public is bad cuz I didn't consent to it.

Yall don't really have a right to consent to other peoples clothes.

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No wonder I overheat so easily!

Benadryl is on there too, so my allergies are extra not helping. 😣

Just a little PSA for all our mental health (and chronic pain*) spoonies out there! A lot of doctors neglect to mention this little side effect, which means a lot of us are suffering extra from the heat without knowing why.

*Many psych meds are used to treat chronic pain as well, if you didn’t know!

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"butches and transmascs have male privilege" but i have felt like a threat to women since i was in elementary school and existing in my own body around girls feels like harassment

"butches and transmascs have male privilege" but the only partner i had when i identified a binary trans man made me detransition and wanted to get me pregnant to make me his "tradwife"

"butches and transmascs have male privilege" but i have to spend months looking for one doctor who's not going to prescribe me birth control as a "fix" to my hyperandrogenism and i have to explain to them why an afab person would ever want to take testosterone in the first place because they have no idea that transmascs are a thing

"butches and transmascs have male privilege" but i have to sit and listen to the queer community talk about how trans men are men and forget about the "trans" part of it, barring us from representation and validation unless we prove them we have the cisperihet masculinity they expect of us, just to condemn it as repulsive right after

"butches and transmascs have male privilege" but everytime you look up resources for trans people it's almost always targeted towards transfems and instead of receiving support and mutual aid we're told that we're not relevant in the community

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Post I just saw made me think of this again: Wei Wuxian does not have self-esteem issues.

He thinks he's amazing, because he is.

His sense of his own value is a little fucked up, and tied up in demonstrating how amazing he is by fixing all serious problems and mocking all stupid ones, and when his methods stop working and he can no longer prove this to his own satisfaction he has a profound crisis about it, which he's still shaking off when we meet him.

But self-esteem is super very much not a thing he struggles with. He is a genius who received regular validation about his excellence in a form that satisfied him both as very a small child and from the ages of ~8 to ~17. He has a clear system of ethics which he is most of the time able and willing to act on; he feels really good about himself as a person whenever severe trauma is not actively making that very hard to do.

His default state is obnoxiously high self-esteem.

In-story accusations of arrogance are strictly speaking correct, it's just that most of the inferences about the rest of his character people draw from this trait are deeply wrong.

His willingness to self-destruct is at least as heavily wrapped up in his conviction that because he's so awesome and tough and clever he can handle things other people can't, as it is in the idea that he's disposable.

So yeah the thing is. He really genuinely actually did sacrifice himself for Jiang Cheng in part because he thinks he's better than Jiang Cheng. Stronger, braver, smarter. More adaptable.

And he was right! And Jiang Cheng knows he was right!

Which I love because like. That's not a relationship conflict you can fix, exactly. You really do have to just...get over it, or don't. And one of the things Wei Wuxian was demonstrating his (well-founded) lack of faith in Jiang Cheng's ability to do was. Getting Over Things.

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I don't care if this is real or not, i want this to be known as "having a rowling"

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Snake boy

(via)

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Too many people will pass around "always trust your gut!" and "your intuition never lies" content when actually your "intuition" isn't immune to either propaganda, bigotry or trauma reactions. Which is important to be aware of actually

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they’ll call her a villain for the most sane view of thinking children should stay alive and be with their families. i love you ms rachel

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so i wore a pride flag pin to work the other day and the kids were all interested (obviously) (find me a classroom of preschoolers who are not obsessed with rainbows) (i'll wait) so they crowded around to see.

"aww!" they said, "it's a flag!!"

but the thing is: they're little. a lot of them don't really have a handle on all their mouth sounds yet.

such as, notably, that tricky tricky "L" sound.

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Hooray! Yay! Dykes!

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I was thinking about how I have grown to value mandatory voting over a system that allows allegedly more freedom. Because in country, mandatory voting means I just have to send in a ballot. It can be empty or filled with the write in ballot "pickle farts" if I want.

If I go to the voting station all I have to do is get my name checked off. I don't have to vote if I don't want to.

But it means it is much more difficult for the government to try and suppress voters. Because voters have a legal obligation to go to the polls, so you can't restrict them or try tactics to dissuade them.

Voting polls are open long hours with access to food and water being a fairly standard staple. You don't need any form of ID, you have to be given time to go vote in work hours without penalty if you cannot do it after work hours.

Every now and then a politician tries some small way of voter suppression but it isn't as easy. And so I have learned to appreciate it.

But when I googled, out of curiosity, if the USA had ever had anything like that I was met with a barrage of websites talking about freedom and justice and the absolute liberty of Americans. I thought an eagle was going to bust out of the screen.

Going through some of these I noticed they were think tanks connected to billionaires, one of them was funded and created by the Koch brothers.

Gotta love how often the American "freedom" is actually used as a way to further deny actual freedoms, both linguistically and politically.

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I think everyone who complains about the existence of queer people in comics should read this letter to the editor in a Green Arrow 1988 comic and shut the fuck up

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damn people rly hate type 2 diabetics don't they