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"Something Needs To Change"

Available on Redbubble.

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for a while now i’ve been learning that some people kind of choose to hate themselves like you can give them tools and resources and advice and they’ll even follow some of it and go “i still hate myself” and i feel strongly at that point they’re kind of choosing to stay in that mindset because it’s comfortable and familiar or something but some people are truly [gotye voice] addicted to a certain kind of sadness and hooked on feeling low

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Obsessed with the diversity of sea slug shapes and colors!

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Sophie Elm, Cow Parsley, linocut.

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Sonya Sklaroff - Rainbow Flag, 2017

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Common Snapping Turtle (Chelydra serpentina), family Chelydridae, ONT, Canada

photograph by Tom Lusk

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#NationalAlligatorDay 🐊:

“Old City Gates, St. Augustine, Fla." Matchsafe, c.1910

Manufactured by Watson Co., USA

Brass; 4 x 6.3 x 1 cm (1 9/16 x 2 1/2 x 3/8 in.)

Cooper Hewitt 1980-14-1369

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Vintage Candle Holder by VintagePointeYEG

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hey man everyone loved how convenient and easily forgettable you were on earth. u were the least inconvenient person out there. my buddy told me you were super helpful and nice and didn't take up any space and just slid away from their mind as soon as they stopped looking at you. it was really impressive how little of an impression you made on anyone. sucks that it didn't save you man.

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Volkswagen Beetle parked on a street in San Francisco, California. USA, July 1970.

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I'm so glad to see AO3 making it absolutely clear that none of these things are allowed to even be HINTED at.

Here's some of the language from the new post about AO3's police on commercial promotion:

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There is a wide variety of things that are not allowed under AO3's non-commercialization rules.

Any other language which one might interpret as requesting or having requested financial contributions, whether for yourself or others. This covers indirect references, euphemisms, or other language intended to get around the TOS. Some examples of this include:

Thanks for the coffee!

My ☕ username is the same as my username here

This chapter is brought to you by my patrons

You know where to find me if you want early or bonus chapters

Check out my Twitter to learn how you can donate to me since I'm not allowed to discuss it here

If you want to hear more about my ideas, talk about fandom, or find more of my stuff for a coin, visit my Tumblr

Solicitation is not allowed, whether it's for yourself or on behalf of someone else.

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People keep popping up in the replies on that post to insist that adults are and can be groomed and I am the world’s most exhausted whack-a-mole champ.

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It's not a virtue to focus totally on your own peace and disregard problems around you. Ironically, it's also not a virtue to stew in your own anxiety.

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^This is demonstrably not true and I'm always fascinated when people who don't know what they're talking about just assert things on the Internet. Like how does someone believe that they just know the right answer without having researched it at all?

tldr; Neurodiversity has always been inclusive of anyone with non-typical neurology and 9 times out of 10, people who want to insist otherwise are trying to separate neurodiversity that they consider "acceptable" from things that are less palatable.

please stop treating the word neurodivergent like it means the overlap between autism and adhd

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Something really powerful I saw someone say in a discussion around harm, conflict, and justice was that it's not our job to recreate the criminal justice system specifically in determining what happened between people. If someone is accused of causing harm and agrees they caused harm and has taken steps to be a safer person, that's really all an org or community space can ask for if the people they are in direct conflict with are not present. I thought this was really powerful, specifically this idea of not determining what happened between people. It doesn't matter unless you're a person involved or a mediator in a process between them. The rest is just social ostracisation as punishment.

The reason that there's a famous "anti-cancel culture" pivot from people who get "cancelled" is that the social technology of ostracisation sucks complete shit. It's torture by everyone's definition, actually. It's a punishment everyone who ever receives it agrees should never be done to anyone, even their worst enemies. Nobody who talks about this is able to adequately explain to the people who think that they aren't the bad guy in anyone's story and have never done anything wrong, so people just roll their eyes and say "here's the why I left the left pivot again", but yknow, sie wissen dass nicht aber sie tun es

We are facing impossible odds and need more robust community organising, having seen it from both sides multiple times it is very obvious that the desire to push and push until someone who hurt you ceases to exist is deeply unhealthy as well as being bad for everyone's ability to organise. People waste time in orgs that could be spent helping people trying to figure out what to do with someone that someone else read a post about.

Imagine a left wing movement in which there is a clear path to people embracing change and moving forward and get involved in helping people. It would snowball, it would be unstoppable. If we have made utopian bubbles for ourselves and our friends to enjoy all having the same politics together and we refuse to let that bubble burst and shatter and recoalesce and shatter again we never change the world around us towards our politics. The way conflict is so frequently handled in queer and leftist spaces is just policing the borders of the bubble