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reminder that it’s okay to not use every last bit of energy you have in a day. you don’t have to push yourself to your absolute limit.

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reminder that it’s okay to still feel bad sometimes even if you’re doing “better.” it’s okay to feel out of control when things are going “right.” and it’s okay to still seek support even if it doesn’t look like you “need” it.

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you are your own guardian angel. why hurt the thing that watches over you?

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doing your best doesn’t mean you have to work until exhaustion. doing your best doesn’t mean you have to give it 100% all of the time. doing your best can be working until you’ve hit your limit and then respecting your limit.

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You're not supposed to fight against your feelings. Don't push them away, don't surpress them. Rather, think to yourself: "This feeling is painful and I don't like it, but I will allow myself to feel what I am feeling. It will eventually get better. Feelings are not forever. I am gonna feel this feeling intentionally for a while, then I can distract myself. My feelings are valid and allowed. I am not at war with myself. I don't want to numb myself. I will be happy again soon. There is a time for everything".

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maybe you’re not up to having a good day, so just have a day.

stay alive, wake up, breathe. eat and drink and rest.

just exist.

have a day.

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Don't allow others to consume you. If they don't call, go to sleep. If they don't message you, put away your phone & have a good day. If they are distant and refuse to tell you what's wrong, go home and do something fun. You live for yourself first. They are secondary.

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stop trying to find yourself and start creating yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!

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we’re gonna be ok btw

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Shit is going to happen.

Your friend is going to ghost you. You are not going to get the job. Your car is going to break down at the worst time. Your boss is going to have unrealistic demands and deadlines. Your basement is going to flood.

Life hurts.

No matter how recovered you are. No matter how stable you are. No matter how much you excel at using your toolbox of strategies.

Life hurts.

You are not going to go through it being a happy little bean all of the time.

So, don’t put that pressure on yourself.

If you do, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. You’ll fear that you’re slipping, experiencing a setback, losing your recovery, when the negative emotions come.

Instead, the more you heal, the better you get at coping with this all too painful thing called life, the less hard those moments will hit. Oh, they will still hit, they will still suck, but they won’t suck for as long or as much. You’ll see the other side of them and know happiness is waiting there for you again.

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reblog to tell your mutuals they’re lovely af.

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reblog to tell your mutuals they’re lovely af.

✨♡♡✨♡♡✨♡♡✨♡♡✨

[wholesalesoftie]

reblog to tell your mutuals they’re lovely af.

✨♡♡✨♡♡✨♡♡✨♡♡✨

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"what if im a bad person" yeah? well what if you arent? what if you're trying your best and you're growing and you're kind? what then?

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you are not hard to love

you are not hard to love

you are not hard to love

whoever made you think otherwise was not worthy of your love

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i think it’s amazing that despite everything life has thrown at you, you’re still here

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the person reading this is going to survive the rough patch they’re going through