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A while back my pharmacist saw my deadname on my profile and accidentially called it out, he corrected and deleted my deadname from the system so only my preferred name shows up now. There was a crowd of people behind me, so as he hands over the pills he apologized, in equal tone and volume as when he called my deadname and lied saying it's been a long day and he didn't mean to call out -his own- name. I quietly told him it was fine and he didn't need to do that for my sake.

His response: "No, it's my name now."

I went to the pharmacist yesterday, his nametag is my deadname. He informed me he's immigrating and in the process he's changed his first name to my deadname to have an English sounding name. That's why he's now able to get a reprint of his nametag to be my deadname. And repeated, with the intense seriousness of someone who is going to die on this hill: "It's mine now. Not yours. I'm taking." His tone indicated that decision is final.

Bro literally deadnamed me once, and has committed to flat out stealing my deadname. It's his now. Legally. Officially. I over heard his co-workers call him by the name.

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When I was in the hospital, they gave me a big bracelet that said ALLERGY, but like. I'm allergic to bees. Were they going to prescribe me bees in there.

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Out of Touch

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“we live in an uncaring universe” yeah dude and I live in an uncaring house. and I shit in an uncaring toilet. but do you touch an uncaring lover? do you comfort an uncaring child? do you guide to sleep each night a cold and uncaring self?

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I genuinely love so much that Roy Mustang, for all his brutal pragmatism and haughty coldness and quick ruthlessness, is an idealist. I especially love that his idealism is explicitly different from a naive idealism that does not yet know what the reality is, like that of his youth.

The idealism he carries during the series is a very conscious, active, vicious idealism armed with teeth and claws that he stubbornly and aggressively chooses to possess. He tells Hughes, as the war ends, that he is aware that these are pipe dreams, that this is unrealistic, that this is runaway hope, but he chooses to dream anyway because it is necessary for better futures (and he's right, imagining a better future believing that things can become that IS necessary for change). It's an idealism that is wildly optimistic but in a very grounded, pragmatic way. And for that reason, it's actually never at odds with his very calculating and aloof manner.

It's just so great. He is a ruthless idealist, and his idealism itself is vicious in the way that it is prepared to fight bloody to protect and enact this dream of things getting better.

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Babe, wake up. DashCon 2 just dropped.

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HEY GUYS I JUST GOT AN EMAIL ABOUT TRADEMARK ISSUES FROM TUMBLR I—

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it's really weird having a first dog be blind and then getting a second who can see...like how was I supposed to be prepared for this.

this creature can perceive when I put the treats up on the high shelf. or when I hide stuff behind my back. I can't fool her!! she's always watching me and she shouldn't have this much knowledge!!!

I walk around at night and I shine my flash light directly into her eyes and I'll just be standing there staring at her weird blue orbs for like 5 seconds until I realize it's probably extremely annoying to her, because she has eyes!! I'll turn on the light in the room and she gruffs and grumbles like ?? oh right!! light wakes you up!! the fuck??

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it's always a good day to complain about English speakers

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congratulations piracy

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My mom is trying to talk me into getting weight loss surgery. Her reasons are that losing weight would be good for my joints, back, and body pain in general (i have arthritis and fibromyalgia) and that people would treat me better. I feel bad man and i dont know what to do

Oh my dear, sweet Anon. The price that your mom is asking you to pay for social acceptance is far far too high.

Fully 1% of people who undergo stomach amputation surgery (so-called weight-loss surgery) die within the first year and 6% of patients die within 5 years, a death rate that is approximately 3 times the expected norm.

People who have the surgery commit suicide or die from a drug overdose at rates that are 20 times the expected norm. (five to ten times the expected norm. The surgery also increases the prevalence of alcohol use disorder by 25%.

The surgery causes malnutrition and loss of bone mass, and fully 70% of people who have  the surgery report daily vomiting and other severe digestive problems that persist for decades.  

People who have this surgery and later become pregnant have babies who suffer nutritional deficits.

On top of all of that, people still regain the weight they lose.

And even this terrible list of known harms is incomplete. Almost no studies follow patients for more than one year post-surgery, and the few long term studies that do exist only manage to report data for about 25% of their initial sample – and this includes the research purporting to show benefits of the surgery.

This is a dangerous experimental surgery, and it is criminal how many fat people are pressured into undergoing the surgery without giving true informed consent. Because they simply cannot give consent: The full, long-term health consequences of amputating a large part of an essential organ required for survival are simply unknown at this time.