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This is one of the best interactions I’ve ever had.

Two school age kids: “Oh look at the big white puppy!”

Their mother: “Come here, let me explain something to you. That dog is a Service Dog. Whenever you see a dog in a store like this you can’t distract it cause it’s working.”

Two kids: “What do you mean he’s working?”

Mom: “He helps that girl. You know how at school your teacher tells you to be quiet so you don’t get distracted doing your work? It’s the same thing with that dog. You can’t distract him.”

Two kids: “What does he help her with?”

Mom: “That’s her business. Your business is to not distract him so he can work.”

If children can understand so can you.

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I want to see people's routine when a scantily clad empty blog starts stalking you.

Please reblog to obtain a larger sample size, thanks!

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I post this every year but it’s worth it to remind myself to plant flowers, in the garden and in my mind and whenever I get a chance, in the hearts of others.

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Wolfenstein, for those who don’t know, is a videogame series with soon to be eleven entries in the series, all of them entirely centred around killing Nazis ever since the very first game in 1981.

‘way to make it political’ buddy do you know what series this is

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Why is this bothering me so

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WOW. Watch these 3 minutes from Dallas sportscaster Dale Hansen talking about what Trump doesn’t understand about the national anthem and the right to protest. Compare this to any right-wing media whining and that’s why this is one to remember.

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Irony? #2 Telling millionaire celebrities to keep quiet, because being a rich celebrity distorts their reality; yet voted for a millionaire celebrity

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Irony? Those who fly and defend the confederate battle flag, then calling a state 'traitors' for discussing possible secession while stating "you lost, get over it"

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“A Republic.... If. You. Can. Keep. It.”

These words, which Benjamin Franklin offered as the answer to a question about what kind of government the Constitutional Convention had created in 1787, are often quoted, and with good reason. They are just as often misunderstood.

Franklin’s statement is not a guarantee. It’s a warning. It’s a reminder that there is no “them” in a democracy or a republic that will solve the problems of the society on behalf of its citizens. They have to do it for themselves.

Franklin’s statement is, in other words, contingent. The “if” matters. The issue is in no way settled. If YOU can –CAN !! – keep it.

We are at an existential moment in our democracy. We have a charlatan and a thug and a kleptocrat about to become President. The Framers weren’t naive: they knew that was possible. They just figured the rest of the system would mobilize to oppose the authoritarian presidency and limit the damage he would do.

Unfortunately, they assumed such opposition would appear as a function of the Constitution’s programming. They thought the structural divides in interests and constituencies and experiences among the branches of government would make collusion impossible and allow only the least worst options to pass even if one of the branches of government went crazy.

Alas, we know better. We know that feckless Congresses (of whatever party; think the Iraq War) happily enable evil and stupid enterprises. We know that opposing parties will support the abuse of human rights and the passage of ridiculous economic and domestic policies if they think it is their short terms interests to do so.

As Franklin noted, it is up to us. IF … YOU … CAN … KEEP … IT.

IF.

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This is completely worth the watch, and demonstrates why Trumpism will eventually fail.

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THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. It may save a life, It may save your life.)

An Article from Neena Susan Thomas

“Through a rapist’s eyes. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interview…ed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.

POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .

b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.

If u have compassion reblog this post. ‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.

REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW AT LEAST PEOPLE WILL KNOW WHATS GOING ON IN THIS WORLD. So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.

THIS COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.”

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Do You Love Someone With Depression?

If you have a partner or are close to someone who struggles with depression, you may not always know how to show them you love them. One day they may seem fine, and the next they are sad, distant and may push you away. It is important that you know that as a person who is close to them and trusted by them, you can help your friend or partner have shorter, less severe bouts of depression. Mental illness is as real as physical illness (it is physical actually, read more about that here) and your partner needs you as much as they would need to be cared for if they had the flu.

Your relationship may seem one-sided during these times, but by helping your partner through a very difficult and painful affliction, you are strengthening your relationship and their mental health in the long term.

1. Help them keep clutter at bay.

When a person begins spiraling into depression, they may feel like they are slowing down while the world around them speeds up. The mail may end up in stacks, dishes can pile up in the sink, laundry may go undone as the depressed person begins to feel more and more overwhelmed by their daily routine and unable to keep up. By giving your partner some extra help sorting mail, washing dishes or using paper plates and keeping chaos in check in general, you’ll be giving them (and yourself) the gift of a calm  environment. (I’m a fan of the minimalist movement because of this, you can read more about that here.)

2. Fix them a healthy meal.

Your partner may do one of two things when they are in a depressed state. They may eat very little, or they may overeat. In either case, they may find that driving through a fast food restaurant or ordering a pizza online is just easier than fixing a meal. Eating like this, or neglecting to eat will only degrade your partner’s health, causing her to go deeper into her depression. Help your loved one keep her body healthy, and her mind will follow. This is a great article that talks about the “Brain Diet” which can help the symptoms of depression, and this article talks about how our modern diet could contribute to the recent rise in depression. Here is a recipe for a trail mix that is quick to make and has mood-boosting properties.

3.Get them outside.

 The benefits of getting outside for a depressed person are huge. And it is possibly the last thing on earth your partner will want to do. Take them to be somewhere in nature. Pack a picnic and lie in the sun, take a leisurely hike or plant a garden. Being barefoot in the dirt, or “earthing” helps ground the body and reverse the effects of living in a world of emf’s, and digging in soil can actually act as an antidepressant, as a strain of bacterium in soil, Mycobacterium vaccae, triggers the release of seratonin, which in turn elevates mood and decreases anxiety. Sunshine increases Vitamin D production which can help alleviate depression. My friend Elizabeth wrote an excellent post about Vitamin D and its link to depression here.  For more information about other sources of Vitamin D, this is a great post as well as this.

4. Ask them to help you understand what they’re feeling.

If your partner is able to articulate what they are going through, it will help them and you better understand what you are dealing with, and may give insight into a plan of action for helping your partner. Also, feeling alone is common for a depressed person and anything that combats that feeling will help alleviate the severity and length of the depression.

5. Encourage them to focus on self-care.

Depressed people often stop taking care of themselves. Showering, getting haircuts, going to the doctor or dentist, it’s all just too hard, and they don’t deserve to be well taken care of anyway in their minds. This can snowball quickly into greater feelings of worthlessness since “Now I’m such a mess, no one could ever love me”. Help your loved one by being proactive. Tell them “I’m going to do the dishes, why don’t you go enjoy a bubble bath?” can give them the permission they won’t give themselves to do something normal, healthy and self-loving.

6. Hug them.

Studies show that a sincere hug that lasts longer than 20 seconds can release feel-good chemicals in the brain and elevate the mood of the giver and receiver. Depressed people often don’t want to be touched, but a sincere hug with no expectation of anything further can give your partner a lift.

7. Laugh with them.

Telling a silly joke, watching a comedy or seeing a stand up comedian will encourage your partner to laugh in spite of herself. Laughing releases endorphins and studies show can actually counteract symptoms of depression and anxiety.

8. Reassure them that you can handle their feelings.

Your partner may be feeling worthless, angry and even guilty while they are depressed. They may be afraid that they will end up alone because no one will put up with their episodes forever. Reassure them that you are in the relationship for the long haul and they won’t scare you away because they have an illness.

9. Challenge their destructive thoughts.

A depressed person’s mind can be a never-ending loop of painful, destructive thoughts. “I’m unlovable, I’m a failure, I’m ugly, I’m stupid”. Challenge these untruths with the truth. “You’re not unlovable, I love you. You aren’t a failure, here are all the things you’ve accomplished.”

10.Remind them why you love them.

Look at pictures of happy times you’ve had together. Tell them your favorite things about them. Reminisce about your relationship and all the positive things that have happened, and remind your partner that you love them and they will get through this.

(via The Darling Bakers)

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The Defender is a pepper spray that when sprayed takes a picture of the person you’re spraying and sends it the police along with your GPS location, user information, as well as flashing a bright light in the attackers face and emitting a loud alarm.

—->http://odditymall.com/pepper-spray-that-takes-a-picture-and-alerts-the-police

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Hi bro! I was wondering if you have anything to say about Kant on capital punishment. Isn't killing a violation of the categorical imperative? From the perspective of a sovereign, Kant seems to have no problem with such retribution. But isn't the CI all about respecting another bro as an autonomously thinking subject with the ability of moral awareness, even if he did kill a bro who is awesome at keg stands?

Yo so this question is cool because it gets at what we’re even doing when we do philosophy. You probably didn’t even realize that, but check it out: as a historical matter, we totally already know what Kant said about capital punishment. He said “yeah dude, fucking light ‘em up.” In fact, Kant was not only down with capital punishment, he thought it was required in a lot of cases. That’s because Kant endorsed a particular principle of justice that was basically “You have to fuck people up in the same way they fucked up.” 

Now, for those of you just joining us, Kant’s Categorical Imperative is at the core of his moral philosophy. He phrases it a couple ways but the most famous version is that “you should only act according to a rule that  it would be cool if everyone followed.” So when I’m trying to decide whether I should email Philosophy Bro and ask him to write my paper for me, I have to be like, “Well, so let’s say the rule is ‘You should ask someone else to write your paper every time it’s kind of hard.’ Would it be okay if everyone acted that way?” and for sure that would not be okay even a little bit, so don’t fucking do that. 

Kant believes the Categorical Imperative because You Are Not a Special Fucking Snowflake, you don’t get to make exceptions for yourself or treat people like you’re better or more important than they are, no matter how rich you are or how many Twitter followers you have. (The second version of the Categorical Imperative gets at this when he says “Don’t treat people merely as means to an end; you have to also treat them as ends themselves.”) 

He bought into the “Principle of Retaliation” (his scary-ass name for it, not mine) for similar reasons: you’re no different from your victim, so when you steal from someone you’re basically saying it’s okay to steal from me, too.  So that’s why it’s fine for the state to murder a guy who committed a murder; murder was his idiot stupid idea, not ours; we’re literally just taking it to the logical conclusion! Plus, Kant thought that the Principle of Retaliation was the only principle that was based on pure, unadulterated, Texas-ass justice, the kind of justice that treats people as ends rather than as means. Sure, you could take criminals and do fucked-up science on them, but they’re criminals, not animals. If we stop treating people like people as soon as they fuck up, then what’s the point of being people?

So Kant would say, the fact that this murder-bro is an autonomous thinking subject is exactly why we have to kill him back — motherfucker knew better and he did it anyway. His victim was also an autonomous thinking subject, and look how far that got him: dead. It got him dead. 

But just for a second, fuck Kant. He put this principle out there and gave some interesting arguments but now that it’s out there we can say whatever we want about it as long as we’re ready to back that shit up with arguments.  Kant isn’t the dad of what the Categorical Imperative means. You’re always allowed to challenge someone’s interpretation if you have a decent argument but ESPECIALLY with Kant, that motherfucker was all over the place. 

If you want to tell Kant where to stick his interpretation of the Categorical Imperative, you’ve got options. You could disagree with his vision of rationality and argue that human rationality actually requires something other than straight up retaliation. If you want to go that route, 

You could argue (as lots of people have) that Kant picks the wrong rule to follow when he comes up with the death penalty. This is a pretty popular objection to Kant, that he thinks the Categorical Imperative forbids lying and people are like “Yeah but what if the Nazis ask? Fuck those guys, right? So lying is fine and Kant is wrong.” That’s only an objection to Kant’s interpretation of the Categorical Imperative, though; you fix that shit real easy by saying “yeah, but Kant was wrong about that. If everyone lied to Nazis all the time, and only to Nazis, the world would work out great, so that’s a rule I can follow and a lie I’m allowed to tell.” We saved the Categorical Imperative by saying “okay sure but fuck Kant, what does he know? The Categorical Imperative says something totally different from that. Here’s what it actually says.” 

You’ve got options for disagreeing with Kant on Capital Punishment, too. You might object to the Principle of Retaliation; who says it stands by itself? We also need principles to tell us what proper retaliation looks like, especially in cases like theft where we can’t do exactly the same thing, because people have different circumstances. You might argue that a sovereign should also be bound by the Categorical Imperative, and we can’t actually rationally will something as harsh as retaliation. 

Let me stop here for a word of caution: Kant was a smart-ass dude and if he’s all over the place sometimes it’s because he had a lot of incredibly thorough ideas and also, seriously, he is a terrible, awful writer. I’m not saying you can’t disagree with him because you totally can, he was definitely wrong about some shit (like whether lying is allowed) but I am saying is do your fucking homework and make sure you understand his position as well as possible before you go swaggering into class like “Kant, what an asshole, amirite?” Make sure you can back that shit up so that you don’t get embarrassed by some Kantian like “actually he has seven responses to your objection.” Kantians are cocky enough without you giving them more ammo. 

Anyway, one of the very cool things about philosophy is that even more than with literature, no one gets to just decide what something means. It doesn’t matter that Kant came up with the Categorical Imperative; if someone else has a better argument about what it means, then Kant can get fucked; in fact, lots of people have taken up the task of saying “Okay Kant had a good idea but kinda moved on too quickly, let’s fix that shit up.” If you’ve got an argument about why Kant misunderstands what the Categorical Imperative says about capital punishment, or about why anyone else is wrong about something else, put it out there. Philosophy is all about “put that idea out there and let’s find out together if it’s any good, or how to make it better.”

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Manueluv and I are convinced Agent K is Coulson’s father. Hell, MIB is even owned by Marvel. 

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