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Stolen from reddit where it wasn't being properly appreciated

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add yours!

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U have to b really sweet to urself or your heart will rot out of ur chest forever

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E. M. Carroll, A Guest in the House (2023)

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Holidays II - Carlos Sagrera, 2017.

Spanish, b. 1987 -

Acrylic on canvas ,    33 x 24 cm.      

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actually i think there is love in friendship and love in creating art and love in bread and love in nodding along to a child’s babbling and love in spamming emotes and love under the blankets. i think love is in everything and everywhere just waiting to be seen

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something vindictive but ultimately harmless I do at work is that if you’re at my register and you’re rude to me and you pay with cash I am finding the most disgusting desolate fucked up unspeakable coin I can to give to you. oh you were mean to me? you’re getting the yucky nickel bitch

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why the fuck is it called the xbox 360 what does 360 mean???????????????????

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"dont smoke around your pets" okay well i dont even smoke im asthmatic. my dog smokes bc she needs to fucking chill sometimes and Yeah i light them for her Obviously bc she cant use a lighter. i dont get anyrhing out of this arrangment and i resent the implication. in fact shes giving ME secondhand smoke. so my question is why are you so hateful and jugemental and acting like an asshole to me making presumptions and shit about my life.

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this is about oil. don’t forget that. this is like 99% about oil. they’ve hijacked everything, countries, religions, ethnicities, languages, all to use as cover stories for their invasions and wars for oil. The United States works for exxon, chevron, british petroleum, etc.

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When I am appointed to represent a child, my first action is to separate them from their parents and tell them the following things:

1. I am their attorney. I do not work for their parent or the judge or the cops. I don’t care what any of those people want.

2. My job is to listen to them and try and make what they want happen in court. (At this point I make a joke about how most people want me to get them out of trouble but if someone wanted to be in trouble I would do my best.)

3. What they tell me is confidential. It goes nowhere unless they agree to it. (If old enough, I talk to them about mandatory reporters, and how I’m a mandatory non reporter.)

4. I will give them lots of advice because I’ve been doing court for a while and I know a lot about it, and they don’t. It’s all really complicated, and if they don’t understand what’s happening it’s my job to help them figure it out.

5. They will make the decisions. (At this point I usually have to reassure them that I’ll help, I’ll speak for them in front of the judge, and I’ve got their back. It’s scary to have an adult say you’re in charge, most of the time.)

6. I tell them I know it’s absolutely wild to have some stranger come in here and say “hey, you can trust me!” and that I get if they don’t believe everything right away, because I plan to show them through my actions and my words that I’ll fight for them.

7. But nonetheless, I will treat them like a person who can make decisions, because they are living their life and I am not.

I do not:

Pretend to be cool.

Try to be their BFF.

Overwhelm them with detail.

Let their parents in the room until the kid asks for them. (I provide openings for this, and ask if the kid wants their parent to help them remember and understand.)

I want to emphasize I went into this job knowing nothing about how to interact with vulnerable populations, especially children. The training was minimal, and my role means that I can literally walk into a facility and get an unmonitored visit with a minor client one on one.

In my years of practice I have never felt threatened by a child, even one that was “violent” and “unstable.” It turns out just saying “hi, I think you’re a person with thoughts” is wildly successful? Now people treat me like I have special Child Whisperer powers. My powers are that I ask the child what’s up and I’m not scared to say things that are objectively awkward. I know nothing about anything.

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rewatching OHSHC once you’ve realized your gender non-conforming identity is a big “oh so THATS why I identified with Haruhi so much in middle school” moment

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I'm fascinated by Haruhi Fujioka, because I know a lot of bi enbies, and most of them describe themselves as gay in both directions.

But Haruhi is straight in both directions, which is something of an anomaly

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I love people saying non binary is new as though Ouran High School Host Club didn’t have a nonbinary protagonist back in 2009.

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Being Haruhi in Ouran High School Host Club is my genderfluid fever dream.

Imagine being accepted into the brotherhood, clocked, told to keep dressing like a boy but being put in cute, girly outfits all the time anyways. Ladies want you, guys want you. The lesbians are actively trying to kidnap you. Meanwhile you’re not really ever acting “like a boy” or “like a girl”, you’re just being yourself. You wear whatever you feel like without thought of how others will perceive you and are comfortable with whatever perceptions are thrown your way.

This show meant a lot to me growing up. I may not have known I was trans back then, but it’s nice to look back on that time through a queer lens and realize, yeah, damn, that’s pretty gay.