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“I have to believe that caring for myself is not self indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival.”

— Audre Lorde (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

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why is seeing my full body in photos and professional shots so fucking triggering

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starring in an iraq war shoot and cry in the year 2025… absolute fucking loser behavior. i think none these dudes should ever get to be in front of a camera ever again. a24 marketing this shit like a goddamn boyband film is straight up evil

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"the new pope is problematic" well folks it's the catholic fucking church so im not really sure where your hopes were at

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EXTREMELY rare w from the uk media

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seeking for any comforting things to read around death and losing a loved one. My grandad's at his last stage of life at this point, has been at hospital for over a week. I spent 4 hours with him at hospital today and it was so difficult seeing him in a state of confusion and agitation, he constantly wants to get up eat and drink as normal his mind is still very much how it was before he got seriously ill. It's so hard seeing him like this when his normal self has always been so independent, always sticking to his routine and the efficiency of doing tasks. I've accepted he won't be with us for much longer, but it's this period of watching him still have so much willpower to live mentally is the most heartbreaking thing ever.

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My grandad has been in critical condition the past couple of days, and whether he will pull through is still very unpredictable and shaky right now. Naturally it's been making us as a family think a lot about him and our memories with him and I find myself thinking a lot about my role as the grandchild and grandaughter who stayed with him the most, and as his health slowly has been deteriorating over the last 6 years, how said role became more and more apparent. I've been thinking a lot about south asian cultural expectations, unspoken duties and labour always falling onto the women in the family, to the child or grandchild who can speak better english, ask the right questions, keeping it together emotionally for the sake of other family members, who knows what to do in situations of crisis and must be able to respond in action because no one else can.

I've just been ruminating on a lot of different things, and it's a weird mix of sadness and pride but also guilt and frustration at the fact that I've been unable to see something different in my family when it comes to gender roles, and just how low the bar was for the men in the family to do things differently (because all men from the maternal line have all been fucking atrocious according to the elder women in the family). My aunt was talking about how involved my grandfather was with raising her and my mum and uncle as kids, how much he did for them, and although for her this is an incredibly cherished quality about her dad and is very valid, especially because we're used to expecting fathers in traditionally patriarchal roles to do the opposite, I really couldn't help but feel sad that this is what the exception looks like for a lot of brown women. I'm almost like frustrated that this is the "rare golden standard" that the women in my family praise in a man. My cousin's wife similarly explained how my cousin is like my grandad, in that he's equally very involved with their newborn baby and does everything with her, but again this is what we should be expecting father's to do for their children with their partner. I think the irony is although my grandad is an incredible man I won't deny that he also lost a lot of his sense of self to duties and roles as the eldest of 7 siblings once his mother passed away and has only ever known to be this way due to his circumstances and experience of taking on a parental role at such a young age. So I just feel sad and guilt for him too and idk it just feels so complex. I wish he didn't isolate himself and stayed in touch with friends and had other social groups, and didn't make family the only thing to depend on. I wish he never felt the need to avoid being an inconvenience to anyone, or make himself small throughout his life when it came to jobs and careers, because I see myself in him too. He did what he needed to in order to just survive as an immigrant, but even so his experiences and stories he often shares with us show that his life was still incredibly rich compared to mine.

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can i please see a fat woman wearing it. yes, i know your sizes go all the way up to 5x. but can i please see a fat woman wearing it. yes, i heard you're woman-owned. can i please see a fat woman wearing it though. yes, i understand you donate 50% of proceeds to this charity. i still do not see a fat woman wearing it. can i please see a fat woman wearing it.

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did you know that you can just not say something if you're white. you can just not talk. its okay. you dont have to write a paragraph worth of tags justifying why the reason you don't like rap 'isn't racist'. you dont have to apologize for being white. you can just not say anything and save yourself the humiliation. its alright. please take your hands off the keyboard

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Help a young dad of two toddlers in غaza! 🌸

🌱 For a year I’ve been in contact with H, a young dad who is doing his best to keep his two toddlers alive after the destruction of their home.

🌱 H is a delightful, shy, sweet person, who always sends me the latest about his adorable little ones, updates on his family’s wellbeing, and, on Fridays, his prayers for my health.

🌱 They are terrified but persisting in hope. After months in a crowded tent, your support got them medical treatment after a life-threatening injury; food and supplies; and some shelter in an apartment, which has been crucial to their survival, especially protecting the kids from hypothermia and the whole family through numerous illnesses and medical emergencies.

Your help has truly saved this family more than once. Our task is simple—keeping this sweet family housed another month.

H’s family has requested privacy regarding their names & images and has requested I handle raising funds for them. I send all funds directly to them (and cover any fees myself). You can see all donations and my transactions to them in the doc below.

💚 pp: divyamper, ref “H”

💚 public accountability doc: tiny.cc/HelpH

£7/300

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The Israeli occupation killed my close friend three days ago. The Israeli occupation killed him, his twin children, and his wife. It killed his entire family. I cannot believe that I buried him and his children with my own hands. I never imagined that I would live through this day. They were erased from the civil registry in seconds. Please, I don’t want this to happen to me and my family. We want to get out of here as soon as possible. Please donate and help us get out of Gaza.

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If there truly was an Israeli Left, the military bases in the settler colony would have been burnt down by now. What tanks would have entered Gaza if the tanks were destroyed beforehand. Israeli Left is a shit phrase.

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Desperate Plea: A Call For Relife‼️ 🥀

🍉🍉🍉 We are currently at ���14,955 out of €2000 first goal - please consider donating to my Ezzdeen and helping us reach our goal as quickly as possible‼️

✅Vetted by @gazavetters, my number verified on the list is ( #291 ) ✅

I want you to know that my ezzdeen is very picky in his food, and now he is suffering from huge weight loss, because of the crazy expensive prices for the food, so that we can't afford to buy what he accepts, without you ezz will not regain his health.

We needs your support more than ever, the daily costs of living, the expensive treatments, I hope that through your support I can reach safety with my family.

Please Take Action Now‼️

GFM Donations Link Here 🍉🇵🇸

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ceasefire today, accountability from tomorrow until the end of time. all my love to the steadfast people and martyrs of gaza