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so im a trans man, and I've recently realized I have a shit ton of internalized misogyny(not sure if thats the right term as im a man- but I dont act on it, atleast from what I know) I dont really know how to work on it, I've tried looking for written articles but most of them are by women for women, and they are not helpful.

if you know of anything written by trans men for trans men about internalized misogyny it would be very helpful, thanks.

I suggest expanding your research to include internalized transphobia, because the 2 intersect & are both forms of sexism/patriarchal oppression.

Readers, any feedback?

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UK petition: Sandyford Clinic [Scotland] to immediately continue to prescribe trans kids hormone blockers

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Following the Cass Review, trans kids are no longer able to receive puberty blocker prescriptions from Sandyford, Scotland's only gender identity clinic for under 18s. This is devastating news for trans kids who will now see their bodies change in ways that will trigger dysphoria. It will ultimately cost lives as trans kids are driven to suicide. All this will happen because of some despicable, manufactured "trans debate", where trans kids, and adults, are being used as a scapegoat for society's problems. Trans charities and advocate groups are condemning the awful Cass Review all over the country. The only groups celebrating this dreadful document are anti-trans ones. Hormone blockers have been used for decades safely, and the vast majority of trans kids that go on to transition are happy. A common argument against blockers is that trans kids are not old enough to make such decisions. This is exactly what puberty blockers are for; to hit the pause button on any irreversible changes; to give trans kids time to make these decisions. We urge Sandyford clinic to immediately resume providing trans kids with their life-saving puberty blockers.

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Hi! I'm 18 FTM and considering moving to New Zealand for college next year. I know the country is pretty LGBTQ+ friendly, but I'd be moving with a student visa, and I'm a little confused if I'd be able to access gender affirming care in NZ as a non-citizen.

If anyone has moved to another country and accessed gender affirming care and has any feedback as to how difficult it is/whether colleges provide trans-specific healthcare to international students/if there are other methods of obtaining HRT (like planned parenthoods), I would really appreciate it, especially if it's relevant to colleges or New Zealand!

Have a nice day ☀️

Readers any feedback?

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What exactly is the process for starting T? I know the basic info about how you have to get a therapist referral and approval from your doctor, but nothing about the specifics of it all. What’s the first step usually? How long is the process typically? Where does insurance play into it all? Do you start T immediately after doctor approval or is there a waiting period? Stuff like that. Thanks for any answers!

Which area of the world are you in?

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I'm asking through anonymous, but I'm a trans male who still wants to wear female clothes after transition is complete, and I've been calling myself as a femboy as a result. I only had one person tell me it was an issue, but a majority of my friends who are trans, especially trans females, say they're not offended by it. I'm not using it in any way to intentionally offend trans females. But it's easier than saying feminine male, and I feel like much more appropriate than calling myself a transvestite like the anon told me to do. I feel like transvestite would be more offensive sounding than femboy. But I just want advice on if that word is fine, or if there's a more appropriate word for me to use.

I'm not going to police you on the labels you yourself identify with.

Tr*nsv*st*te has been replaced with the term crossdresser in contemporary language like over a decade ago. (And even then crossdresser doesn't describe the fashion aesthetics worn.) That term the anon gave you is likely either focusing on older language, or via the microaggressions TGNC+ people faced in the 1900s/20th century, focused on fetishizing TGNC+ people.

Like it'd be one thing if that anon have you any context or recognized that it's era mixing. Which again is fine if you identify with that, but it's another to say that to someone who isn't you, while then talking about what's offensive to contemporary audiences & communities.

If you're worried about what audience certain terms might attract online (& hence find you), then I would recommend looking up like courses about SEO (search engine optimization). Or at least googling/binging some terms & see what comes up.

For instance, this is why people will add asterisks to certain words, such as in posts about stores or people. It can be a privacy measure.

Social media platforms are businesses under a dictatorship of white supremacist family businesses (AKA racial capitalist patriarchy), hence very little under this system has TGNC+ people's best interests. I'm sorry someone policed you like that.

Good Luck, Peace & Love,

Eve

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hi !!! my sister recently came out as a trans after knowing her as my brother and male my entire life up until now

i keep accidentally deadnaming or almost deadnaming her, any tips for getting over this? i feel awful whenever i do and correct myelf immediately but i keep messing up

Practice

So like writing her name repeatedly in sentences for instance. Or doing similar in your head.

Readers any feedback?

Good Luck, Peace & Love,

Eve

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Sorry if this is a stupid question, but, can trans guys wear v-necks? I’ve been told we shouldn’t but they’re like most of my closet and I’m broke AF. What should I do?

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I did a thing with some transphobic comments that I had the misfortune of seeing with my own two eyes on TDoV.

There are screenshots below, the usernames and profile pictures have been covered up with colorful scribbles, as well as most of the text of the comment, leaving behind only a few words with a very different meaning than the original intent of the comments.

(you are not your DNA You can be transgender)

(Respect and love means affirming someone's truth)

(Biological sex is a mistake.)

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Huy uhhh could I get some help

So I'm cis male right

I still want to be, be perceived as, dress, and act male

But I want some honkers. Some real badonkers.

Like literally nothing else changes, I just have tits. That's it. Still he/him, full beard and everything. But like. With tits. What is that called. What's my diagnosis.

That's not a diagnosis.

That's called look up some plastic surgeons for breast augmentation & then look into chest binding for when you need your breasts to look more like big pecs.

I guess another question you need to consider is chest hair. Do you want it? then look into grooming kits, especially for the underside.

You can also try to do like body building to try to get your pectoral muscles bigger. It only goes so far, but it can give a more masc presentation.

You can also buy breast padding or such from like crossdressing & drag artist shops. But I'm not sure if that fits your needs.

Good Luck, Peace & Love,

Eve

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Happy Trans Day of Visibility! 🏳️‍⚧️✨

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This trans day of visibility, I’d like to give a shoutout to all those invisible trans people out there. There might be any number of reasons that you might want or need to keep yourself hidden. A good reason doesn’t make it any less painful though, doesn’t stop you from feeling more and more like a ghost.

It’s not much, but I’m reaching out. I see you. Underneath the veils we use to hide ourselves, I see you. You are known to us, your sister and brothers and siblings of all stripes. Stay strong, please. I love you.

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to partake in creation. happy tdov !

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Happy trans day of visibility!

Shoutout to trans men!

Shoutout to trans women!

Shoutout to nonbinary, genderqueer, genderfluid, etc. people!

Shoutout to POC trans people!

Shoutout to disabled trans people!

Shoutout to closeted trans people!

Shoutout to all the trans people of our past who paved the way for us!

And let's remember all the trans people who've died trying to life their life as their true selves. They won't be forgotten, and their impact will forever be with us.

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Happy Trans Day of Visibility! 🏳️‍⚧️✨

I couldn’t be more proud to be part of such an amazing community filled with the most wonderful people. My own trans journey has evolved so much over the past year & I am so grateful to be able to be seen today & every day 💙

Once again, I’ve given Egg some (but not all!) flags under the trans umbrella! I hope you can find yours here 🩷

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Are you cool about trans people who don’t physically transition? Are you cool with trans people who transition in unconventional ways? Are you cool with trans people who you perceive as having an appearance that doesn’t align with their gender? Are you cool about trans people who have complex relationships to gender? Are you?

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sorry for semi abandoning tumblr recently but if any of my trans/nb followers have experience using the dating apps tinder/hinge could you consider answering my survey for my university dissertation?

you don't have to give your name, age, location or anything like that. i would be very, very appreciative as i'm finding it hard to get responses!

shares are also appreciated <3