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Well, I’m officially done with wasting my time in that community considering it totally f’ed up my feed. 😎 Not that I go on here that much, it is literally like once every couple of months. But still - done with them. So don’t worry y’all, this idiot is gone for now and will probably never bother again!

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Run 3 miles, do 15 push-ups, eat the whole cake, and burn your ex’s house down. It’s called balance. (Of course…if all you want to do is eat the cake that’s valid too because cake is delicious.)

I believe in you.

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Vote Blue. Democrats are for free lunches in school, workers getting a living wage and ending tax subsidies.

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Republicans blame the poor for everything

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Here's your reminder that AFAB doesn't mean that person has breasts and a vagina. That AMAB doesn't mean that person has a flat chest and a dick.

AFAB PEOPLE CAN HAVE DICKS.

AFAB PEOPLE CAN HAVE FLAT CHESTS.

AFAB PEOPLE CAN HAVE BEARDS.

AFAB PEOPLE CAN HAVE DEEP VOICES

AMAB PEOPLE CAN HAVE TITS

AMAB PEOPLE CAN HAVE PUSSIES

AMAB PEOPLE CAN HAVE CURVES

AMAB PEOPLE CAN HAVE HIGH-PITCHED VOICES

Don't let AMAB and AFAB become the progressive binary

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32-hour work week is the result of increased worker productivity. Workers earned it.

Compare to Republicans who want you to work until you're 70 while they attack your earned benefits.

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Crazyheadcomics

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monkeycatluna on ig

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Comic by Sarah Andersen

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I need to change up my feed lol

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Going to focus on the theme of two recent posts:

How is it acephobic to want my partner to be sexually attracted to me? To want them to be attracted to me in that one way in addition to other ways? How is that acephobic? (And I’m talking about people who aren’t and won’t be sexually attracted to me ever.)

One of those posts mentioned refusing to date someone because of their sexuality is an act of bigotry and hatred. I hope you apply it all the way around, not just to asexuals.

You can also have preferences for a sexuality because they inherently understand your experience. I would 100% date a bi person, but JUST LIKE there are unique experiences bi people have, there are unique experiences lesbians have. It’s okay if you want someone who shares that unique experience. A lesbian would get compulsory heterosexuality and existing as the only sexuality not attracted to people who identify as men. A bi person would understand the unique impacts of biphobia and bi erasure. Both preferences are okay.

My friend previously dated straight men and now she’s dating a bi man - we’ve talked before about the differences in inherent understanding of being attracted to all genders. I’m sure she’d feel similarly with a bi woman/sapphic/non-binary person. She has even said she prefers to date bi people over lesbians and I understand why. I don’t take offense to it and she doesn’t take offense to me having a slight preference for lesbians. (Granted…the lesbian community is so small that I kind of have to widen my dating pool, which is another reason I don’t have a preference.)

Anyway, there are more important factors I am looking for in a partner than their sexuality - such as them not being a smoker. That’s a deal-breaker for me. But at least I know they are sexually attracted to me, even if it takes time to develop (which is quite common…many, many people aren’t immediately sexually attracted to someone).

If asexuals can prefer to date other aces, then I can prefer the same. I’ve seen an asexual person on here state they refuse to date “mono-attracted people”, which indicates ignorance of these sexualities on a wide scale, given lesbians can be nonbinary and therefore attracted to non-binary people, but I digress. Hopefully you disagree with that take? Again, at least be consistent.

What about when a straight woman rejects a sapphic who asks her out? Is that not rejection because of her sexuality? Since sexuality is about who you’re attracted to?

No one is owed sex or a relationship. But much like a “requirement” of my partner is to be a non-smoker (and being an ex-smoker is fine too), I want them to be sexually attracted to me - which frankly, could be someone who is asexual seeing as some folks are grayace. It just so happens that I think that’s the common experience, people just don’t label themselves that way because it’s…well, common. So to repeat, when I say this, I’m talking about someone who is not sexually attracted to me at ALL and won’t ever be. I won’t “expect them to change” because that’s not how sexuality works. But I’m not obligated to stay with them either. Hell, they aren’t obligated to stay with me!!

It’s totally valid if you haven’t read all of this. I didn’t mean to turn it into an essay but here we are. I do think not reading all of it can lead to you making assumptions about what I said but I can’t force you to do anything so shrug.

Here is your reminder not to bother engaging with the “transx” community that makes a joke out of the trans and larger LGBT community by spreading misinformation, romanticizing disabilities (notice how nobody identifies with the conditions that are stigmatized in a different way like IBS), perpetuating racism (if you’re white and identify as a person of color, I have some news for you hun), encouraging adults to go in the space of minors, further fueling ped0s who have no shame in acting on their disorder, and overall just causing harm to those of us who live with these actual identities!

It’s not worth it, babes. Exit out of Tumblr for a bit, take a deep breath, eat a snack or hydrate or step outside - give yourself that care. They aren’t going to listen because they’re too far in this echo chamber.

The only thing we can do is hope that this “community” will eventually realize what they’re doing is harmful and apologize, even delete their blog to eliminate the harm they caused - in my opinion, it’s better to delete than leave it up, unless they make it very clear they were wrong and caused harm.

And maybe, if someone seems genuine in asking more about these identities, and the energy is there, messaging them privately and providing them with the education they are seeking and deserve. Because responding publicly at this point will only cause further harm to ourselves and will lead them to be convinced by others what we want so badly for them to NOT believe.

Conserve your energy, babes. Use it elsewhere, whether it’s as an advocate for your or other communities, engaging in your hobbies and self-care, seeking out your support system, know that each of these alternatives is valid. It’s valid if you do engage, but it’s JUST as valid as if you do not.

Put yourself first.