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Never send any money to anyone you haven’t met online. Not as a commitment fee, not as tribute, not for any reason. 

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Everyone that reblogs this post will get a nude. Every. Single. One. 

i will send only one. girls will receive them too. you dont have to be following me. 

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This absolutely this. I believe in this on both sides as a switch. 

quick reminder that you should praise and worship your sub as often as possible 💞

make them feel good about themselves, tell them every little thing you notice and love about them, remind them how much you adore them, how much they mean to you, give them sweet nicknames and take perfect care of them on a bad day.

your sub is not just your toy, not just a worthless piece of flesh for you to enjoy when you feel like it. your sub is a precious human being and you shouldn’t call yourself a dom if you don’t see that or don’t want to worship your sub like they worship you

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This, so much this

Signs of a fantastic Dom

We always talk about “signs of a terrible Dom” so let’s talk about some signs of an actually good Dom

They ask you about your day: They show compassion and actually want to listen about how your day went

They ALWAYS want to keep fields of communication open: Whether you’re in the middle of a kinky-as-fuck scene or you two are in a heated argument, the means of communication is ALWAYS open. Once you give your safe word, IT IS DONE

Aftercare is a top priority. No matter what this is for you in particular, they put a lot of emphasis on aftercare (cuddling, movie watching, bath time, etc.)

They aren’t afraid to scold you when you actually mess up. Sometimes we fuck up, both with our dynamics or we screwed up something at work or school. Doms will scold you, put also help cheer you up and might even offer ways to make it positive

Sex might be apart of the dynamic, but it’s not the focus. I get the fact some people get involved with other BDSM partners for the sole reason of sex, but outside of those VERY SPECIFIC DYNAMICS, sex is NOT the sole focus. It might be a fun “add on”, but it’s NOT the primary objective (penetrative sex or other forms of sex acts).

They are concerned for your safety, but don’t overdo it. They want you safe, but don’t take it to the paranoid level where they need to track every little thing you do.

They respect your privacy. EVERYONE has secrets (”skeletons in your closest”), even among romantic partners who have been partners for a long time, people have stuff they just don’t feel comfortable confessing every little thing in their life. A respectful Dom understands this and doesn’t need to go spying on you or attempt to invade your privacy (track internet history, track phone usage, track where you’ve been, etc.)

They trust you. A Dom who doesn’t trust you will purposely try to fuck up the relationship/dynamic, they will show severe jealousy, and other negative aspects. A Dom that trusts you will respect YOU as a person as well as you to keep your word on different things.

When disagreements happen, they use constructive language. There is not a healthy relationship on this earth that is 100% argument/disagreement free. However, whenever these do happen, it is NOT a “me against you” style argument (”I WON THE ARGUMENT”, none of that). It is done in a way with minimal accusatory/hurtful statements

They respect your hard limits. Doms know hard limits don’t mean “convince me”. They know to stay the fuck away from hard limits with a ten foot freaking pole.

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I would love to her as my keyholder. 

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Important things to remember. If your not down with this, don’t bother messaging me. 

Hey tumblr kink baby:

• remember to take time off from the screen

• remember that you are a human being who deserves respect

• remember that dominance as bdsm play should ALWAYS feel good, and you should ALWAYS feel safe to say NO.

• walk away from any conversation or person who makes you feel like you can’t trust your own feelings

• walk away from anyone who makes you feel unsafe to express your needs and feelings

• always make sure your play partners understand the concept of consent

• no piece of dick / pussy is worth the trauma of having someone taking advantage of you

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This one has me on the edge of my seat, :)

So last week I had my first ever edging session and it was so intense and successful thanks in no small part to all of you! I'd like to try and be a better kitten this time and to not come, but it's honestly pretty hard. That said, I want to try my best to be the goodest girl possible so...

A like... is worth one minute of edging

A reply... is worth two minutes of edging

A reblog... is worth three minutes if edging

Make me a good girl and make this kitten regret this post. The game will begin tomorrow on September 11th, 2020.

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Note to all scammers, I’m not your 1% or whatever your rate of return is. Yes, I have a sub side. No, I’m not so overcome with sub frenzy that I’m going to send money to a complete stranger I’ve never met on the internet. Not after a day of messaging. That’s not being submissive, that’s being an idiot who gets duped. So, Fuck off and go bother someone else. I don’t have the time to waste. I’m beginning to regret coming back to Tumblr. 

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Before you messaging me about serving you or being my keyholder or anything of this nature, please be ready to answer one simple question. How do you intend to handle the keyholding at a distance, particularly, if you are not local to the NYC Metro area. Even if you are, with Covid, it’s still a logistical issue. One that needs to be settled if you want my service or my keys.  Oh and I do own this device and other chastity devices already, ;).

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Reblog and I’ll DM you with my bra off

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Last one of a few I didn’t want to lose to the miasma of tumblr

How To Control a Sub

The following is a list of things that you should be doing. Not everything will apply in every case, and there may be things not on the list that work for you.

1. You must absolutely take total control of his orgasms!

You must get him to wear a chastity device of some kind.

You should put it on him yourself and only you should hold the key.

Let him out at your discretion only and only for teasing or release.

2. Control your own feelings of guilt.

He should never be permitted to have any kind of orgasm without your permission.

If you feel he deserves an orgasm… Ruin it!

Remember, you can ruin several orgasms a day, but he can only have one full one.

Full orgasms should be for very special occasions (no more than 3 or 4 per year).

3. You must get into his head!

Learn his fantasies and what turns him on.

Tease him with your words whenever possible.

Find out what humiliates him.

Use his humiliation whenever possible.

4. You must keep him sexually aroused as much as possible.

Talk sexy to him.

Tell him you are going to make him do something humiliating.

Fondle him, or let him fondle you.

Send him text messages with orders to do something sexual.

Make him give you orgasms frequently.

5. Make him do something humiliating.

Make him wear a butt-plug for a time.

Make him be naked when you are not.

Make him masturbate for you.

Always, ALWAYS make him eat his own cum no matter where it is deposited.

6. Punish him whenever he displeases you.

Don’t let him get away with anything!

Spank, paddle, or whip him.

Humiliate him in some way.

Put Bengay or Icy-Hot on his cock, balls, or anus.

Make him do anything he hates.

7. No matter what you are doing, or where you are, find ways to tease him.

Fondle him through his pants in public (or in private).

Whisper sexy or humiliating things in his ear.

Make him shop for lingerie with you.