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try not to unlearn all your shame in case there's something good stuff in there that you can sexualize

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Your name is BABA YAGA. Your hobbies include NEEDLEPOINT, CANNIBALISM, and ANNOYING KOSCHEI THE DEATHLESS.

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asked a person on twitter why they called the capitol Hannibal painting "cubist cannibal porn" when Will and Hannibal are both clearly fully clothed and barely touching and a second, seemingly unrelated person is now berating me for not understanding that the original person was clearly just simultaneously referring to the painting AND the show but "cubist" was only for the painting and "porn" was only for the show but it was still definitely about both of them at the same time

this is the most exciting thing that's happened to me since I got vagued about by a Cats blog

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on my hands and knees laughing so hard I'm crying wheezing and throwing up over this person saying there's nothing to fetishize in Gideon the Ninth.

can you even begin to imagine.

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*jingling keys in front of elon musk* elon they were always gonna use you as the fall boy you need to do something alarming and crazy to get back at Trump jingle jingle oooh you wanna physically harm him so bad jingle jingle elon musk you could totally get away with doing something insane to the president btw jingle jingle

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What is your favourite EVIL sex position?

@evilbatmanisagatewaydrug I think I got one of yours

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I think cnc Tumblr porn helped me understand consent better. Like coercion is a brand of cnc, so when I noticed my partner said "I think" instead of yes, and arms pulled away even though other parts were responding, it reminded me of coercion cnc, which lead to a stop and discussion. I might be a bit of a horny fuck, (nothing wrong with that, just inconvenient right now), but is there a way to turn down arousal/libido? Depression, stress, and relationship issues seem to be the big ones on Google, but. Um. Yeah. I'm also worried that things I wouldn't put much weight in could be coercion. Like if I ask about sex they'll feel a time limit on when they have to say yes, or cuddling with them while asking will pressure them towards saying yes.

hi anon,

I'm gonna say first and foremost. let's maybe work on starting a new paragraph when we introduce a new idea. because some of these swerves hit like trucks and you gotta warn a bitch.

anyway, let's talk about it!

no, there's not a reliable way to decrease your libido. that happens to a lot of people via mental or physical health problems and stress, as you noted, as well as in response to some medications or other things that cause hormonal shifts. it's not really something that can be purposefully induced, no matter how irksome being horny may be. life is a series of annoyances.

re: your thoughts on coercion - listen, man, you're going down a bad rabbit hole here. do we want to follow this thought to its logical conclusion? then asking for anything is coercion, because it places pressure on the other person to say yes or risk disappointing you.

when my wife asks me if I want to watch an episode on Once Upon a Time with dinner, he really wants me to say yes even though OUAT sucks so bad that it makes my brain hurt. sometimes I say yes, because I'm in a good mood and I like to make him happy and also because I post OUAT recaps on patreon and I need that sweet sweet #content. but other times I say no! and that's okay with both of us, because I know my wife is a big girl who can handle not always getting exactly what he wants and he knows that I'm not saying no because I hate him or because I think he was being an inconsiderate asshole for asking. and, most importantly, when I say yes he knows I'm not doing that because I feel pressured to say yes but because I'm genuinely fine with it.

if you ask about almost anything there's an expectation to answer eventually. it's entirely reasonable that you would be thinking about sex while cuddling and present the option. if you don't feel that you can trust your partner to say no when they don't really want to do something, then that's something you need to talk about with them! but there also comes a point when you have to believe someone when they say yes rather than perpetually second guessing them.

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whoever writes the nyt connections categories is experiencing joan of arc type visions & hallucinations

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I am like. extremely entertained by Sabrina Carpenter's growing catalog of songs about shacking up with men who she does not respect or even like and seems frankly embarrassed to be affiliated with at all. some kind of fascinating studies in heterosexuality happening there.

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youve heard of toxic and uncomfortable vent channels in public discord servers. but what if i told you we can make something even worse.

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Starting to think that Tumblr should institute a public message board type thing and then everything that gets put in your inbox that you didn't prompt or ask for or w/e should just get yeeted there instead ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

if only there was some mechanism on tumblr dot com for people to post and share their thoughts other than my inbox

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i was at an event last night in california and i went to the bar to order wine bc wine was like, a thing, and i looked at the menu and saw i was completely out of my depth bc idk any wine names, so i turned to my right and there was a man in a gorgeous suit standing at the bar beside me and i said “do you know anything about wine?” and he said “a little, yes!” i told him i liked white and dry wines and asked if he’d order for me. he asked the server for two glasses and had one poured for each of us and then he clinked his glass on mine but he didn’t take a sip, he just watched me taste mine and then he asked what i thought and i said “it’s pretty good, but like i said, i wouldn’t know.” he laughed and told me to have a good time & i walked away. fifteen minutes later i found out he’s the winemaker.

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an important thing to remember about colonialism is that places that were colonized were not perfect utopia but often full of their own horrors and abuses

the other important thing to remember about colonialism that the above does not justify colonialism

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Any terf ass version of "this is how to clock a REAL gender" is bullshit first and foremost because it's disrespectful as hell, but also because when I was in highschool other kids kept asking if I was Trans but couldn't decide if I was a Trans girl or a Trans boy. Yall can't "clock" shit all, you just make up patterns that fit the average and crap on anyone outside that circle

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Hellppp some transphobe found my posts about getting surgery and is yelling in my asks about how I mutilated my ‘perfect feminine body’ . I got my wisdom teeth removed.

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Ohhh noooo..... sure would be terrible if a TERF thought I was too masculine for a cis woman and misgendered me online...... Ohhhh that'd sure show me not to seek a out a sense of mutual respect and community in women's spaces.... ohhhh noooo...... (is transmasc)