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if you only listen to people of color you find "nice" and digestible when it comes to racism, congrats, youre racist.

people of color are allowed to be angry. we're allowed to be mean and rude to racists. if you decide the angry poc isnt worth listening to because they have to be nice to you, you're choosing to ignore conversations of racism cause its not being filtered for white peoples comfort.

white people can reblog but do not comment on this post

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🟥 and 🟧⬛️ are now apparently being used by TERFs, as well as this horseshit. Supergay/superstraight/superlesbian/superbi just means “transphobe”, heads up

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this thread is the absolute holy grail of repeated self owns

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btw the pepe symbol used to be a white supremacist/fascist icon, but a while back the creator sued and worked to make it illegal for those groups to use the meme. hong king protestors seem to be using it as a symbol for their protest now!! pls signal boost so people don’t label them as white supremacists.

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A good thread on whether “queer” is a slur and if it should be used or not.

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For height-dysphoric trans men - list of shorter male celebrities.

Posted by @ TRANSFlNN on twitter

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not to hop in on the Hottest Discourse but:

age gaps aren’t inherently bad between adults, but they are incredibly suspect in instances where one party has significantly more agency and experience due to their age. a thirty year old dating a forty year old, for instance, isn’t all that big a deal. but an eighteen year old should be VERY suspicious of a thirty year old wanting to get with them. they’ve had twelve years to establish themselves as an adult. an eighteen year old has had maybe a few months to do so.

i’m saying this as a person who briefly dated a thirty year old at age 19 (it wasn’t good lol), and also as a person with happily married parents who have a 12 year age gap. the difference is that my mom was in her thirties when she met my dad; she’d had plenty of time to find a career and a name for herself in the world.

stay safe, love urself, try to make good decisions but don’t beat yourself up if you’ve ever been the victim of an unbalanced or abusive relationship

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this is from 1988 but we’re still having the same conversation thirty years later

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Lee says:

Here’s a transitioning starter pack for all my trans folk out there! 

Transfeminine resources:

Presentation:

Tucking

Chest area

Voice

Broad shoulders tips

Hair removal

Feminine walk

Curves

Waist training

Growing out your hair

Clothing

Makeup

Passing

Medical transitioning:

Not medically transitioning

Fertility

Puberty blockers

Estrogen & anti-androgens/testosterone blockers FAQ

The types of surgery available

Surgery: A guide for transfeminine people

Pumping (Silicone injections)

Facial Feminization Options

Breast Augmentation

Other:

Representation

Transfeminine period dysphoria

Yes, Transfeminine People Can Get Period Symptoms

Slipping into masculinity

Women’s restroom etiquette

Transfeminine people can breastfeed

Having sex or masturbating

Transmasculine resources:

Presentation:

Binding FAQ

Clothing

Facial hair

Masculine makeup

Getting short hair / Masculine long hair

If you can’t start T

Lowering your voice

Packing and standing to pee

Passing as male

Not shaving legs

Medical transitioning:

Not medically transitioning

Fertility

Puberty blockers

Testosterone FAQ

Top surgery

Facial masculinization surgery

Body masculinization surgery

Hysterectomy and oophorectomy

Bottom surgery (genital surgery)

Other:

Periods and related things

Help! I need to see a gyno

Pumping

Masturbation and sex

Using the men’s bathroom

Hudson’s FTM Guide

Height dysphoria

Hip dysphoria

More resources:

What gender am I? A brief intro to questioning

Trans 101 for trans people

What is the transgender umbrella?

How do I choose a name?

How do I come out at work/school or to family/friends?

Dysphoria info and tips page

Mental health coping page

Being trans in school

Non-binary resources

Resources to send allies/friends

A page to send to parents/guardians

Convincing someone to respect name/pronouns 

Here is how to get hormones in the US

Here is how to get hormones in the UK

The NHS’s Guide For Young Trans People in England

Here’s a US resource with info on changing legally changing your name and gender marker 

Here is a UK resource with info on changing legally changing your name and gender marker

What are the WPATH-SOC guidelines?

How to save money

How to buy a trans-related item online without parents knowing

I have to go swimming, what do I wear/do?

Trying to sleep when you have dysphoria

Airposts and traveling by plane

Gender neutral bathrooms

Getting insurance to cover your transition

Does transitioning help mental health?

Trans teen’s experiences with inpatient hospitalization

Trans identity isn’t a mental disorder

Vaping prevalence

Being religious and LGBT

Transgender Lives: Your Stories (to see trans adults) 

Gender neutral pronouns in Spanish

Gender Variance Around the World Over Time

A map of gender-diverse cultures

American LGBT history by the National Parks Service

Crisis help: Suicide and crisis hotlines

Anyone can reblog, including allies!

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Nope. No. You’re wrong. Color photos have been around since the late 1800s there are a bunch of full color photos of MLK. The us govt and educational system just doesn’t show us because they want us to push back the civil rights movement and distance institutionalized racism from today’s society.

Here are just a few of many photos of MLK in FULL color. This wasn’t that long ago. This is RECENT history. Segregation, the terrorizing of black communities, the brutality isn’t old - it is still present.

When my dad was a little boy, my grandfather was one of the ministers who marched with MLK on Washington. He grew up hearing stories about the great Dr. king and the differences he made BUT he still saw the blatant discrimination against black folks and other people of color (hell he experienced it himself). My dad was a kid watching MLK. My DAD. My grandfather who only passed away about six years ago MARCHED with him. This isn’t twelve generations ago. THIS IS RECENT HISTORY.

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Being in a room with straight people talking about straight things is so exhausting.

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representation

i live in denmark, which is very progressive in regards to lgbtq rights. but i didn't know what a trans person was until i was thirteen(2015). and i was told that it was super rare. that it was so so rare that me being trans would be very, very unlikely.

as soon as i found out that being trans was actually, not 7 people in the world, i immediately started questioning my gender identity and since i was close w my parents at the time, i told them about it, because i literally could not see why it would be a social issue. Why it would be seen down on or 'bad'

So they told me: no you are not. And i thought, that must be because i'm not. There's nothing wrong with being trans, I'm just not. Bummer.

My parents could not fathom me being trans, it was unheard of outside of a few special cases.

So i repressed it. I repressed it for a very long time. And as i repressed it, i started hearing my friends talking about 'traps' and 'lady boys' and gesture condescendingly at any male being mildly feminine in public. i watched the rise of """sjws"""" that was described to me by adults on the internet as well as my friends as these women, refusing to do what women did. Refusing science and refusing logic. I didn't wanna be that, did I? Did I? And it all went away. Eventually. It was caused by going to college or being raised by liberals or your dad not being present or anything that wasn't innate or respectable.

Three kinds of trans people were presented to me: the struggling, 'real' trans, the 'exception' didn't do anything, but hurt themselves apparently. The perverted man trying to either trick straight men or fiddle kids or the craaaaaaazy afab refusing to conform out of pure delusion and some unspecifiable mental illness.

I realized I was trans when I watched Contrapoints. It took one trans person telling me that it was alright not to be secure in my identity, to be self-hating. I remember her Tiffany Tumbles video being hugely influential as well as the quote 'i ask myself if i feel like a man or a woman. And the answer is i feel like shit' That wanting to be trans was absolutely a symptom of being trans changed me.

And I think that's why it's important that we have trans entertainers, trans singers, trans actors or trans literally anything in media where teenagers can be reached.

Portraying being transgender as a painful story where you knew from birth, that you were different excludes a lot of people. And when we don't fill in our own representation, our opposition will absolutely make it for us and they have no moral issue with targetting vulnerable teenagers.

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I relate to this

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Keith Haring in 1989: “Unfinished Painting”. Haring died few months after and this is his last painting. This is supposed to be a self-portrait. Haring knew he wouldn’t have enough time to finish it. This is one of the saddest but certainly the most powerful thing I’ve ever seen.

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okay, there are many legitimate reasons to dislike disney, but can we please stop using “disney tells stories based on folktales!!11!!!” as one of them? pretty please, with cherries?

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Maybe this is obvious to most of you but, in case there's at least one of you out there like me who is too impressionable for their own good:

If you are a transman/boi/boy/guy, and you question or doubt your validity all the time, because other guys love cars and you love horses. Because other guys dress in certain styles, or wear their hair in certain ways, and you don't have a sense of fashion, or you just have your own unique style. Because other guys are tough, or muscular, or cool, or charming, or smooth, or hard, and you're none of those....you are still valid. You are still real. Your interests could be crocheting, flower arrangement, and cuddling 5 kittens at once, and you're still a guy. You can giggle, or be goofy, sound "gay," love pumpkin spice lattes. It's all good. You're still a guy. And so am I 💚