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on the importance of porn to the asian beta male (part 1)

in my first blog post, i talked a little about the lack of asian male representation in mainstream pornography and how it reinforces ideas in asian males as well as in broader society that asian males are not sexually fit. 

however, porn also plays a critical role in providing beta males with a sexual outlet. of course, beta males very rarely participate in active (or penetrative) sex, but it’s still important for the health of society that betas are able to express themselves sexually in a healthy way. porn provides this perfect outlet for us as  sexual spectators.

i’ve yet to meet a non-toxic beta male who hasn’t developed a very deep and satisfying relationship with porn. it helps us navigate our sexuality and provides any and all kinds of fantasies for us betas to lose ourselves in. more importantly it keeps betas passive and stops us from getting toxic (more on beta angst later) in the real world. in that way, porn provides an important public health function in our societies.

generally, the attachment to pornography starts at quite a young age and betas will also generally develop “favourites” that they get even more attached and whose work they follow obssessively. as an example, as a teenager, i remember developing strong “porn crushes” with the likes of Alexis Texas, Asa Akira and Kalina Ryu as well as with alphas like Manuel Ferrara. i owe all porn stars, producers and studios a large thank you for what they have done to me.

in part 2, we’ll look more in depth at WMAF porn and the impact it has on beta males.

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on white women

it may seem strange, but every asian beta male needs to understand the sexual primacy of white women to better understand their own place in the world. white women have for decades (some would argue for centuries) been the gold standard for what is considered beautiful in the world. there is good reason for this:

despite a few decades of progressive liberal ideologies been jammed down our throats, the supremacy of white women as the gold standard of female beauty has never been seriously challenged. men know this is true, poc women know this is true deep down (more on this later) and white women know this is true -  though, thanks to their infinite grace, they have the class to never mention this fact out aloud. 

white pussy, therefore, commands a premium in the sexual market and white women control exclusive access to it. white women’s ability to select their own sexual mates has increased over time as has the mainstream focus on their sexual pleasure.

what are some of the implications of this?

firstly, white women are being more adventurous with their sexuality and have a greater variety and amount of sexual partners over the course of their lifetime. of course, many will still choose to settle down with white men, but not before exploring some of the delights of bbc (big black cock) at least once in their lives. this fact has generated a lot of angst amongst white betas and entire communities of white betas addicted to interracial porn have popped up over the last 10 or so years. again, it’s not difficult to see why: a young gorgeous white women enjoying a large black cock is powerful and evocative image:

much of the analysis ends here. however there is a second great implication of the supremacy of white women’s beauty that often gets overlooked but has really MASSIVE implications for us asian betas: that because white women are the gold standard, a large number of poc women (but especially asians) have a deep desire to be as close to whiteness as possible. overtly, this could mean things like subscribing to beauty standards established by white women (clothes, make-up, etc.) but more importantly it often means that asian women see dating white men as a massive accolade - proof that they too are desirable to the white gaze.

so where does this leave the asian beta male today? in a word - lost.

of course we have no chance with white women

our screens are inundated with all kinds of interracial porn. the only kind of pairing we don’t see are ones involving asian males.

even asian women are more happy to be fucking white men than us

what is an asian beta male to do? let’s find out together.

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about me

i’m a 32 yr old asian (desi) beta male who has accepted my status as a beta male. on this blog i’ll explore some thoughts about what it means to be a beta male and some strategies to cope. i’m a long time porn addict and a big believer in hierarchies and roles in society. over time, i hope this will become a place where other asian betas can come an understand themselves a bit better.