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Some words to use when writing things:

winking

clenching

pulsing

fluttering

contracting

twitching

sucking

quivering

pulsating

throbbing

beating

thumping

thudding

pounding

humming

palpitate

vibrate

grinding

crushing

hammering

lashing

knocking

driving

thrusting

pushing

force

injecting

filling

dilate

stretching

lingering

expanding

bouncing

reaming

elongate

enlarge

unfolding

yielding

sternly

firmly

tightly 

harshly

thoroughly

consistently

precision

accuracy

carefully

demanding

strictly

restriction

meticulously

scrupulously

rigorously

rim

edge

lip

circle

band

encircling

enclosing

surrounding

piercing

curl

lock

twist

coil

spiral

whorl

dip

wet

soak

madly

wildly

noisily

rowdily

rambunctiously

decadent

degenerate

immoral

indulgent

accept

take

invite

nook

indentation

niche

depression

indent

depress

delay

tossing

writhing

flailing

squirming

rolling

wriggling

wiggling

thrashing

struggling

grappling

striving

straining

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“Did you get a good look at it, pervert!” 😂

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the greatest sight you’ll ever see.

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JMSN

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family style vs michelin mode

In a previous post I asked if the menu was different in season 2 and @t0rturedp03t pointed out to me they were doing family style before and the fact that in season 3 we go from this...

to this...

Not sure if anyone talked about this yet ,but i find it interesting how the food went from warmth to coldness. Pretty on brand for season three. I get michelin mode is supposed to look like art, but the food looks lonely as hell. It has zero warmth. Like no shade, but wtf is this? I don't want to eat that.

Carmy went from warmth to coldness and it shows in his creating these michelin style dishes. He feels joyless and so is the food. It sucked the joy right out of the kitchen and everyone is feeling it. Like even the viewers of the show. I felt cold as shit after watching this season and it took a lot for me to get back to why I enjoy this show.

Damn..the symbolism. ugh this show.

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Thank you, Chef!

Abandonment is definitely going to be the theme of next season. If Sydney does decide to leave (highkey fingers crossed), then Carmy will have in his head that Sydney gave up on him and The Bear, essentially abandoning him. Sydney on the other hand will claim that she was abandoned by him too many times to count like you said (leaving her to run brigade in S1, leaving her to handle reno to hang with Claire in S2, and now mentally, emotionally and physically abandoning her this season).

Her absence will lead to an enlightenment like it did after she quit the first time. It’s unfortunate she has to threaten her livelihood to get across to him but it’s effective (luckily she has a job in line this season). He’s gonna have to come to her with some signs of improvement because promises are dead to her now, mean nothing coming from him. The parallels of the table scene where it was just them two speaking openly and giving their undivided attention to one another in comparison to him being uninterested in her, distant and leaving her at the table perfectly depicts how horrible things are between him.

I’ll give Storer that.

They knew as viewers we were hoping Carmy was heading to Sydney's place.

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🎯

He DITCHED her after he invited her to this event with literal strangers that she was initally intimidated by (except for Richie but he stayed in the kitchen). She was lucky that she was able to gel well with their table of established chefs because he was not helping her commingle AT ALL, pretty much left her to fend for herself as he zoned out. Thank god Sydney is personable and Luca was there to assist because the only time we see Carmy speak to her aside from introducing her to the table is when he’s filling her and Luca in on the maniac boss before leaving the table and never coming back. Insane to think their last shared words this season were her calling his name, essentially begging him not to chase after his boss and also not to leave her there alone and yet he completely ignored her just like he had done this whole season after telling her he wouldn’t do that to her again after the walk-in incident.

He abandoned her.

From the viewers standpoint, he didn’t even say anything to her to let her know he left after speaking with both of his old bosses. I’m sure Chef Terry had to tell her that Carmy had left and he didn’t come to her after party for what we know. Hopefully it was intended that his walking was him walking to her place and maybe it picks up with him walking up to her panicking outside her apartment. It’s kinda far fetched but would be a good continuation if the writers have any sense.

Like you’re not going to ask her if she enjoyed herself? Not going to check if she was okay getting home? If not for any of those reasons than to just tell her about the review at least!

Carmy has a LOT of apologizing to do and that’s just the tip of the iceberg.

They knew as viewers we were hoping Carmy was heading to Sydney's place.

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3x03

The way he looks at Syd here. I found it extremely interesting and back then I understood it a certain way but now that I have the whole context, meaning I have finished watching season 3...well I see it in a totally different light. Okay this might be a bit long one but here me out. 

At first, I thought Carmy was mad. They were in the rush of service and some plates took longer than necessary to be ready and so he was in his full-asshole Chef mode, running expo in a way that was cold and stressing. I thought he was simply angry because Sydney went to help Tina with the pasta cooking/plating. 

I still think he is mad but with the events in the following episodes, I believe it is way more than that, I think it is much deeper than I expected it to be and I might be reading into this too much but I made another meta and I feel like I cannot speak about this scene without bringing the Carmy scene at Ever in 3x10. 

Now, I think Carmy is jealous. I believe he is impressed. He is mad. He is so fucking envious. He is scared, petrified even. Carmy is in awe and quite astonished. 

That is how I see it now.

The thing is Sydney is portrayed as being impatient, and sure she might have shown some signs of being so regarding certain aspects but when it comes to cooking, when it comes to leading a team, when it comes to being the Chef of cuisine, when it is about running her kitchen, her cooks, she is patient. 

Sydney is patient and calm and pedagogue. She is willing to repeat, to assist and to help. She does not shout, she does not squeeze you even more into the panic of the kitchen even if the situation pleads her to do so. Sydney is loving, caring and fulfilling. She brings back your confidence up, she highlights your strengths, she shows that she trusts you. Sydney is willing to wait, repeat and assist you without doing it all for you even under the humongous pressure of time and peak service. She provides the tools, shows you how to use them in the most efficient way and lets you do it, her hand ready to chime in if needed, if you ask for it. Essentialy, she's a humonguous talented force that whispers you that you can do it. You can do it, Tina. You can do it, Marcus. You can do it.

We saw that during season 1. We saw that again during season 2. She is special, she is something. We saw that once more during season 3, more precisely with Tina, taking the seconds necessary to show her multiple times how to properly cook the pasta and plate it correctly even under the pressure of service. She sets aside her work and helps, guiding Tina with utmost care. She was annoyed too. She was stressed. It was in the middle of service, it delayed everything but Sydney still helped. 

And what did Carmy do in those specific instances? 

He shouted. He was cold, destroying Tina’s confidence, spitting deprecating comments. He did not help. He did not love. He did not care. Sure, he’s under pressure but Sydney is too and yet Sydney stopped and went to Tina, she understood her distress, she felt her silent cry of help and crossed the kitchen to her, steadying Tina again, calmly, without harsh words, without being a total prick even if the situation was nerve-wracking. 

Carmy saw that. He looked at that interaction, watched Sydney be a teacher, a pedagogue, he saw Sydney be the Chef he is not. The Chef he probably never will be. He gazed at something that he does not know how to do, at something he did not even think possible in a kitchen. 

He looked at it and was mad, impressed, envious and solemn. He looked at Sydney as if she is special, as if this is special and something. Something that was worth taking a few seconds to stop, to see and take in. The few seconds he pointedly declared they did not have to Tina.

That is something.

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They didn't even have or show

Marcus' cousin Terrell (whose graduation he mentioned in Braciole in Season One) attending in his mom's funeral.

Where in God's name was Marcus' family???

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Christopher Storer....

What in God's name are you trying to tell us with the optics of this scene in S3E3? A table of four (presumably) friends (and possible critics) - two Black men, a Black woman, and a white woman,

overstay their welcome in their booth and are tactfully shooed out by Richie as he guides them, "I saw this beautiful, curious looking table and I thought, let's pull back the curtain for these guys~" as he guides them Back of House to see...

Carmy yelling at Sydney, his Black CDC yet again...

The unimpressed faces the two women guests make in response speaks volumes:

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just finished the bear season 3 and there is such a collective cognitive dissonance from everywhere from the writing of the show all the way to the social media marketing.

i know i’m biased because i particularly like syd and carmy together, but this season was strange but in different ways than the last season was strange.

not only does carmy take a backseat as a protagonist about halfway through, he and syd have hardly any scenes together, but i think the show almost suffers for it. this season was certainly funnier than the last, but the neil and ted fak got old and old fast. it certainly doesn’t help that even though carmy has a new arc every season, but he doesn’t take the lessons he should’ve learned into how he should act going forward. it’s stunting his growth and now that we have three seasons to compare to one another, it’s only more apparent.

we’ve already talked about how funny characters are stronger than comic relief characters and that’s essentially what the faks are. i really liked neil’s more vulnerable moments where he got to be taken seriously but it’s hard to take him seriously when all of his screen time is him doing stupid shit. also the hauntings thing? it really was not that funny.

also the show is making such an active attempt to rewrite its own history and i don’t understand why. so many little details that connect moments from the past and present to make up who the characters are and yet it’s kind of being thrown out the window.

claire being described as carmy’s peace threw me for a loop because he felt out of place in his own relationship. i think we all know the clip of carmy’s late s2 panic attack where thinking of claire and him together makes it worse but now we are given so many more scenes of when he was happy? what narrative are they trying to spin here? was carmy genuinely in love with claire or mostly disinterested, because it can’t be both.

even claire doesn’t seem interested in being with carmy at this point, and who can blame her?

her presence was just kind of weird to me, because she didn’t really interact with the rest of the cast until the 9th episode. i think her brief hospital scenes were to flesh her out more, but it’s really just creating vulnerabilities and revealing the seams. and because she’s never really been developed as much as everyone else in the series, we’re left with more questions. who was that in her bed? why was she never fired for insane medical malpractice? what is any of this for?

also a lot of the lighting this season has changed. i saw one user (can’t remember who but their post was super interesting) mention how much warmer and inviting the scenes with syd are as opposed to the coolness and almost detachment the scenes with claire were. except we see carmy in cool lighting a lot more this season.

i also wanted to add where carmy gets overwhelmed in the finale, thoughts of claire coming in with a violin sting like a horror movie doesn’t add to the narrative that they keep telling us. that’s another thing i noticed. they tell us how great claire was even though their time together hindered him being involved with his passions and his coworkers, but they retcon things and add scenes of them happy and have carmy tell us how amazing she is but they barely cared to show us.

a huge theme in this show is family and responsibility. and the scene where neil fak said claire could be the one to take care of carmy and vice versa really rubbed me the wrong way. first of all, i think it kind of supports the idea of codependency which isn’t great but i could be reaching. second, carmy isn’t really equipped to take care of anyone and i think the way he interacts with his coworkers when he’s frustrated is proof of that.

don’t get me wrong, i thought this season was amazing television, christopher storer is a brilliant writer and director, joanna calo really should helm more episodes bc ice chips was actually a perfect episode, and ayo getting the opportunity to direct tina’s episode was so amazing and i really hope i see her name in more directorial projects in the near future. but i think we’re getting a little lost in the plot here and losing sight of what the heart of the show is. the literal restaurant. and logically some of the decisions made don’t exactly hold up and i would hate to see this show fumble.

it can’t be a coincidence that so much of the show’s marketing is tied to carmy and syd and i think efforts to trick the audience are actually making the show suffer. or the increasingly less subtle decisions in the editing in the few scenes of them together? are you really gonna gaslight a whole audience for the sake of a misdirect?

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Another amazing human out here doing the important work.

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Meta Masterlist

In No Particular Order...

Carmy the Artist

Never apologize

Season 2 & episode titles gives us a glimpse into Syd x Carmy’s love story.

Season 2 and Strange Currencies

Syd x Carmy: The creation of Eros

Syd + Carmy- Labels

Carmy and the walk in

Carmy + Amends

Seven Fishes and The Timer Part One

Seven Fishes and The Timer Part Two

Where's That Phone Call?

Season 3 and The lay of the land

Syd, Carmy, + Anhedonia

Sydney's Search for Connection

The Muse Theory

The Bear and Corresponding Episode Moments

the Vow

Sydney and The Focal Point Part One

Sydney and The Focal Point Part 2

Monster

Fak and Richie's Roles

Touch

Richie + Carmy-Kin

Being Shitty

Concept of Time

Clock is Ticking

Sorry Sign

Refire the Sets

The use of the word thought

Syd and Carmy- A Lover's Quarrel

The Meaning of Pop

Fixing and Empathy

Sydney's Reactions

Sydney and Carmy Certain of Nothing

Sydney and The Sense of Urgency

The Subconscious and Cinematography

The Hues in Carmy's Mind

Syd and Carmy- Romantic Beats

Mars and Venus

I wasn't Jealous or Anything

Jeff's Friend

The Painting

Sydney and Carmy Timeline

Fishes Opening Scene Analysis

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I love the "pasta and lobster" caption as sydney and carmy soft launch insta post caption, but can I also suggest Estelle American Boy "I just met this 5' 7" guy who's just my type" as a possible candidate as well.

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I’ve said this a MILLION TIMES! like the whole day leading up to the realization of the error on the pre orders was a shit on Syd type of day to start.

Richie insinuating her doing sexual favors for the column in the paper and then called her out her name during an argument HE started

Tina threw Louie on her to train as a punishment for HER CHILD

to top it off Richie accused her of trying to turn over the restaurant for her on personal benefit and to “kick out the OGs”

while also steering them from learning the system sooner to fix the problem before it started

Carmy is always talking about her paying her dues when it comes to the abuse she was dealing with and putting a shit ton of pressure on her to fulfill what everyone else was lacking. To turn around and solely blame her for the pre order error is fucked up.

She had every right to quit. She apologized, attempted to remediate the problem at the moment but Carmy was so far gone he blew her completely off and in turn abused her just like all the others.

If anything, Sydney showed her worth by not standing for it any longer, choosing to remove herself from the toxic environment before she really lost it (especially after accidentally stabbing someone would be the perfect time to leave) and most employers would’ve mandated it.

When she said “this isn’t on me” she wants referring to the orders, that’s stupid to even believe, she was talking about her decision to leave, she was forced out by the disrespect that she would no longer take. She even said that Carm was an excellent chef so it had nothing to do with the food or the restaurant (she was right there with him hoping to get it to work) but everything to do with his behavior and everyone else’s around.

Just rewatched "Review" and saw some reactions to the episode and have some thoughts on the idea that "Syd should have apologized."

Firstly, she already did. When Carmy brought the runaway preorders to her attention, her immediate reaction was shock and disbelief, but then she quickly said “I’m sorry --” before Carmy cut her off. So she acknowledged her mistake and tried to apologize for it. But Carmy wasn’t hearing it because he was already starting to freak out.

Secondly, actions >>> words. Syd showed accountability by putting 110% into trying to fix/manage an impossible situation. But her feelings of guilt + Carmy blaming and excoriating her + the extreme stress of the situation caused her to spiral. Not to mention at certain points Carmy just shut her down when she was trying to help. Ultimately, she quit when she realized how futile the situation was.

Thirdly, Carmy shares blame for the preorders getting out of control. Syd brought the device and didn’t change the settings, but Carmy set it up that morning and left it running without checking it. I think he did that because he had so much blind faith that Syd already had it covered, which is lowkey sweet but also tragic given how he behaved the rest of the episode.

Finally – and most importantly – this was an IMPOSSIBLE situation. They did not have the time nor the ingredients to fill up all those orders, and the orders kept piling up like crazy. Even the best crew in the world would have failed to make 200+ sandwiches in less than 10 minutes.

Restaurants cancel preorders all the time, and The Beef had a good excuse, they could’ve just said that their preorder device was brand new and glitching out, then maybe offer the customers a free meal.

But Carmy refused to face reality and set the tone for the rest of the team: angry, impatient, scattered, and pointing fingers at each other instead of working together.

Anyway Syd did the best she could in that situation but it was out of her control. Like Carmy, she's high-strung, takes failure very personally, and internalizes others' feelings. But she's normally able to counterbalance Carmy's intensity with her gentleness, and as Tina pointed out in that episode, Syd was NOT acting in character ("this isn't you!"), which serves to emphasize just how extreme the situation was.

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Brother White and Sister Edebiri- Backstage at The Golden Globes, and at The Emmys.