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The solution to ableism isn't for me to "stop calling myself disabled", it's for everyone to stop treating "disabled" as a bad word

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They don’t actually give you an encyclopedic knowledge of something when you get in a degree in it. They give you the skill to learn more about it on your own.

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So like, it's obvious to me reading the comments on my post that anti-porn people are largely like, afraid of porn. Like the concept of a sex video is really spooky to them. They're not making thoughtful critiques of the porn industry, which is genuinely a really fucked up industry, they're mostly just spooked by the concept of a sex video and what it could Do To You If You See It.

I said this in another post, but it's like, the difference between "a ton of coffee is produced using slave labor" (valid, important criticism of the coffee industry) and "coffee turns people into raving coffee addicts who forget how to interact with anyone because they're so obsessed with their coffee" (objectively not true, insane viewpoint).

It's literally just sex videos. They really cannot hurt you.

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Was hanging out with a middle-aged cishet woman friend of mine who hasn’t seen me since I had top surgery and she was like “you look AMAZING, are you kidding me. I wish…I could get that done…. I always hated having boobs and they were at least useful in my 20s but now they’re just sweat collectors that might give me cancer….” And I was like my friend, let me tell you the good word of aesthetic flat closure… cis women can do this too if they want, the world is your oyster…. Her jaw up and hit the floor. Anyway. Tell your moms, tell your aunties, tell the cis women of the world that they can have top surgery for girls if they want and need! You can do whatever you want forever!

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sometimes it really does feel like people don't really know the difference between shitty behavior being criticized versus being attacked on the basis of their identity.

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love when a mother asks if they have ever done anything to hurt you. ma'am, you will literally never be ready to have this conversation

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for a website full of genderfuck queers a lot of people on tumblr sure do see a post of someone talking about their husband or boyfriend and start immidiately she/her-ing the op without any hesitation 🤨

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To all trans youth out there: I see you, I love you, I am proud of you being who you are in this extremely difficult time. I'm so sorry so many adults either want to attack you or have failed to protect you from those attacks.

You deserve a better world and we won't stop fighting until we make a better one.

And fuck the Supreme Court.

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Unfortunately we won’t be getting much of anywhere with speaking about trans men and mascs’ oppression until people are willing to look at the trans man as an intersectional identity. Which will require people to actually understand intersectionality as more than “two marginalizations coming together.” And I feel we’re only getting further away from those things.

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if you don't do anything else today,

Please have a moment of silence for the people who were killed instead of freed when news of emancipation finally reached the furthest corners of the american south.

have another moment for the ledgers, catalogs, and records that were burned and the homes that were destroyed to hide the presence of very much alive and still enslaved people on dozens of plantations and homesteads across the south for decades after emancipation.

and have a third moment for those who were hunted and killed while fleeing the south to find safety across the border, overseas, in the north and to the west.

black people. light a candle, write a note to those who have passed telling them what you have achieved in spite of the racist and intolerant conditions of this world, feel the warmth of the flame under your hand, say a prayer of rememberance if you are religious, place the note under the candle, and then blow it out.

if you have children, sit them down and tell them anything you know about the life of oldest black person you've ever met. it doesn't have to be your own family. tell them what you know about what life was like for us in the days, years, decades after emancipation. if you don't know much, look it up and learn about it together.

This is Juneteenth.

white people CAN interact with this post. share it, spread it.

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happy juneteenth but dont forget that prisoners are legally allowed to be subject to slave labor and also black people are disproportionately arrested and subjected to that legality. happy juneteenth but slavery still lives in america. america is still dependant on slave labor.

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again. bodily autonomy, fundamental bodily autonomy HAS to have room for people doing things with their own bodies that you do not and will not approve of. if it doesnt, it is not bodily autonomy

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idk who needs to hear this but if you have been putting something off bc it doesn't need to be done until the end of the month. we are almost done with the teens we are approaching the big numbers (the twenties). that date shall dawn upon you swiftly and without mercy before you know it. psa for everyone except me i got plany off time

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you Applied to 200 jobs and are still unemployed . hope u dont mind we Leak ur data. and no, we will Not be calling back

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"get a job" "unemployed behaviour" okay but like. girl your ableism

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Yeah, the doctors ran some blood work and discovered I was actually the Thing all along. No, I don't know if my insurance will cover it