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How wild is it that every version of you probably exists still, somewhere, in someone’s memory? The messy you, crying on the floor exists still in your mind. The happy, sun-soaked you, exists in your best friend’s memory. No part of you has died, all parts of us exist always, simultaneously and hidden. 

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Paris mayor denounces black feminist festival because it is “forbidden to white people”

In a series of tweets on Sunday, Paris Mayor Anne Hidalgo condemned a black feminist festival planned for July. 

The three-day festival, she said, is discriminatory because it is “forbidden to white people,” the Associated Press reported.

The Nyansapo Festival, slated for July 28 to 30, aims to “put the accent on how our resistance as an Afro-feminist movement is organized.

 The festival is organized into distinct spaces: 80% of the venue is reserved for black women only, another section is open to black people of any gender and the third section is open to all. 

"We aim to build long-term strategies and solidarities, and that is why it is important to meet, to share so we can keep fighting,” its website states. Read more (5/30/17)

follow @the-movemnt

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This girl seems to be learning early

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how about instead of ever reblogging a single picture of carrie in that fucking gold bikini you reblog this instead?

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Calming Chamomile and Milk Tea

710 ml milk 

1-2 tablespoon of dried chamomile flowers OR handful of fresh chamomile flowers*

Honey or Sugar for sweetening

Put milk into non-stick pan and heat up carefully over small heat to steaming heat (do not boil). 

Take hot milk away from the stove and stir in the chamomile.

Brew for 5-10 minutes depending on how strong you want the tea.

Sieve the chamomile tea through clothe or fine mesh sieve.

Stir in sweetening of your choice and drink away.

You can replace the milk with any vegan/ vegetarian option you like, but personally I think soy milk has most flattering and similar result.

* Only pick your own herbs if you are absolutely sure you recognise them. Only pick herbs from your own garden OR place that is not near car roads or fields where pesticides have been used.

Honey has known magical properties of sweetening people’s feelings towards you. It has anti-inflammatory and antibacterial properties. 

Milk is symbol or wealth and well-being. In many practises it is believed to have placating and endearing effects on spirits and fey-folk.

Chamomile (Matricaria recutita L., Family: Asteraceae (daisy). Synonyms: Chamomilla, Chamomilla recutita, Matricaria chamomilla , Matricaria suavoelens, and Chamaemelum nobile (L.) All. Family: Asteraceae (daisy). Synonym: Anthemis nobilis L.) is great. It smells nice and has many beneficial properties. Steams of chamomile water/brew can be inhaled for sore throats or used in baths to soothe anal and genital inflammation. Chamomile has been utilized as a skin wash to clean wounds and ulcers, and to increase the sloughing of necrotic tissue and promote granulation and proper healing. It also has been reported to have anti-inflammatory, antibacterial, astringent, and deodorant properties.

Most known property of chamomile is, of course it’s sedative, calming effect. Clinical proof supporting any of these uses of chamomile is limited, but I have always personally found the calming properties to be very effective. I have general anxiety and making and drinking this tea has always helped me to calm myself. Please note that herbal remedies are NOT replacement for proper medical treatment and modern medicine. It is very important to always research the herbs you use and consult your doctor or qualified herbalist if you plan to use herbal remedies in tandem with modern medication as some of them can clash with potentially dangerous effects.

People who are allergic to ragweed (genus Ambrosia) and/or pollen might get allergic reactions from chamomile as well. Use of the tea and essential oil has resulted in anaphylactic shock, contact dermatitis, and other severe allergic reactions. Persons who are allergic to asters, chrysanthemums, ragweed, and other members of the Asteraceae daisy family should avoid chamomile.

It is advised that people who are pregnant should avoid the use of chamomile. 

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I suspect the NYPD need better PR people.

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from Georgetown Law professor Paul Butler on the Diane Rehm show.

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Some of the best signs from the science day march.

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I really love touching. It doesn’t always have to be in a sexual way, it could be like you sitting next to me and our knees touching a little or you putting your hand on my mine, little things like that mean so much to me and I crave it, all the fucking time, it drives me insane.

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the CIA going thru my messages: damn this dumb bitch gets left on read all the time lmfao

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girls thighs rb if you agree

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me thinking about myself: She’s cute I support Her

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What is Gaslighting?

Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse where the abuser manipulates situations repeatedly to trick the victim into distrusting his or her own memory and perceptions. Gaslighting is an insidious form of abuse. It makes victims question the very instincts that they have counted on their whole lives, making them unsure of anything. Gaslighting makes it very likely that victims will believe whatever their abusers tell them regardless as to their own experience of the situation. Gaslighting often precedes other types of emotional and physical abuse because the victim of gaslighting is more likely to remain in other abusive situations as well.

The term “gaslighting” comes from the 1938 British play “Gas Light” wherein a husband attempts to drive his wife crazy using a variety of tricks causing her to question her own perceptions and sanity. Gas Light was made into a movie both in 1940 and 1944.

Gaslighting Techniques and Examples

There are numerous gaslighting techniques which can make gaslighting more difficult to identify. Gaslighting techniques are used to hide truths that the abuser doesn’t want the victim to realize. Gaslighting abuse can be perpetrated by either women or men.

“Withholding” is one gaslighting technique where the abuser feigns a lack of understanding, refuses to listen and declines sharing his emotions. Gaslighting examples of this would be:

“I’m not listening to that crap again tonight.”

“You’re just trying to confuse me.”

Another gaslighting technique is “countering,” where an abuser will vehemently call into question a victim’s memory in spite of the victim having remembered things correctly.

“Think about when you didn’t remember things correctly last time.”

“You thought that last time and you were wrong.”

These techniques throw the victim off the intended subject matter and make them question their own motivations and perceptions rather than the issue at hand.

It is then that the abuser will start to question the experiences, thoughts and opinions more globally through statements said in anger like:

“You see everything in the most negative way.”

“Well you obviously never believed in me then.”

“You have an overactive imagination.”

“Blocking” and “diverting” are gaslighting techniques whereby the abuser again changes the conversation from the subject matter to questioning the victim’s thoughts and controlling the conversation. Gaslighting examples of this include:

“I’m not going through that again.”

“Where did you get a crazy idea like that?”

“Quit bitching.”

“You’re hurting me on purpose.”

“Trivializing” is another way of gaslighting. It involves making the victim believe his or her thoughts or needs aren’t important, such as:

“You’re going to let something like that come between us?”

Abusive “forgetting” and “denial” can also be forms of gaslighting. In this technique, the abuser pretends to forget things that have really occurred; the abuser may also deny things like promises that have been made that are important to the victim. An abuser might say,

“What are you talking about?”

“I don’t have to take this.”

“You’re making that up.”

Some gaslighters will then mock the victim for their “wrongdoings” and “misperceptions.”

Gaslighting Psychology

The gaslighting techniques are used in conjunction to try to make the victim doubt their own thoughts, memories and actions. Soon the victim is scared to bring up any topic at all for fear they are “wrong” about it or don’t remember the situation correctly.

The worst gaslighters will even create situations that allow for the usage of gaslighting techniques. An example of this is taking the victim’s keys from the place where they are always left, making the victim think she has misplaced them. Then “helping” the victim with her “bad memory” find the keys.

Are You a Victim of Gaslighting Emotional Abuse?

According to author and psychoanalyst Robin Stern, Ph.D., the signs of being a victim of gaslighting emotional abuse include:

You are constantly second-guessing yourself.

You ask yourself, “Am I too sensitive?” a dozen times a day.

You often feel confused and even crazy at work.

You’re always apologizing to your mother, father, boyfriend, boss.

You can’t understand why, with so many apparently good things in your life, you aren’t happier.

You frequently make excuses for your partner’s behavior to friends and family.

You find yourself withholding information from friends and family so you don’t have to explain or make excuses.

You know something is terribly wrong, but you can never quite express what it is, even to yourself.

You start lying to avoid the put downs and reality twists.

You have trouble making simple decisions.

You have the sense that you used to be a very different person - more confident, more fun-loving, more relaxed.

You feel hopeless and joyless.

You feel as though you can’t do anything right.

You wonder if you are a “good enough” girlfriend/wife/employee/ friend; daughter.

You find yourself withholding information from friends and family so you don’t have to explain or make excuses.

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shout out to me in 5 years…hope shes doing something cool i’m rooting for her