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mario is going to spin the wheel and dox whoever it lands on

YOSHI lives on YOSHI'S ISLAND

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Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

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Jackie

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Whack-O Jack-O

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pkmn

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smokin it jorny blutn

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in my experience with love it's not merely that a person comes along and fills a hole, but that we carve out a hole for them bit by bit as we fall in love. we build our lives around them as they become more important, we create a space inside ourselves that only they can fill. and suddenly we're incomplete when they're not around, even though we spent years of our lives before meeting them, never knowing they could be missing. it's incredible how life can bring people to us in the most unexpected ways and suddenly they become integral, irreplaceable, necessary.

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every piece of ""autistic representation"" in hollywood sucks not just because of the infantalization and inspiration porn but because movie executives always fail to realize the real universal autistic experience: spending your childhood slowly and unfalteringly realizing all of your friends not so secretly hated and/or merely tolerated you at best and you've missed every social signal about it ever

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FYI for any iPhone users who live in the USA, there's a new app out called IceBlock, which allows you to anonymously report ICE agent sightings

Worth a download if you've got an iPhone.

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So I've been playing Skyrim again recently.

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Happy june

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Foolishly in love

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FE版深夜の真剣お絵描き60分一本勝負

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Man if you did that bullshit as a kid where you fake asked someone out to embarrass them or said your friend liked them I hope that shit haunts you somewhere inside now. I hope you know that never leaves the person you did that too. I've been out of school for 8 blessed fucking years and I still do not believe people when they say they like me or are attracted to me. Doing that shit straight up makes you a bad person. You completely destroy someone's ability to perceive themselves as loveable.

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“It’s a beautiful sight…” Byleth breathed.

“Yes… it is,” Dimitri said with a smile as he gazed upon her.

Dimileth Northern Lights💚💙

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on topic of fe16 recruitment because a post i made about it is doing numbers: i think a lot about hilda’s unexplained beef with edelgard.

every other character who can’t be recruited on CF is either church aligned, or dedue. hilda? hilda just does not like edelgard even before she kicks off a war and refuses to be in the same class as her.