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Hi everyone. I was hoping I wouldn’t have to have this be my first foray back into Tumblr RP after my inadvertent hiatus, but as someone who has watched their friends be harassed and stalked by Valentine, I can no longer in good conscience stay silent. I stayed quiet because I didn’t want to make things worse for anyone, but at this point, I feel it’s better for everything to be out in the open. I unfortunately do not have screenshots for a lot of what I’m about to talk about because it was five years ago andI didn’t think to hoard evidence on people I considered my friends. Frankly, I had no idea that things with Valentine (who I knew as Laurel) would have progressed as they did and hopefully, my account of my experience with them will shed some light on the subject.

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I don’t make this post lightly because I hate being involved in drama, especially when it comes to putting it on my dash where others can see because I’m aware that it makes a great number of people uncomfortable, but I am at a point where quite frankly I’m tired of feeling scared and unsafe on my own blog. The DNI on Valentine/Laurel (exo.rkizein) was put in place for my own comfort and to ensure that I was not in her space.

She wrote a callout (which she later claimed was not a callout) on me that accused me of being a rape fetishist, abuser, and manipulator that preyed on her as an SA survivor. This came after I fell out with another writer (I will not be talking about this on here as it has since been resolved, but if people want context I will happily provide it in private). I had blocked the other writer after sharing my concerns with Val and their partner, I never asked them to do the same as my issues are my own to deal with and I’m not here to dictate what people should or should not do. Val had said she could threaten said writer with a callout because she had made them before, and I had to ask her not to. What happened was a private falling out with miscommunication and two writers not clicking. It happens. Blocking has always been a safe option for me because it involves little conflict (something I hate and am dreadful at). I cannot emphasise enough that I would never use someone’s position as an SA survivor for some kind of gain, as I am one myself. I apologised profusely if Val felt that way because it was not my intention. After this, they advised me to move blogs, and when I raised concern that it may look like I was fleeing from the situation I was reassured it would be fine. Retrospectively when I look back, of course it looks bad, but I was desperate to try to find a situation that would suit everyone. I said they did not need to follow me on my new blog, but they did, Val even put me on her mains list. For a week, Val was actively talking to me, it seemed like nothing was wrong and then I woke up to the callout, being blocked by a number of friends and absolutely abhorrent things being said about me. I made a singular post to address claims that were made, one where no one was named, and nothing more because I have done nothing but want to move on.

I have not talked about it since, I have not put it on my dash, I have absolutely no desire to drag it up, I really don’t. There’s no point in doing so, but Val messaged me back in December to ask if I would ask my friend to remove her from their DNI. As well as this, she said she had taken down the callout and put up a post saying that it had been retracted, it shouldn’t ‘follow me around’ etc etc. I had no desire to reblog it like she suggested I do, so I refused. I did bring it up to my friend that she wanted to talk, it was up to them to sort it out. What I did not appreciate was in that conversation with said friend, Val brought up my SA. I do not like talking about it, and I have always been open and honest that I have struggled with defining it because though it very much was SA, it was not as severe as what others have experienced and I’ve always felt conflicted about how I class it over the 5 years since it happened. I am a victim of SA, even when I question things or feel guilty or wonder if it was my fault it happened, and Val has absolutely no right to raise this with someone else, let alone saying that my issues surrounding it don’t ‘inspire confidence’.

Here you can see that Val says she won’t pursue it any further (the blanked area is regards to the person they wanted me to message for them). Since then she has repeatedly brought it up on her own blog (and before any claims are made of lurking, I have had her blocked, I have no desire to look on her blog and the concerns have been raised by my friends that have seen the post). The DNI was not made for me to ‘manipulate’ people or drag this out, it was made because I want to maintain my boundaries and ensure our spaces do not interlink. It would have been up long before but I was, and still am very much scared of how Val will react to things. I’m not in the nature of taking screenshots as I avoid drama as much as I can on here, but I truly wish I had more for this. The moment that she realised I had a DNI in place, suddenly everything she said in her ‘apology’ post where she retracted the callout was taken back, I was labeled once more as a manipulator and abuser, the callout was circulated once again. Once again, the DNI is not malicious. She didn’t want to be in my space, I did not wish to be in hers, the DNI was to ensure that, as well as me blocking her because I did not want any more messages.

Coming on here and constantly DREADING the next thing that may happen is not healthy, and I want no part in it any longer. I have since found out that similar has happened to others (particularly accusations of people being rape fetishists, abusers, or toxic to others, then when asking for clarification being told that it wasn’t for Val to tell or share). For the past number of months Val’s actions, whether intentional or not, have deeply impacted my mental health + sense of safety on here and I want nothing more for this to be over. The DNI will remain in place, as will the block, I am not asking nor expecting anyone to take sides, I just want to curate my own space for my wellbeing.

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Updated the pinned post to include that the owner of this sideblog is @magicbound . I can be contacted through this sideblog or my main blog about anything regarding this issue.

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DNI

Good morning pals! 

I have not previously had a DNI, but I will now have one. I will not interact with anyone who regularly interacts with Valentine, currently active on exorkizein.

I have a Google doc with my reasons. You can see it here. 

I hate being involved in on-dash drama, but this thing has simply risen to a level that’s not ignorable anymore. I do this to take back my space and stop being afraid of the fallout of shit that happened YEARS ago. As I make clear in my Doc, my evidence isn’t the most inspiring, so if you choose to ignore or discount my takes, I don’t hold that against you. 

CWs for the Google Doc include rape, csa, and a Holocaust mention. Please be safe if/when you are viewing it. 

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regarding valentine/laurel/rom aka exorkizein

Those who were in darp a few years back may have known them as hemorrhaged, apocryphorum, throatkissed, and countless other urls.

Consider this a DNI and my reasons as to why.

I never wanted things to get to this point. All I’ve ever desired is to be able to stay in my own lane, and Valentine stay in theirs. But unfortunately things couldn’t be that simple, and it’s been three years of bs. The tl;dr version is that I unfollowed Valentine back in 2019, and ever since then they have held a wildly disproportionate grudge that involves confronting my friends, spreading lies about me and claiming I did various things to them, attempting to force others to unfollow me, and those are only the things that I know about. Despite my own distaste for petty drama or airing dirty laundry publicly, at this point I feel I have no recourse other than to drag everything out into the cold light of day and tell my side to those who are willing to hear it. 

Here it is. 

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regarding valentine/laurel/rom aka exorkizein

Those who were in darp a few years back may have known them as hemorrhaged, apocryphorum, throatkissed, and countless other urls.

Consider this a DNI and my reasons as to why.

I never wanted things to get to this point. All I’ve ever desired is to be able to stay in my own lane, and Valentine stay in theirs. But unfortunately things couldn’t be that simple, and it’s been three years of bs. The tl;dr version is that I unfollowed Valentine back in 2019, and ever since then they have held a wildly disproportionate grudge that involves confronting my friends, spreading lies about me and claiming I did various things to them, attempting to force others to unfollow me, and those are only the things that I know about. Despite my own distaste for petty drama or airing dirty laundry publicly, at this point I feel I have no recourse other than to drag everything out into the cold light of day and tell my side to those who are willing to hear it. 

Here it is. 

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Directory & Information.

This is a blog serving to gather people's experiences with Valentine into one place.

Valentine's past and present:

URLS: exorkizein (current), landawariar, throatkissed, sacrificedhe, apocryphorum, isiliden, hemorrhaged, and others.

Aliases: Valentine (current), Lamorek, Laurel, and Rom.

DO NOT SEND HATE TO VALENTINE.

This sideblog is ran by @magicbound