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It would be so great to not be insecure anymore....

I always thought that there was something intrinsically wrong with me. Sometimes, it felt like everything was wrong with me, but now I’m realizing that it’s not me, but instead, my attitude. I’ve been surrounded by very strong and confident people and I love seeing people grow into their skins and embrace who they are and what they have to offer. I really wish I had that ability though. I can’t even imagine what a confident version of myself would look like. I really wish I could though. I know I’m making small steps towards that end image but I’m still very far away from it and it makes me sad seeing all the work I have left.

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Say it again, for the people in the back!

those little things on ur nose aren’t blackheads, don’t try and get rid of them they’re sebaceous filaments and they’re permanent and literally everyone has them

every girl has that little pouch of fat on her lower tummy, despite what magazines try n show u, you have important organs there that need to be protected don’t try and get rid of ur pouch

ur body is smarter than u think and it knows what to do when u eat more than normal. one bad day, or even week, of eating poorly isn’t gonna ruin anything at all I pinky promise

if u think u look good up until u try taking a selfie, it’s not ur fault - our faces are asymmetrical and when u see ur face flipped it will look unnatural to u, since u don’t see it that way when u look in the mirror. to everyone else it looks perfectly fine

no one’s stomach looks the same at 8pm as it does at 8am. no one has a chiseled six pack after a day of eating, not even the super fit people u see on tumblr, because ur stomach naturally expands after eating and expecting to have a flat tummy before bed is very unrealistic

no one notices if the bags under ur eyes are bad today. no one pays attention to the bump in ur nose or the zit on ur chin or the piece of hair that u missed when u were straightening. literally no one notices these things except you so stop worrying about it ur gonna be fine

sometimes u just gotta get over urself

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Young men need to be socialized in such a way that rape is as unthinkable to them as cannibalism.

Mary Pipher (via quotemadness)

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Anonymously tell me what pain is worth suffering for.

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Never neglect yourself for even a second. I hope you find this helpful. There should be something for everyone here.

Relaxation

a hot bath with salts and candles

gentle stretching

closing your eyes and being quiet for a few minutes

chamomile or peppermint or jasmine tea

Social

call a close friend & chat about nothing in particular

write a letter or postcard (I’m talking snail mail)

write that email you’ve been putting off

unplug yourself from social media for a bit

go out for coffee or tea with a pal

Organization

make a to-do list for when you’re feeling better

set priorities so as not to overwhelm yourself

clear off your workspace for when you’re ready

clean out your closet and/or drawers

sort through your papers for school

Body

try some yoga poses (learn some from youtube)

go for a walk, long or short, just so long as your heart gets pumping

play outside with your dog if you’re lucky enough to have one

somersaults, jumping jacks, push ups, cartwheels, etc.

dance vigorously to your favorite music

Skincare & hair care

please try a face mask (heavenly)

use that bath bomb you’ve been saving

moisturize your body with a lovely smelling lotion

look up a recipe for a homemade hair mask

learn a new hairstyle from youtube or pinterest

Beauty

remind yourself that you are beautiful, always have been, always will be

give yourself a mani-pedi (try fun colors!)

do your makeup as if you’re going out, just to feel glamorous

treat yourself to something small, like a new mascara or lipstick

get a free makeover from a store like sephora

Mental health

if applicable, make sure you take your meds. always.

curb the negative self talk as much as possible

get it all out in morning pages or a journal

find a counselor through your university or healthcare network

just share what you’re going through with someone, anyone

Schoolwork

you will feel better if you get at least one thing done, just a small thing

make a list of all the assignments you have to do then put it out of sight for a while

call a friend or contact a classmate if you need help (or your teacher/professor)

get some new stationery, even just one pen to make you smile

refresh your organizational system, to start over

Food

bake something for yourself or someone you know’s favorite dessert

bite into a crisp apple

avoid mindless snacking so you don’t regret it later

but you can indulge a little in your favorites

eat fresh, home-cooked meals

Drink

herbal tea and fruit tea (nature’s tranquilizers)

water infused with lemon or cucumber

fresh juice

never underestimate a big cold glass of water

avoid alcohol because it is a depressant

Entertainment

put on a favorite (preferably funny) movie or show

put on your favorite music or soundtrack

reread a favorite book

find a new book at the library you just can’t put down

walk around or go about the house listening to an audiobook

De-clutter

delete apps you no longer use

organize your digital files

donate clothes that don’t fit or you haven’t worn in 6 months

go through your belongings and ask if something really brings you joy

purge your fridge of uneaten foods and condiments

Environment

if you have them, diffuse some essential oils (lavender and chamomile)

get into a fresh headspace by changing your locale (the library, a coffee shop, etc)

light some candles

use soft, warm lighting

spruce up your space with some low-maintenance plant friends (succulents)

Cleaning

make your bed

do a load of laundry

change your sheets (they will feel crisp and awesome when you go to bed)

sweep the floor

do a quickly wipe down of counters

Comfort

put on a fluffy rope or a roomy hoodie

slippers or big fuzzy socks

pants with an elastic waist  

perch yourself on the couch or snuggle in bed

deep breaths

Hygiene

wash your face

shower

wash your feet (if you can’t bring yourself to shower)

change your underwear

put on an outfit that makes you feel like a warrior

Day trips

the lake

the beach

a hiking trail

museum (don’t forget your student discount!)

a new part of town you’ve never explored

Miscellaneous

learn a new skill

start studying a new language (like you’ve been meaning to)

take a twenty minute nap

practice gratitude

play a video game

Things not to underestimate

hugs

hearing “I love you”

saying “I love you”

cuddling with a pet

alone time

Things to remember

you are not alone

you are loved

you will get through the worst you could imagine

this is all temporary

I believe in you

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#LOAThursday

The 7 Step Process To Manifesting Your Dreams

1. Intention - decide what you want. The first step is to look within and understand what we’re seeking and why. Once we know what we’re seeking we can make it the central focus of our lives - our intention. If peace of mind is our intention we will be able to discern what does & does not align with this and act accordingly.

2. Visualisation - build a clear picture of what it looks like. Adding details to the picture in our heads is a great way to aid the manifestation process. We can also use visualisation exercises to add finer details - what are the smells, tastes, sounds and sights associated with the life we seek to create? This will make it seem more realistic than just a far away dream that may never come to be.

3. Alignment - match your thoughts & beliefs to the goal. The first step to achieving anything is believing that it can be done - we need to become aware of any limiting beliefs or thought patterns that may be mentally or physically blocking that which we’re trying to manifest.

4. Actions - take action every single day. If the dream is to have a fit, healthy and functioning body we must make sure that our daily actions match the goal. We need to eat, sleep and exercise in a way that will help the manifestation process, when our actions and thoughts are aligned we become unstoppable.

5. Focus - block out the distractions. Anything that doesn’t exist in the dream life must be removed today and done so unapologetically. Whether that’s negative people, dysfunctional behaviour or negative ways of thinking - we need to prioritise our dreams if we want them to become reality.

6. Gratitude - be thankful for what you already have. When we become grateful for the good things in our lives we are moving into the abundance mindset, this is essential for manifestations because we attract what we are. If we start “wanting” instead of being thankful for having we begin to embody the scarcity mindset and this attracts more scarcity.

7. Manifestation - watch out for the signs. When we change our thoughts and actions to align with our dreams we will notice our environments changing. People, places and things we used to resonate with will naturally filter out to make room for what we are attracting. We cannot embrace the new whilst still holding on to the old.

We attract what we are, not what we want.

Peace & positive vibes.

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Death and taxes

Reposted from a friend:

Henry vomited in his sleep at 1:30am. He came upstairs crying to tell us. After Michael and I cleaned up his bed and threw his comforter and his security blanket into the washer, wiped the chunks of the carrots he ate eight hours ago off of the wall behind his bed, and moved him to another bed, I checked my phone to see the status of the tax bill.

I have been praying all year for God to soften my heart. I’ve asked Him over and over again to take away the bitterness and the anger. And with each health care victory, I felt a little ease. But tonight - tonight, all that bitterness and anger has come rushing back.

Pro-lifers, check your Bible. Your vote just put money into the hands of the rich at the expense of the poor. Your vote just took health care away from 13 million people. Your vote just put Medicaid on the chopping block, risking the lives of millions of children, low-income families, and people with disabilities all across the country.

In addition to that, we are 30 days without CHIP funding. The Republican party thought giving tax breaks to corporations and the wealthy was a higher priority than giving health care to CHILDREN.

I ask you, “What would Jesus do?”

You can call your anti-poor, anti-sick, anti-child ideals, “pro-life.” You can pretend to hide your disgust for the poor and your discrimination of the sick and your homophobia and your racism behind your religion. But you can’t hide from us.

We see you.

You OWN this. This is yours. Every single one of you who voted Republican in 2016. You did this. All the people who are about to suffer when the budget has to cut LIHEAP and education and Medicaid and Medicare to pay for this tax plan and people weep for their families, it will be your fault.

We believe in the power of prayer in my home. We pray daily, and it gives us strength to get through the day. But we also believe in helping the less fortunate through means other than prayer. We believe in fighting for those who cannot fight for themselves. We believe that our actions are just as important as our prayers.

In a few weeks, I’ll post a photo of Henry from his hospital bed, before the procedure he will be having. If you voted for Donald Trump, do me a favor: Don’t send Henry your thoughts and prayers. They won’t mean much coming from anyone who voted to take his health care away. They won’t mean anything coming from anyone who doesn’t really care if he lives or dies.

If you voted for Donald Trump, if you support a Congress that puts the wants of the wealthy over the needs of the sick, there is no need to send your thoughts and prayers to Henry. You should probably save those thoughts and prayers for your own soul.

You’re going to need them.

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on my first date with happiness, i decided i had enough of oversized black tshirts and loose black jeans so i threw on a yellow sundress, which i found after passing through my closet like a raging hurricane; as always, i was running late. on my first date with happiness, i decided i was going to let her fall in love with my natural self so i put down my concealer, mascara, lipstick and eyeliner. and i ornament myself with rings and necklaces, a spray of flowery, sweet perfume. on my first date with happiness, i decided i was going to let her in so i told her my everything, i was afraid, of course but i knew i would have to, at least, give her a chance to get to know me, i would have to give my tired self a chance to stop being a fucking liar. on my first date with happiness, i said: “hey, my name is sadness. but i want to learn to be happy again.” on my first date with happiness, i let a little bit of life reach my insides after a whole long time of having myself against myself.

on my first date with happiness. (via sunsetico)

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Might not be the prettiest buddha bowl but this is reality most of the time. Always carbs (like quinoa or sweet potato), pumpkin, protein (beans/tofu/tempeh), fats (avo/tahini) and veggies and greens (ALOT). I look forward to eating these nourishing bowls every day. Eat the food you love and your body will love you back🙏🏼(Okay, maybe too many oreos and vegan cake will not love you back but you get the memo😜)

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Yesterday my dad told me something that I think maybe more people need to hear.

You’re allowed to just do things for fun.

He told me that in this modern society, especially the United States, we seem to have this attitude that we shouldn’t do something unless we’re aiming to be the best at it. If we can’t sing like Beyonce or Frank Sinatra or something there’s no point to singing. If we can’t make the next big breakthrough there’s no point in looking into mechanics and engineering.

But, he tells me, it took him a long time to figure out that life doesn’t have to be a race. If you want to take up the piano when you’re a teenager or later you’re not going to master it. You’re not going to be able to play to huge concert halls, but that also shouldn’t stop you. You can study a language out of curiosity and then drop the ball if you want. You can just get okay at something or even be terrible at it. You can drop it for days or years and then pick it up again and it doesn’t have to be a shameful thing.

I’m really glad he told me that because today I opened my sketchpad for the first time in months and just started drawing. And it looks terrible. But I don’t care. I don’t have the talent or patience or spacial awareness to get anywhere near good at drawing, but it’s fun. It helps me focus my mind and nobody has to see it.

And because of what he told me, I’m thinking maybe someday soon I will take up the bass guitar. And I won’t worry about how well I do, or how fast I learn, or that I haven’t played an instrument since sixth grade, or that I don’t have that much time to practice. I’m just gonna enjoy the experience. Maybe I’ll try swing dancing again and take a class because I’m not the best dancer but damn if it isn’t fun.

Yeah, you don’t have to be good at things. It’s not a requirement. Maybe that seems obvious but it had never occurred to me before. You’re allowed to just enjoy what you’re doing. For me, that feels like a life changing revelation. I don’t have to be good at something to like it. I don’t have to put 100% effort into everything I do. It’s kind of amazing.

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playlists for different moods

😰 stressed 

soothing a stressful mind

pandoras box

when you’re stressed, depressed, or just mess

caalllmm down

locked in your room

active brain, tired body

sad & stressed

stressed and depressed

nothing can hurt you

stressed, depressed and not even well-dressed

😠 angry 

i didn’t come to talk

you think i need you but i dont

teenage angst tones

ivy’s list

there will be no tenderness

cleanse me from thy idiocy

we are the children that fell from grace

😞 sad 

mythology of the earth

love songs for those who feel unloved

sad

where do broken hearts go?

you’re not mine and i’m not yours

the love letter you never sent

there’s stardust in your veins..

i’m gone and you’re still there

you must be my once in a lifetime

just breathe

don’t pull me under to drown

you’re gone and i want you back

sad sleepy songs 

soothing

😴 sleepy

to live is the rarest thing;

for those days

she has constellations written on her skin

and i waited all night for you to come, but you never did

sleep……

to the stars who i listen, and the dreams that are answered

the world is a book..

once upon a dream

i dream of far off lands

relaxed and in love

study/sleep

the sound of serenity

amazing classics;

breathe me in

rain makes most things better

time to hit the pillows

😛 energetic

this right here is my type of party

give everything or die trying

the ultimate kpop workout

yoga flow

the only exercise playlist you’ll ever need

sweat it out

may the bass be with you

instrumental caffeine

train hard (edm edition)

for your first and only time in the gym

don´t listen to this, because you have no guts

you can do it!

i can and i will

warrior tracks

😌 calm 

breathe

sleep by rivers

the sound of serenity

for those days

just a light year from us

fragmentary self

a long misty road

01. relax

mythology of the earth

bedridden

in a sentimental mood

aim for the sky

aim for the sky | vol 2

wanderlust

calming sleep aid

chilling like a mrmaid vol. 1

chilling like a mrmaid vol. 2

la tristesse durera toujours

escape

misty mornings;

fall sunday mornings

soothing

wake up slowly

sunsets & long drives

with enough intensity

☺️ happy

the sun will rise like it always does

summer vibes

the tunes

indie feel good

let’s go to the beach

set my soul on fire

happy time machine

just be happy

undiscovered beauties

vibe 2 this

back to mine

it’s all a-okay

2016 vibey house music

summer of ‘17

come and walk on the wild side

sunny afternoon

wander on

summer cruises

darling, it’s your move

if you wanna stay

whistle while you work

wavy

running through the trees

🙃 study

cuddles and studies

smiling, studying on spring mornings

autumn leaves and warm tea

whatever happens tomorrow, we had today.

drown the noise

please study, you’re failing.

to live is the rarest thing;

study/sleep

i can smell the summer in the air

dreams

to the stars who i listen, and the dreams that are answered

sleep by rivers

to dust

spring serenity

i dream of far off lands

the love letter you never sent

coffeehouse

to the moon and back

with all my heart and soul

it’s time to study honey

for the reader, the writer and the dreamer

studio ghibli study playlist

study

amazing classics;

for those days

neon shadows

songs to enjoy fall to

a little insanity to do great dreams

crave you

II. thou shalt not procrastinate

some memories never leave your bones. like salt in the sea

the study piano mix

you set me on fire

piano

apple cider and clear night skies

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A reminder that turning in assignments for partial credit is better than not turning them in at all. It is. Even if you think you’ve done a bad job and are ashamed of your work, or it’s way overdue, you take whatever you can get. Partial credit dramatically improves your grade over a zero, and I’m always astounded by how often even the smartest kids don’t really comprehend that. 60% is worlds better than 0%. Even 10% is going to help you. Letter grades are misleading and are not created equal. “F"s are mathematically valuable. Turn that late assignment in.

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Aries: Sometimes you just have to let things go. Let places and people disappear from your memory. Let people walk away from you, as much as it feels like their ripping part of you out with them. You don’t need them to function. You don’t need them to make the sun rise and set. You don’t need them to see that the stars still shine in the night sky. You only need yourself and a pair of eyes.  Taurus: You aren’t stuck forever. I know it feels that way. But you are not trapped in this hell. You will get out. Even if you have to claw yourself out with bloody fingernails and bruised skin. But you WILL get out. You will pull through to things much bigger then this. Every new step is terrifying, but you will get there. You will make something of yourself. Gemini: Stop opening the door for ghosts that you aren’t even sure you want in your life. You can’t revive them just to force them back into a tomb. Make up your mind if you want to be friends with the past, or bury it forever. Either way is totally fine, but every time you half dig up skeleton, you just leave everyone with old wounds. Open up all the old scars and leave fresh blood on the floor. There’s no right or wrong choice, but there is a choice you have to make. Cancer: It won’t be this hard forever. You won’t need that vice for all of eternity. It’s okay to need a crutch every once in awhile. It’s okay to ask for help. It’s okay to be fucking desperate sometimes. You do not have to always be the strong one. Always be the brave one. Always be the fucking okay one. You can let yourself collapse under the weight of this world every once in awhile. Leo:  Do not let them use you to bury their pain. You are not their whipping post. You are not their cemetery.  They can not use you when it is convenient for them to hide secrets and agony. You don’t owe them shit. They can not hold you down and force feed you every painful moment they can’t handle.  You are much better then everything their putting you through.  Virgo : The future is never quite certain. It’s always a little bit terrifying. Always a little bit anxiety causing. You’re making the right steps. Stop doubting your footing. You’ve gotten through the worst of the storm. Time to celebrate, and move forward. Always keep moving forward. Always keep going on even when it feels like terror is around every corner. Libra:  Set backs are temporary. Pain is temporary. Even baby steps are huge accomplishments. I know it feels like shit right now. Know it feels like the world is ending. But sweetie, you’ve survived the apocalypse before. You can do it again. And again. And then again. As many times as it takes. You are going to get through this rough patch too. Just like all the other times. Scorpio:  Self hatred and self destruction will never get you where you need to go. You can’t run on spite forever. Eventually the candle of self anguish will burn itself out. You have to start healing. Have to start saying all of the hardest things in life, even though it hurts. Even though it makes you cry. Even if sometimes it feels like you’re going to die. Recovery is hard but dying is harder. Sagittarius: If they don’t need you, you are so much better then them. The way they see you is not how you are. It is not your fault if they can’t figure out your worth. You don’t need them to thrive. Even if no one sees your beauty, you are still gorgeous. Still shining as bright as the stars. You don’t need anyone to recognize that. You don’t need them admit you shine to be brighter then all of them.  Capricorn: Your past doesn’t define you, but it did make you who you are. You don’t have to live in it, but at least fucking acknowledge what happened. What brought you here. What gave you those scars, and what gave you those laugh lines. You can acknowledge your past and who you use to be, without becoming that person all over again. You are better then that now. Aquarius: Coming home is not a defeat. You did something most people only dream of. Sometimes all you can do is grab on to plan B and make it work. Doesn’t mean that you are a failure because plan A failed. You tried your absolute hardest. You still won. So come back. Enjoy the sanctuary while we have it. Pisces: If you’re going to cut people out, you can’t just be uncommitted. You can’t decide one minute you’re done only to open up the door the next. Make up your mind and stick to it. Bar the doors. Throw out the vodka. Turn off your phone. Wait this out. Take however long you need to break their spell over you.

This Weeks Horoscope (via late-nights-and-daydreams)

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Best advice I’ve received so far

the time you take being jealous of other people’s success is the time you could be using to build your own

you’re never going to “feel like it”

doing and practicing now is better than waiting for the perfect moment

eliminate people with toxic habits from your life

you are in control. Everything you’ve done up to this moment led you here. Therefore, your future is determined by what you do now.

everything is as it should be and only later in life you can connect the dots.

self discipline will give you freedom. consistency will give you results

everything is temporary. You should find freedom in this concept

the rich stay rich acting poor and the poor stay poor acting rich

being healthy means finding a balance between the good and the bad

the people that outranked you have outworked you.

you can’t be grateful and negative at the same time.

Meditate on these statements. They are so very powerful! Xxx

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I needed this.