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how do i kill the idea of interviews? not like kill things facilitating them like companies and hr but the very concept of it

i want to reach into the noosphere and stab the very concept from the collective human consciousness

what i guess im getting at is this appeals to you then apply to my interview killer taskforce where the best of you might have a chance to work with me to kill interviews once and for all

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There was something a trans woman said to us long before we came to realize ourselves. I think this was back in 2008 or so, I can hardly be sure of the time or site, and those specifics aren't important. We had exchanged DMs on most days for a while, and I asked her how she was doing. She replied, "I looked in the mirror and there was a pretty woman with stubble staring back at me."

I recall asking her whether this was a good thing or not, and she affirmed it was. Her body felt like hers, and she could only see herself as a girl, regardless of such things. She had simply admired her reflection for what it is, shaved, and moved happily on.

I think why it stuck with us for so long, was that it was the first time I had heard a trans woman talk about herself in such a way. I was in a few lgbt groups at the time, identifying as a gay man, and had interacted with them a number of times, finding them good company and relatable for reasons that needed another few years to come out. They had always couched such things in disappointment, as though any incongruence with femininity had snatched all the joy it brought them.

This was the first time it occurred to me, that you could learn to see yourself as inalienably feminine. That your body is a woman's body, if you want it to be, and nothing can take from you.

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Finding a colorblind friendly redesign of the rainbow flag has me happy to see a pride flag for once

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little kids make me laugh. i was at a party yesterday and a kid was there and she noticed that i have a long straight cut along the length of my thumb and asked about it, so i told her it was a cat scratch, almost healed, didn't hurt. and then she was sorta staring and touching it for a bit and went "you had bone surgery. because there were termites in your bones."

so i played along and went "oh man, i hope they got em all!" and she went "no. they put in more." lmao

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i'm literally cuddlebait. i'm internationally recognized as a snuggle risk. they've got me on the registry of snoozers with two charges of soft and reasonable suspicions of smells good

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gorgeous looking fem!shadow and her stupid ass adam sandler looking gf

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the thing about "age gap" discourse is that it's all framed in this way that carefully fails to account anywhere for the structure of patriarchy, instead cleverly hiding it in the background like furniture.

"i think wide age gaps are problematic" is framed as if it's a general concern. but if you ask for an example they will ALWAYS reach first for the case of an older man and a younger woman. this is meant to read as being self-evidently in favor of their point of view, but it only works that way if you fail to ask why it is self-evident that an older man would hold such disproportionate power.

why? is it perhaps the case that men tend in general to accrue more power & wealth & influence & position as they age? does that phenomenon arise naturally or are we perhaps talking around some other set of explicable social phenomena? is there some reason why, as is heavily implied by your argument, women do not accrue the aforementioned advantages as they age in the same way? without arguing that the relationship you describe either is or is not "problematic," can we examine whether we are framing correctly what exactly might be problematic about it? in this example, age is used as a convenient synecdoche that stands in for all the privilege that typically accrues to men as time goes on and as they advance within the patriarchal hierarchies woven into their personal and professional lives: a youth becomes a family patriarch, a bachelor becomes head of a household, a junior clerk becomes a C-suite suit. a woman, in the equivalent time, does not accrue patriarchal privilege as she ages -- in fact, absent other factors, her power (& value, since her only power under patriarchy is her value) decline the older she gets. lumping all this under "age gap" is not just simplistic, it's wrong.

this is illustrated in counterexample by the fact that when people who are fixated on "age gaps" give an example with an older woman and a younger man, they never fail to get more specific and make her his teacher, or his babysitter (current or ex-), or to specify this time that she is wealthy and he is destitute. it becomes obvious that once again, age is a stand-in in each case for some other differential of power -- structural power within the institution of the school for the teacher, the dyadic mentor/mentee carer/cared-for dynamic for the babysitter, and the simple familiar gulf between wealth and poverty for the rich woman.

the people fixated on "age gaps" either won't mention queer relationships at all because they raise inconvenient questions, or they'll actually come out and say "well it's kinda different for queer people and i can't weigh in uwu," or they'll go mask-off reactionary and invoke the specter of queer grooming to drive their point home. it makes little difference.

every statistic shows that people who own horses have excellent health outcomes. thinking about this for even two seconds should make clear that this is because only rich people own horses and rich people get excellent healthcare; the horses have nothing to do with it. the people who are worried about "age gaps" aren't even always wrong that there's a problematic power difference in a relationship, but their analysis of why that is makes about as much sense as "a horse every day keeps the doctor away" makes as medical advice.

say what you fucking mean.

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actually she’s a fe-mailpony now !!

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As [Mikoyan] declared in a January 1936 speech: “I am a great supporter of the production of ice cream. Certain comrades believe to this day that ice cream is merely a children’s treat, and is of no use to grown-ups.” At this point Mikhail Kalinin, who was in attendance, exclaimed, “But everyone loves ice cream!” Mikoyan replied, “They love it, but some shun it out of hypocrisy, because they believe it’s just for kids. The production of ice cream needs to be expanded as much as possible. I am lobbying for ice cream, because it is a very delicious and nourishing food.”

important soviet discourse

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We need to bring back free the nipple

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a REALLY cute drawing I got from saintsucrose recently!!

absolutely adore the lil details in this one….. ;w;

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