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the power of fluffy girls shines within you!

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radio antennae are a rare case actually where the dish does the sweeping

Y'know what they say about dishes !! Sweepy sweepy !!

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do not let up the pressure

https://yellat.money/

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really hard not to see the redefinition of TERF from "feminist who wants to exclude trans women from feminism and women's spaces" to "feminist who isnt niceys to men" as, in part, conscious violence, because you've managed to call trans women men, to make our oppression about yourself, and to call us a hate group directed at us, all in one. genuinely makes me want to hurt someone.

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it's so easy to peer pressure men to become women. nobody is telling them that they shouldn't be women or be like women in any way, so pretty much as soon as i suggest it it's a piece of cake

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if ur plural say something nice about ur headmate(s) in the tags. if ur a singlet say something nice about a system u know

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The trope I appreciate very much

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as a pink lover. The ""universal""" hatred of the color pink by young girls is due to the heavy expectation of femininity forced on them. It is an expression of frustration at gender roles. It is not internalized misogyny. No you will not inevitably start liking pink as an adult and if you do that is not healing your inner divine feminine or whatever we're saying now. Its a color. 😁👍

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When trans women are mocked and made into jokes in the media, I get very upset, and I am often told “Kay, you can’t go through life getting offended every time someone makes a joke.” And I sputter and object but they don’t hear me. So I want to be clear for once, about why the jokes make me angry.

I learned to hate myself for being transgender before I knew I was transgender. I laughed at the jokes in stand up comedy routines, and prime time sitcoms, and animated comedy shows, and in the movies, and in books, and in games, laughing at trans women for existing, about “men in dresses”, about people who “got their dicks chopped off”, and I learned to think that was worthy of ridicule.

And then a day came when I felt a pang of envy at what my female classmates were wearing and I repressed it, and felt guilty, and a day where I felt incomplete because I had no breasts and I repressed it and I felt disgusting And a day when I realized the only images of romance that made me feel anything showed two women together and I repressed it and I felt like a monster And a day when I realized I felt sick when I looked at myself in the mirror after every shower before work and couldn’t bear to look at my own face, and I hated myself. And then there came a day when I hated myself so much, and I thought I could never understand why, and so I just wanted it all to end. And it was just a miracle that I swerved my car back into my lane in time.

And all of it started with a joke that I heard on TV, and then kept hearing from all the voices from the ether, over and over and over, worming an idea into my mind before I was old enough to realize I was absorbing it, the idea that a man in a dress is funny, and that changing your body parts makes you a freak, and that women who have penises instead of vaginas are liars and hurt men. And they’re still making these jokes. And somewhere out there right now, just like all those years ago, there is a little girl in a t-shirt and cargo shorts with buzzed off hair watching the TV, hearing that joke and absorbing it without knowing it, who will someday have to pry herself apart to tear it out of her head, just like I did.

That is, if she doesn’t kill herself first.

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Top things to say as a trans woman to get a free lecture from a cis person

"I wish I had a period"

"I don't like drag"

"I want bigger boobs"

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I just wanted to say it means a lot to see another black transfem on here. I’m dark skinned so naturally people assume I am incapable of being feminine or even attractive so to see someone also black, also transfem, recognized as gorgeous - it means a lot. I hope this isn’t a bother!

Not a bother at all!!

I’m really glad it helps you and also fr other Black transfemmes are so fucking gorgeous too. Less of us post pictures on here but I’ve known so many other Black dolls from Twitter and it’s like across the board we all be looking good but also are accosted by brainworms of “every other Black doll looks good but me”.

But also so many of us got run off by systemic Transmisogynoir and harassment that it’s hard to see those of us that’re left.

Ooooo idea. If you’re a Black trans person, especially Black transfemmes, reblog with a selfie/photo of you even if you normally don’t share so that we can see more people like us.

This is me and my partner Sabrina! We were doing a Magnus Archives cosplay of Agnes and Annabelle :3

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I have an important announcement: there is a post on here that annoys me.

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fun fact due to a bureaucratic error on behalf of the hospital my bottom surgery was almost delayed 5 months. I’d already taken 4 months off work that I couldn’t change. I was fucked. I emailed them politely. Then I begged desperately. And nothing happened, I got polite emails back expressing sympathy. I begged for week. Then I filled out the paperwork necessary to sue the hospital, sent them an email that I’d be in the lobby the next morning to serve them the paperwork and officially sue them. When I showed up to the lobby they realized I wasn’t bluffing and gave me a surgical date when I originally should have had it had they not fucked up.

The only way to handle being a trans woman is to be angry when necessary and go after the money of those in power.

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today class we're learning the difference between "is" and "ought" statements.

"is" statements describe the way things are, but not necessarily how they should be. for example that respondant IS wrong, but that's not to say they should continue to be wrong. we want people to say things that are right.

on the other hand that respondant OUGHT to drive a metal pole through their skull, but that doesn't mean that that IS something they're doing

do we understand kids?

Trans women are women, you can tell because we too have to constantly bend over backwards to cater to the desires of men lest we be cast as horrible crazy bitches, and that's about as womanly as it gets in our society.

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I still can't believe we let the broader LGBT sphere get away with "hating men means hating trans women" for so long

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the increasing popularity of "malgendering" as a way to frame correctly gendering trans men as bad actually might be the most damaging part of the transandrophobia bullshit breaking containment