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the fact that so many people have seen dead poets society and it wasn’t pivotal and life changing for every single one of them is insane

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Broken by an Oathbreaker by acactis21

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lord the peasants are so loud today

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ON the subject of undernegotiated kink in fanfiction. i think we should talk more about how the concept of "not talking about it" is just as much wish fulfillment for some people as "in-depth, therapy-speak conversations where everyone is clear and understood" is for others

like yes, in reality the antidote to shame is open honest conversation with someone who will validate your feelings and wants blah blah blah but SOMETIMES what i want out of my fanfic is characters being understood without having to expose themselves in that way. SOMETIMES it's fun to not dismantle the shame and repression all the way and to instead treat that understanding-despite-not-being-clear as the fantasy

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Field to Fabric: Takahiro Hasegawa’s Ode to Linen in ‘One Field, One T-shirt’

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i invite someone over and am happy to see them and have them here and then remember that they share my space while here and then go out of my mind and hate them until they leave

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this is where rand Becomes.

this is the first moment he dispensed justice, mercy, and forgiveness for crimes greater than those against his person or his friends.

i know i’m repeating myself but i can’t get over this. he restores dignity, humanity, forgiveness, and blessing even as he sentences to death. he does what is needed, does not go further, does not not take pleasure in it, but keeps going. he does not look back. he sharply corrects hurin. he does not apologise.

not only that. this is not the moment becomes a lord. this is the moment he becomes more.

he does so to a lord. he does so to someone who, by all measures known, should be greater than he. he does so with a witness who is loyal to them both.

oh rand.

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oh rand.

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me: "if aragon was in a mondern au, i feel like he'd be one of those guys who live in a van"

my mom, a genius, tapping into a higher plane of thought: "legolas would be a skateboarder"

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as soon as i hear a book is going to be read for me by kate reading and micheal kramer, i know im going to be in good hands

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Flora 1032 White Chrysanthemum. By Jeff Stanford, 2024 Buy prints at: https://jeff-stanford.pixels.com/

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(*clarification: words total, not individual unique words with different definitions!)

(bonus points if you explain your reasoning!)

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A surprisingly helpful bit of social maneuvering I've figured out from trial and error: Throughout your life, you are going to need things from people. Often, it's going to be on a deadline. And when that deadline passes, you generally want to know what's going on. So, you need to ask them.

There are two kinds of people, broadly, in this situation. The Shameless will tell you what the holdup is, with absolutely no regard for if the reason is "good enough". This is actually very helpful, because you get the real reason immediately, and can start working on a solution.

The Ashamed is trickier. People who are Ashamed are people who were often told they were giving excuses when they were trying to explain, and they'll often avoid you until they solve the problem on their own. This causes them and you a lot of stress, and often takes a lot longer to solve.

Long term, the strategy for dealing with people who are Ashamed is to provide a supportive environment where they're comfortable sharing any problems they're having with getting things done. But, there's a way to at least partially short-circuit that:

Provide an explanation for them.

One example might be "Hey Susan, I noticed that I don't have your report yet. Are you busy with other projects?" The readymade explanation signals that you're willing to accept an explanation, which is the big anxiety point.

Sometimes, you still won't get an honest answer- especially if the honest answer isn't "good enough" by the standards of the person who traumatized them. But, I've found that it often at least gets you a lie that lets you give them some slack or work around the problem.

Let's say that Susan has actually completely forgotten that she needed to do the report. She's horrified at herself, and completely unwilling to admit the real problem. But, she can now safely reply with "Sorry Jennifer, I've been swamped, and it got lost in the mix. I can have it to you in two days. Does that work?"

From there, so long as Susan gave an estimate for when she can actually do it, she and Jennifer can hash out a solution.

It's not a perfect solution, but it works astonishingly well for how small of a change it is.

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Palestinian students sit next to the empty seats of their martyred classmates. 

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oh we are so back

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the fact that all this happened the minyards’ sophomore year and kevin’s junior year has me dead. like hello? sophomore year tries to kill you as a normal student, even if you take fewer classes. what do you MEAN you need to deal with the mafia, addiction, a possessive brother, trauma, trauma, more trauma, AND a sport

and you’re premed

like i would have just given up on life

Aftg being set in university is objectively hilarious can you IMAGINE being in a group project with Andrew fucking Minyard