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one of the things that really hurts, like existentially, about being a transgender woman, is the fact that every transgender woman i know, even briefly or tangentially, is traumatized, or suicidal, or in a precarious housing situation, or mentally ill, or seeking medical transition services and unable to access them, or suffering from any number of the various tribulations endemic to being a transgender woman.

I absolutely sincerely wish that I could help everyone, to be there for everyone… but the sad reality is that i can’t. i don’t have enough money or time or resources to help everybody. i try as much as i can but there’s always times when i can’t help, or even in helping i cannot do enough or do the right thing to help enough.

i hope it doesn’t sound like i have a savior complex or something. it just hurts to see suffering over and over and not being able to alleviate it. there’s no way to remove that feeling.

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With Kate Mckinnon voicing Ms Frizzle, imagine how upset conservatives will get when they find out a lesbian is using magic to teach kids science. It’s like their worst nightmare.

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Please don't tell me she's voicing Ms. Frizzle

She's a transmisogynist

With Kate Mckinnon voicing Ms Frizzle, imagine how upset conservatives will get when they find out a lesbian is using magic to teach kids science. It’s like their worst nightmare.

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This is a callout post for my girlfriend

Why doesn’t she exist

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Today’s Pedophile Hating Characters are… all the members of Gorillaz!

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Things Autistic People Need:

Accessibility

Fidget tools (cubes, spinners, tangles, chewelry, etc.) allowed in the work place

Designated quiet areas at events

Affordable diagnoses esp. for adults

Better diagnoses for adults, trans and non-binary persons, female persons, and persons of color

Living wage/affordable housing (since a good portion of us aren’t able to work 40hrs+/wk and government assistance isn’t always reliable)

Affordable, good-textured clothing

Alternate means of communication (ex: basics of sign language) widely taught

End of functioning labels and “mental age”

Therapy that is helpful and healthy and that isn’t legally considered torture

Things Autistic People Don’t Need

A cure - from what we know, it’s most likely genetic

Awareness - pretty much everybody knows autism exists

Fellow auties, feel free to add your own. Allistics (non-autistic persons) can reblog but please don’t add.

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good morning my fellow wlw, just wanted to remind you that youre worthy of love!!

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hey lesbians you dont have to worry about why you dont like men!! it’s fine and doesnt matter nothing can makes you less of a lesbian!

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Noodle from Gorillaz is a lesbian

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pre-e trans lesbians and never-e trans lesbians are beautiful, brave and valued members of the lesbian community. trans lesbians with deep voices? amazing trans lesbians who shave every day? Iconic trans lesbians who have facial hair and love it? worth so much trans lesbians who are muscular? deserve the world the validity of a woman’s lesbian identity is not dependent on her transition status, nor is it dependent on presenting in a certain way – your love of women is powerful. [ those who seek to derail this post or cause harm those it is for will be blocked. do not interact.] 

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how to track anonymous asks.

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when i was in like third grade i went to this science camp and one night at campfire they told us a story about a ufo crashing into a lake nearby and then later in the middle of the night they woke us all up and told us the aliens were back and this time they’d laid eggs in the woods !! it was our duty to arm ourselves and go destroy the eggs, so we armored up in tinfoil and shaving cream ( ????? ) and marched into the woods ready to save the planet. the ‘eggs’ were whole watermelons hidden around the camp and we had to smash them open on trees and rocks and eat the alien fetus/watermelon goo as fast as possible. i cannot emphasis enough the raw joy of digging into a watermelon with your bare hands and stuffing it into your face in the middle of the night in the woods, barely taking time to chew so that you can save the planet from hostile aliens, and i think i became the person i am because of that night.

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if I offered you $20, would you take it?

How about if I crumpled it up?

Stepped on it?

you would probably take it even though it was crumpled and stepped on it. Do you know why?

Because it is still $20, and its worth has not changed.

The same goes for you; if you have a bad day, or if something bad happens to you, you are not worthless.

if someone crumples you up or steps on you, your worth does not change. You are still just as valuable as you were before.

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Reblog if you would date a non-binary person

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Let’s make a list of ways to deal with dysphoria

Try a new style

Get new clothes or accessories etc.

Get tattoos

Get piercings, fake ones can help too

Cut your hair

Dye your hair

Try makeup or change your style of makeup

Surround yourself with people who support you

Get rid of or ignore the people who don’t support you

Meet new people

Try new hobbies

Abandon old hobbies you don’t like

Spend time in new environments

Leave the past behind if that helps you

Let yourself grow, learn, and change

Repeat your gender, chosen name, and preferred pronouns to yourself

Live in this moment

Embrace even the smallest changes

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13 year old me was soooo damn proud of not being like other girls because I wasn’t “‘‘‘‘‘boy crazy’‘‘‘‘‘‘‘‘ hooty hoo dumbass there’s a reason for that

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it’s interesting that many black parents/families deny the existence of mental illness in their children, especially because it’s clear that they themselves are suffering with some deep rooted problems and issues within. they deny the existence of it because they would be forced to not only admit their hand in their children’s mental health, but would also be forced to confront these issues within themselves. and they ain’t ready to handle all that.