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Best advice to give someone in early 20’s

Don't fall victim of FOMO. Most of the "fun" activities you see advertised on social media or by the greater youth culture are detrimental to your growth as a person and will pay back in negative ways later on: partying, consuming alcohol/drugs, being promiscuous, recklessly spending money traveling and buying food, etc.

Instead use your precious youth working on layering the foundations for your life and growing as person, focus on:

• Gaining financial literacy

• Acquire proper manners and etiquette to best blend in with important people and be taken more seriously in business settings or formal gatherings

• Learn how to properly dress and keep a prudent demeanor. Avoid at all costs replicating the fast fashion trends of social media and the culture of neurotic impulsivity many of your age peers may have

• Work hard to overcome childhood traumas that keep you from properly interact with other and affect your own self-image

• Build valuable connections from people who can mentor you

• Be active networking with people who are in similar professional or interests groups as you to have connections for future projects

• Spend your time reading self development books and applying the learned concepts into your life

• Work hard and learn to invest your money, prioritize exercise and proper dieting to keep your vitality high, your health and help you preserve your youth.

• Acquire transferable skills that you can use in different scenarios such as: learning how to sell, learning multiple languages, improving your emotional intelligence, etc.

Despite what the world might try to yell you your 20s are the most important years of your life, wasting them doing futile hedonistic and irresponsible activities may feel comfortable in the moment but let me assure you will pay the price for your actions sooner or later. Be conscious of your youth and use your time and resources as wisely as possible so that you may have a life of success, greatness and fulfilment. Plant the seed now, your future self will be thank you later.

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Ocean Vuong, from “Someday I’ll Love Ocean Vuong”, Night Sky with Exit Wounds

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hmm. maybe u were put on this earth to make art and write bad poetry and create silly little playlists and being kind and maybe tearing up a little bit when you see old people eating alone

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me yesterday

i saw some children playing outside yesterday and ended up crying because ........ i once used to be that age

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team jess for rory, u, me, everyone

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absolutely love it and find it mesmerizing when the line between art and real life is so blurry. like when you look at a photograph and you’re like!!!! there’s no way this isn’t a painting it looks too beautiful to be true!! or the opposite when you’re looking at a painting and your brain goes ! ! ! Because it looks SO real. too real. and i just think. not only do we kind of live inside one huge beautiful painting but we also sort of create our own world through art. it’s so wonderful i have tears in my eyes

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Megan Fernandes, from “Fabric in Tribeca,” in Good Boys

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here's a study playlist for the autumn afternoon/evening, getting a green tea, coffee or any other hot beverage to drink and getting your assignments and school work done :))

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.✧༺ a playlist for slowing time down༻゜・

Here's a playlist I made with songs that give me Carys Rachel vlog energy and make me feel as though time has slowed down and everything's gonna be okay <3

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And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That's what this storm's all about.

-Haruki Murakami, Kafka on the Shore

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What I'm listening to this september

As the weather outside gets colder and chillier and its finally time to light candles and wear socks, I like to listen to very chill music that's perfect to go along with midterms prep

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What I'm listening to this september

As the weather outside gets colder and chillier and its finally time to light candles and wear socks, I like to listen to very chill music that's perfect to go along with midterms prep

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spotify playlists i made that i love:

for instantly inducing sadness and depression

for losing sight of what love means to you

for feeling present in the current moment

for deep-rooted loneliness

for the pure excitement of having a crush

for sleeping

for the person who left and would ruin you if they ever came back

for a love that rages like a fire

for your pride & prejudice hand flex moment

for feeling dreamy

for your radiohead fix

for crying while still bopping along

for drinking warm spiced milk on a rainy day

for feeling like you're an indie coming of age film

for the nostalgic emo phase

for feeling wretched

for when you're walking the streets of a new city by yourself

for daydreaming about moving to new york city with your best friends

for bangerz only

for wearing bold lipstick

for your bollywood fix

for allowing yourself to change

for feeling like you're floating on your back in a swimming pool at night in an indie movie

for your gracie abrams fix

for when you don't recognize yourself

for my desi diaspora kids

for my desi diaspora kids pt 2

for traveling and being present

for feeling like a smashed vase, or for smashing vases

for the jungle

for your james blake fix

for managing the aux cord

for feeling like the color orange, or perhaps the fruit. either one

for late night car rides surrounded by the open sky

for seeing the end of the world but smiling ridiculously

for your ridiculous bestie

for dying of love

for gradually falling into sleep

for your joji fix

for watching bright orange sunsets while hating yourself

for feeling the first warmth of summer hit you

for feeling like the weird kid in class again

for learning to live without the heartache it gives you

for playing breath of the wild

for realizing that romantic love will not be the thing that heals you

for whispering secrets to your best friend

for the kids who grew up on the internet

for love, or the lack thereof

for when you want to move to a new city but something is keeping you where you are

for your morning walk

for sitting in a field of marigolds

for beat drops that make you go feral

for traveling to see your best friends

for not allowing yourself to feel ridiculous anymore

for feeling like a perpetually open wound

for risk-taking

for your coke studio pakistan fix

for waiting for better days

for haunting

for being afraid that this is all there is

for texting them to get home safe

for falling in love in the summertime

for your hallmark movie main character moment

for your slowcore fix

for studying

for eating heartshaped jam cookies

for an espresso shot of joy

for feeling like an empty well that has nothing left to give

for love-filled days

for your ariana grande fix

for web-weaving

for your commute

for losing grip of your dreams

for setting this whole year on fire

for feeling like a pakistani uncle drinking chai on the porch

for isolation

for kicking anxiety in the face

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what if we all started to be more mindful of the content we consume? what if we stopped watching youtube videos while eating and tried to read instead? what if we stopped scrolling through short-form content and spent our time talking to our families? what if we decided to stop hyper fixating on others' lives on the internet and journaled to get to know ourselves better? what if we gave up on that one hour of scrolling through twitter and decided to get better at something we love instead? what if we made a conscious decision to improve our lives?