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Help a trans girl get away from her abusive parents

My name is Max, I’m a trans girl and I am currently in an abusive situation. (I really have no idea what else to put here) Personal info: - My full name is Maxine E Strider, and this is my chosen and legal name - I am currently in a relationship with a lovely woman named Violet - I have been on HRT for a little over a year now, started on January 7, 2018 - I am diagnosed with Bi-Polar, ADHD and Depression and Anxiety, I have undiagnosed autism and memory issues - My current goal in life is to move in with my girlfriend and start college during the spring 2019 quarter if possible - My contact info is through Tumblr @MaxineMutini or on Discord @Maxine#0413 Current situation: I currently live with my parents who emotionally abuse me in various ways including emotional manipulation, yelling/arguing , and knowingly acting in a way that causes panic attacks. My girlfriend of 4 months cannot support me as she is saving up for a car and the trip down from Canada, where she currently lives, to the US. My extended family is either unaware of my situation, supports my parents, does not approve of me being trans, or a combination of those three. As such, I cannot get support from them. I cannot get a job due to my situation and massive anxiety issues combined, and even if I did manage to get work, I would not be able to keep it for long due to the very same reasons. I have already attempted seeking disability benefits from Social Security, and failed. My brain is screwed up in all the wrong ways: I have Bi-Polar Mood Disorder, General Depression, General Anxiety, PTSD, Autism (specifically Asperger’s Syndrome), and memory issues. As such, my mood is unstable, and my depression and anxiety make every day difficult to bear. Social situations, and therefore any type of customer service, are very difficult and anxiety inducing, and I always come off as weird and unsociable. My parents have caused multiple problems in my life, including my previously mentioned PTSD and Anxiety. They have given me bad self esteem and massive trust issues towards myself and others. They have caused me to feel worthless and stupid, as well as causing me to beat myself down to the very same effect. I am currently in therapy for my Bi-Polar, depression and anxiety, but my therapist does not know about my situation, and I am afraid to tell her. Current intent and goals: My parents and my genetics have tag teamed to beat me down into the dust and cause me to loose hope in my future, and I’m sick of it. As such it is my intention to get out of this situation and live on my own until my girlfriend is able to join me. I also would like to attend college this spring, and I’m currently working towards that. My dog can be left behind, and honestly, that is preferred. My intention is to leave silently and, if possible, no warning at all. Any help would be greatly appreciated gofundme page: https://www.gofundme.com/help-a-trans-girl-get-away-from-abusive-parents A little Tumblr exclusive note: I know yall will eventually see this as a scam, so if you suspect that, please just message me. I’m perfectly willing to chat with anyone that has questions or concerns. It may take a while to get back to you, but I will.

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me: i hate violence

also me: *sees a trump supporter*

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SNL Weekend Update: May 18th 2019, Leslie Jones on the new abortion laws

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Ok so I'm not going to do this anonymously because i don't fear getting chastised for my own ignorance but there are other alternatives to abortion aren't there? I mean i honestly don't understand this bill nonsense but it mostly at least to me sounds like it's just to keep children alive. I mean there are adoption centers and people who will actually pay women who are pregnant to act as surrogates. Why is anti abortion so bad? And how is this a woman's autonomy probpem. Please educate me

First, I want to thank you for acknowledging that your perspective on this may be informed from a place of systemic oppression of AFAB people, and for seeking out information. When people add on to this post with the purpose to educate, I implore you all to remember this person is seeking information. Please avoid shaming them or ridiculing them.

Let’s first address your questions:

1) “There are other alternatives to abortion aren’t there?”

Let’s first define abortion. “In medicine, an abortion is the premature exit of the products of conception (the fetus, fetal membranes, and placenta) from the uterus. It is the loss of a pregnancy and does not refer to why that pregnancy was lost. A spontaneous abortion is the same as a miscarriage. The miscarriage of three or more consecutive pregnancies is termed habitual abortion or recurrent pregnancy loss”  (Shiel MD, MedicineNet).

¼ womxn will have abortions in their lifetime. Abortion is a medical procedure that can be requested or required for a lot of different reasons:

The pregnant person may not be able to carry an embryo to term safely.

The pregnant person may not have the financial support to pay for the medical bills that pregnancy costs in the US (prenatal and delivery alone can cost around $18k).  

I also want to add that people in this country are not given any kind of financial support for the time taken off for prenatal or postnatal care. Being out of work for this time could mean entering extreme poverty.

The pregnant person may not have the financial support or stability of lifestyle to support a child.

The pregnant person may not be physically up to the task of carrying a child to term and delivering. Not all womb-having people are up to what childbirth does to the body. Childbirth is one of the most dangerous things that a body can be put through.  In the US we’re just under 20 maternal deaths per 100,000 births, which is the highest in the developed world. Some undeveloped countries have better stats than we do

Abortion may be required as an emergency life-saving procedure for the pregnant person. And waiting for approval by a committee could mean the death of that person.

Medical interference can also be needed if the embryo has already been determined unviable (basically will not ever have life) because having dead tissue remain in the womb will kill the person. Wombs don’t always do what they’re supposed to and often they will still act as if the pregnancy is going along normally when the embryo stopped growing and forming.

Abortion as a medical procedure is part of basic reproductive healthcare. Denying it is like denying the use of a c-section or blood transfusions.

I also want to add that many of these GOP states are seeking to classify any and all contraceptives as “abortion” as well. This isn’t included in this bill specifically but it’s been named as part of their agendas.

2) “I mean I honestly don’t understand this bill nonsense but it mostly at least to me sounds like it’s just to keep children alive.”According to the CDC, 91.1% of abortions are performed at ≤13 weeks’ gestation. At this time, this is an embryo and fetal tissue. It’s not a child. Pro-life people are placing the eventual *possible* life of a being that isn’t even formed yet above the autonomy and rights of a living human being (the pregnant person). A zygote without a brain or the ability to survive outside the womb is not a person, and therefore not a child. We have determined that something without brain activity is not alive. People with wombs are not incubators. This is not the sum of our existence.

Right now you cannot force a person to give blood or organs in life-saving situations. Why should it be okay to force a person to donate their entire body as an incubator if they don’t want to, which has health complications, and long-lasting effects on the body? We even afford humans that are DEAD more rights than womb-having people in this country. It is illegal to take organs or tissue from dead bodies with no brain activity without consent, but it’s legal to force a living person to act as an incubator for tissue and chromosomes that aren’t even formed to make a person yet?

Also, this bill has SO much more nuanced support for the oppression of women than just keeping “children” alive. This affords the state the right to investigate any suspicion of “intentional abortion.” This means, if a person miscarries, they may be subject to invasive investigation and murder charges on top of grieving for their loss and recovering medically. This bill also in no certain terms basically considers all womb-having people in their state to be the property of the state by allowing people to be extradited and charged if they have a LEGAL abortion procedure in another state.

3) “I mean there are adoption centers and people who will actually pay women who are pregnant to act as surrogates. Why is anti-abortion so bad?” We currently have 108,000 foster children up for adoption right this second in the US. This doesn’t even include unwanted pregnancies being given to private adoption agencies. Adopt one if you want to save a child, but forcing people to enter crippling debt, put their body through the abuse of childbirth, and possible forced poverty because of lack of childcare or compensation for missing work isn’t okay.

Additionally, anti-abortion really only seems to be concerned with one thing - popping out children. There is ZERO concern for the health, wellbeing, or survival of that child OR the parent afterward. This is oppressive and forced childbirth expectations. And again, reduces womb-having people as nothing more than a means to an end. Their life and wellbeing aren’t considered - they’re incubators.

4) “How is this a woman’s autonomy problem.”All of the above. The entire idea of denying women normal reproductive medical procedures or criminalize a natural thing that our bodies DO is inherently oppressive. Deciding that a womb-having person is just supposed to do their best to carry to term an embryo regardless of danger to their life, medical needs, e, inability to care for the child, inability to pay medical bills, or the abuse that childbirth puts on the body… and possibly condemning them to death, poverty, or life-long debt removes the ability for a person to choose what is done or what is done TO their body. It’s inherently oppressive.

Make no mistake, these bills have very little to do with saving the lives of children, and everything to do with keeping women impoverished, oppressed, and without any control over their own bodies and lives. These bills are also written and signed without ANY input or oversight primarily by the people they affect. This is not a choice that womb-having people made… these are oppressive laws being forced upon them.

Some final personal notes from me: I am currently in a place where I would suffer greatly from these laws if they were to be implemented in my state. First of all, if I were to get pregnant, mine would be a high-risk pregnancy. It is likely that I could lose the pregnancy anytime within the first two trimesters, which would require an abortive procedure to remove the remaining tissue. If I’m to get pregnant, I need to know that modern medical procedures that are agreed to be the most effective best practices would be available to me by a doctor without the threat of criminalization or debating on whether it’s necessary/legal. This affects all people who may ever become pregnant. This is a clear and present fear for us. It’s not just anti-abortion. If that’s all it was… the answer would be simple, don’t have one. If you need one to save your life, you can choose to say no. But it’s not. This is about controlling womxn, denying us healthcare, and we are afraid. We are all desperately terrified of this becoming the new normal across our country. ONE in FOUR pregnancies ends in the need for abortion. And if you need one, you get one. This is about whether or not we have access to SAFE and MEDICALLY sanctioned abortions. 

I really encourage you to do some additional research and reading from educational sites. Be wary of both FOX News, CNN, major news networks, and any journalists with a religious agenda. Further reading: https://prochoice.org/education-and-advocacy/downloads-resources/https://iwhc.org/2018/09/abortion-normal-and-vital/https://www.prochoiceamerica.org/issue/abortion-access/I’d really appreciate if any followers could tack on additional resources, statistics, and personal stories. This is SO important. 

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10 Signs of High Functioning Anxiety | psych2go x Natasha Ho

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Mary Poppins (1964) dir. Robert Stevenson

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things that are extremely difficult for me

making phone calls

talking to people

asking employees questions at stores

making appointments

living

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EVERYONE DROP WHAT YOU’RE DOING AND LOOK AT THIS SAD DUMB FLAMINGO I FOUND AT HY-VEE

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so I got into grad school today with my shitty 2.8 gpa and the moral of the story is reblog those good luck posts for the love of god

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If you could see anxiety. What would you describe it as?

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