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can 2024 be the year we stop calling stay-at-home moms stupid for being ‘financially dependent’ and risking being trapped in abusive relationships, and instead start addressing why there are no social safety nets in place for people who choose to leave the workforce to raise their children

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STOP. guilting. women. for. wanting. to. get. married. to. men. and. raise. children.

every relationship has a risk, let women be themselves, and learn from their mistakes if they even happen.

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I think housedresses are a thing we need to bring back in a major way. Flowy, loose dresses are so comfortable and great for house chores. I also am of the opinion that if you take time for yourself to look good, you are more productive, happier, and confident. You also don't even need to do much to look put together, just wear a dress and put your hair in a ponytail and you look great. Also, almost all of my housedresses from the 50s-70s contain pockets.

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Traditional femininity is empowering. There is strength in being soft, beauty in being kind, and peace in being soft spoken and humble.

Feminine women add to the world by building up a sense of community and fostering safe and comfortable homes in those communities.

It’s not humiliating to be a traditionally feminine woman.

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if you are a woman who wants to be a wife and a mother its actually important that the man you say yes to date, be in a relationship with, and marry actually has skills, resources, and drive. its important that he is honorable and his actions show it. its important he is *actually,* not just conceptually, capable of making a life for you both and any children. him just wanting to be with you, or worse - simply agreeing to be with you....is not enough. that is the ground level. please do better!

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Howl's Moving Castle dir. Hayao Miyazaki | 2004

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A masculine man is different than an abusive man

The abusive men is the one that uses his strength and resources for his own benefit and in detriment of others well being.

The masculine man is the one that knows he’s capable of using his strength in a selfish way but chooses to use his potency to benefit others even if he has something to loose with it

For example the owner of a company could worry only about profits but chooses to be at service for people for a greater purpose

For example a husband that instead of demeaning his wife to make himself feel more powerful chooses to offer his best to her

A masculine man understand that he leads when he has the trust of others not when he subjugates and threatens them

One thing is having control, another is having respect

The abusive man rules through fear, the masculine man rules through admiration

We sometimes hear people saying that traditional gender roles breeds abusive men but this can’t be further from the truth. The truly abusive man is the one who’s aggressive and impose his presence through fear is not a true representation of the “patriarchy” - that is a violent and uncontrolled man that doesn’t even deserve the presence of a woman in his life. A man that is violent with his family should and deserves to be in jail

Our civilization got to where it is being conducted by strong and mature men that took care of their women and took their kids to the world so their offspring could expand. This is the true “patriarchy” and there is nothing wrong with it.

It’s just a man fulfilling his duty… providing, protecting and leading his family.

That is the masculine man, a man that acts according to his essence

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Reminder that it’s STILL CHRISTMAS so if you want to listen to carols on repeat or pray the Joyful Mysteries all week or have rum cake for dinner, it’s all well within your rights to

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I want my kids to see how much their father and I love each other.

I want them to see us share random kisses in the kitchen. I want them to see how excited I am when he walks through the door. I want them to see us always holding hands in public. I want them to see us slow dancing in the kitchen in our pajamas late at night. I want them to know that no matter what, they will always have the stability of mom and dad loving each other. Even though in their young brains they'll think it's gross how affectionate we are, I hope they'll carry on those memories and use us as an example of madly loving your spouse no matter what.

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Wanting a man to provide for you doesn’t mean you’re incapable. Of course you’re capable. But it’s nice to have someone help you and take of you. That doesn’t mean you can’t do those things yourself. That just means someone loves you enough to make your life that bit easier <3

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Something I enjoy about my marriage:

My husband actively pushes me to have a life outside our house. I want to go swimming and workout? Fantastic, let him know how much dues are for the gym. I went on a walk? He wants pictures, where did I go, what did I see! I want to join a church group? Absolutely!

He sees me more than just someone to be kept at home. He sees me as whole person with wants and needs. That is more than I could ever ask for. 💕

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“[insert aspect of Christian holiday] has PAGAN ROOTS 😱”

yeah and St. Paul had killing-Christians-roots lol. we baptized him, we baptized your pagan traditions, we’ll baptize you too

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