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the way that there are definitely 100% heterosexual cisgender men who'd be exclusive bottoms and women who'd be exclusive tops if the culture around sex wasn't "man = top, woman = bottom" fucks me up whenever i think about it.
if you're a cis straight person reading this and sex has always felt like A Task To Complete or has felt awful and painful emotionally for you; you don't have to exist within this obligatory sexual binary. you can have sex in ways that feel safe and affirming and not in the way that you're "supposed to". it will be difficult but i know you can do it.
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i still think the funniest fucking thing to drop out of shen qingqiu's internal monologue is the fact that he refers to shen jiu as ""shen qingqiu"" IN QUOTATION MARKS, EVERY TIME. like "original goods" is normal enough, just calling him "shen jiu" would also be valid once sqq learned that name, but no. Fuck You Quotation Marks, because shen qingqiu does not consider his predecessor the real shen qingqiu now, and that's hilarious. how do people still think sqq has impostor syndrome over "playing a role" or some made up bs again
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They should invent a method of asking for reassurance that nobody secretly hates you that doesn't make people secretly hate you.
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lot of thoughts about the way power works in bingqiu's relationship that i think people don't actually pay attention too. like there's a lot of fix its / canon divergence where they want to focus on the age gap / master disciple issues with shen qingqiu explaining to binghe why these things are bad but 1) shen qingqiu in canon isnt even thinking about the age thing most of the time bcus he's seeing binghe as bingge and 2) the actual reason he doesn't see binghe as a viable romantic interest is bcus of his internalized homophobia and heteronormative beliefs.
i also think because we as readers Know that shen qingqiu has power over binghe ppl assume that shen qingqiu knows this as well. but thats like the core of their issues!!!! day 1 post transmigration shen qingqiu doesnt view himself as having any power within the relationship. like in his mind he is already binghe's victim because he is always seeing binghe thru the lense of bingge. he doesn't believe he has power over binghe and that's why we don't see him set boundaries or even really assert his authority over him in meaningful ways. like shen qingqiu's realization at the end of the series that he has power over binghe because of binghe's feelings and therefore is capable of doing harm that no one else is (as seen by binghe's scars) is like crucial to them actually being capable of having a relationship.
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divorce and abortion and sex work and sex changes are so awesome if you think about it
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think probably someone has already done this or at least should have
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as a cis guy, when presented with the "99% you get a ton of money, 1% you turn into a girl" it honestly would be dumb to not hit that button until it breaks. like ok now i have 100 bajillion dollars and gender dysphoria. big deal. i have all the money in the world to turn me back into a guy. like with that kind of money i could have obama do me a phalloplasty. he wouldnt be able to do it as he isnt a surgeon but the point still stands
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opens box that reads "i wanna draw again". inside lies a note. the note says, "mental illness and difficult circumstances have taken years of interest, accessibility, and skill away from me. i want to forgive myself for that. i want to heal my relationship to my hobbies. i want to feel connected to something that once made me feel good, but the cyclic discouragement is difficult to overcome." i turn over the note. on the back it reads "wannta drawe sexy bodies awooga"
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i hate driving. here are the laws! if you break them there will be consequences! except youre also expected to break the law just a little bit. people will get mad at you if you dont. you dont have right of way but the person who does is waving you forward for some reason. here's the speed limit! it's not the speed limit, the actual speed limit is that plus ~5-10. the light is green but you're in the turning lane. can you go? should you have gone just then? the person behind you is honking at you. there's a weird noise coming from your engine; if you try to do the right thing and get it checked out, will you get scammed? you are driving a 1-2 ton metal machine rocketing at speeds unknown to humankind for most of history. around a million people die in car accidents every year; that's about one person every thirty seconds. if you take that seriously and try to drive safely then people get mad at you.
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me: i don’t want to see jellyfish so i will blacklist the tag #jellyfish
people with no common sense: je11yf1sh, je11¥fi5h, j*llyf*sh, je//ÿf!sh, j3ï||yf¡sh, gel lee fisk
result: cannot account for the sheer amount of possible ways to alter the word jellyfish
conclusion: i have to see jellyfish now.
Once again, tumblr is not tiktok, tag properly.
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how it feels to stop tossing and turning and get up to piss
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“oooh i need junji ito to write me an essay” okay so youre a little baby so youre a little baby waby who needs mommys help
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