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bekysfairy

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— Arabelle Sicardi, from “The Year in Ugliness.”

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ada limon

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“gravestone in pet cemetery, lisbon” (1998) by nan goldin

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I remember years ago when I was still in therapy I told my therapist that I felt bad asking my friends for help because a lot of them were also going through some bad stuff and she told me

“You know, sometimes people in crisis will enjoy helping. It can be a distraction from their own problems.”

And then the next week I reached out to a friend who was in the middle of going through something about what I was going through and my therapist was right. That friend jumped at the opportunity to help.

And I’ve realized since then that my own problems rarely have anything to do with my ability to help others with theirs unless I am literally having an attack of some kind at that moment. In fact, it is actually refreshing to work on other peoples problems with them sometimes. Listening to problems you’re not soaking in constantly and helping your friend is often something you just want to do because you care about them. And you don’t stop caring about people because you’re having a hard time right now.

So I guess sometimes inviting someone into your sinking ship does work actually.

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Chase Bank on Fire by Alex Schaefer // Heel Turn 2 by The Mountain Goats

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there is no such thing as being "behind in life" but it's okay to recognise that you missed out on some things whilst you were busy surviving

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Brian Andreas, “Before Dawn”

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Sufjan stevens, Casimir Pulaski Day

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appointments // julien baker (ig: jayetart)

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ghost of myself // 5.14.2017

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Miracle Apples (2013) ‘奇跡のリンゴ’ dir. Yoshihiro Nakamura

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Clarice Lispector, from Água Viva

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whatever was left, that was ours for a while.

sunrise - louise glück

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jeff buckley