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I’m so glad to hear you’re happier!

Sometimes, and this took me a LONG time to learn... people can be not good for us, without being bad people. Idk what all the situation here is, but I am glad that you have processed this in what seems like a healthy manner, and you’re less stressed. We could all use a little less stress these days!

Hi Witches! My best friend has been going on a spree of cutting people out of her life this year (2 friends and 2 family members so far) and I think she’s started cutting me out too, she’s been snappy and rude for over a week and has told me to stop messaging her. I’m angry, but also hurt. Have you got any suggestions on something I can do on myself to help me either accept this, or improve myself so she doesn’t cut me out?

Hi there!

I’m so sorry this took so long to respond to. We’ve had a lot of stuff going on.  I really hope that you’re doing well, and that you’ve been able to work through missing your friend. Or that you have managed to work things out with your friend.

If someone needs to cut you out of their life, most of the time... that’s on them. And you can’t know the reason. It sucks, like, really sucks. But you gotta respect if she’s asked you to not to message her. You can leave the door open if she wants to walk back in.

If she’s cutting people out, she might be going through something. It’s hard to know, and I don’t want to speculate. As much as it suuuuucks, you can be there for her without putting pressure on her. Giving her the space she needs.

THAT SAID. It’s so hard not to be angry, truuuust I know. And if you need to just close that door... that’s okay too. Being cut out is hard, and you’re allowed to set your own boundaries.

I’m sorry I don’t have better advice. But we are here if you want to talk.

<3 Your Witch Mums

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Hi Witches! My best friend has been going on a spree of cutting people out of her life this year (2 friends and 2 family members so far) and I think she’s started cutting me out too, she’s been snappy and rude for over a week and has told me to stop messaging her. I’m angry, but also hurt. Have you got any suggestions on something I can do on myself to help me either accept this, or improve myself so she doesn’t cut me out?

Hi there!

I’m so sorry this took so long to respond to. We’ve had a lot of stuff going on.  I really hope that you’re doing well, and that you’ve been able to work through missing your friend. Or that you have managed to work things out with your friend.

If someone needs to cut you out of their life, most of the time... that’s on them. And you can’t know the reason. It sucks, like, really sucks. But you gotta respect if she’s asked you to not to message her. You can leave the door open if she wants to walk back in.

If she’s cutting people out, she might be going through something. It’s hard to know, and I don’t want to speculate. As much as it suuuuucks, you can be there for her without putting pressure on her. Giving her the space she needs.

THAT SAID. It’s so hard not to be angry, truuuust I know. And if you need to just close that door... that’s okay too. Being cut out is hard, and you’re allowed to set your own boundaries.

I’m sorry I don’t have better advice. But we are here if you want to talk.

<3 Your Witch Mums

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hello witch mums! i have experienced a lovely spiritual awakening this month, and as i am pagan and have chosen to work in the realm of greek gods and goddesses, i believe i should ask you this! in recent days i feel as though goddess Persephone has been reaching out to me and i'm considering creating a small alter dedicated to her in order to connect with her and i'm wondering if there are any things you would recommend including in my alter? thank you so much, big hugs! xo a baby pagan

Hi there!

Neither of us work with Persephone, we’re Irish polytheists, so I’m gonna go ahead and post this to see if any of our followers has suggestions for you!

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Good morning Mums! My boyfriend recently lost his job due to budget cuts at this work, while I recently got a raise and work has only been getting better. I’ve been meditating my intentions to try to share my positive energy with him, but do you have any spell suggestions to aid the situation? Thank you! I’m a new reader but I’ve been really enjoying reading through your posts!

Good evening!

I’m so glad to hear that work has been going better for you. And I am sorry that this has taken so long for us to respond to. I hope that things are still good for you.

Honestly, with everything going on right now my best advice is be there for him. Don’t be trying to fix it, or manage it. Just show up for him. Sympathize when it sucks. That’s the very best you can do.

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Witch Mums! I’m a growing baby witch (20 years old and still learning lol) and I have a question about spell-work. Is there ever a good reason to cast a spell on another person? Is reading cards for people who haven’t asked you to bad for you, energetically? Any advice you have is appreciated, thank you!

Hiya!

Consent in witchcraft is someone that is... a topic of Discourse™ At the end of the day, the person who has to decide if you’re okay with it ethically, is you.

Personally, I have cast spells on other people. Nice ones and nasty ones. 

It’s my personal opinion that there are no rules in witchcraft. No one can tell you what to do. We don’t have a sacred book. We don’t have divine laws. We have the witch themself and decide what they think is right.

I know it sounds a lot, it IS. We’re operating without the safety net of an organized religion or someone telling us what is right and wrong. Yes, there ARE a lot of people who are going to try and tell you “witchcraft is this...” or “witches do this...” but they can only talk about THEIR witchcraft.

Witchcraft is an individual journey for everyone. We can give advice, we can share our experience, but at the end of the day... it’s you and you alone.

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hey there mums! I’ve been on a bit of a journey thru paganism and witchy things and I just sort of need some advice? Thank you so much!

Hey there!

I’m sorry, that is really vague... What kind of advice are you looking for?

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Hey! I've been pretty confused about what to do about witchcraft. I'm a closet hellenic (because I have a very Christan family) and I've looking being a witch, different kinds, different spells and understanding things better but I still don't understand. I've come out of Christianity and I'm still also trying to leave that mindset. Is there anything you could recommend or any advice you could give to help me gain a better understanding? I would appreciate it very much. Thank you so much!

Hey there! Sorry if this reply is late, we’ve had... shiz going on.

So... first things first. Being a hellenic doesn’t mean that you have to be a witch. If you only want to explore the religious side of it... that’s okay. But, if you ARE interested, we’ve got a post for that!

https://witchmums.tumblr.com/post/165704152554/newwitches

Leaving the mindset is... a journey. Hell I’ve been out of a christian cult for over two decades and I still occasionally confront things that I haven’t had to process. So, give yourself some grace. It’s not all going to leave you at once. Don’t judge yourself for stupid thoughts that pop up. Take your time to consider how you ACTUALLY feel about a thing. Read a lot. Own voices when you can.

If you have any more specific questions so send in another ask! I’m happy to help :D

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Hey mums, I’m in love with this guy from like 3 years now. Things have got super bad between us also he is seeing someone else from the past 2 years. I really want him to come back to me. Is it possible?

Oh honey,

That is so hard. Watching someone you care about with someone else is fucking impossible.

So hear me, when I say this with all the love and compassion... you gotta let it go. 

You are worth SO much more than chasing down someone who has chosen to be with someone else. Know that you deserve so much better than a “super bad” relationship, with a guy who is interested in another person. 

Here is a super, SUPER basic severing spell that I have used when I was in a similar situation:

Take a piece of paper. Write your name on one side, and his on the other.

Rip the paper in half, crumple his side, then burn that shit girl. (I love fire, fire is so useful)

Now take yours, put it next to a candle you love, some stones you like, photos of things that make you happy. Some rose petals, or anything else that symbolizes love to you. Take some time every morning with those things, light the candle, and list 5 things you love about yourself.

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Hello! What are your thoughts on getting oneself their own tarot deck? I’ve seen around that they must be gifted... what do you think? Thank you 💗🍄

Hey anon!

I’m so sorry we were so MIA. I truly hope that you have found your way to purchasing a tarot deck for yourself. But if you haven’t, do it!

I’m not entirely sure where the idea that you had to be gifted your first deck came from, but it’s horse shit. 

Go buy yourself a deck sweetie! And if you do, we’d love to know which one!

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Hi! I just wanted to ask if you were still around

We have been away! Life hit us both really hard at the same time.

MmeHW is back now, although recovering from being quite ill, so she’ll be answering as she has the ability to do so.

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I really enjoyed answering your witchy questions, so ask box IS open and I’ll be replying as I have the energy to do so

Guess Who’s Back!

So yeah. I went away to clear my head after a long and short term relationship really fucked with me.

Shiz happened.

Got hella sick. Got better, ish? I can at least sit at my computer now.

Thanks ppl who sent messages checking in, etc.

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Omg Mums !! Honestly thanks again for another thought filled response. I really treasure the time and consideration to that response and again have got much food for thought. I am totally guilty of that expression lighting other people candles before your own !! I take this to heart. Also sidebar I had never even thought of being a medium to animals . I do desire to be a good steward to nature so maybe I can add this to the pile of research along with adding your response to the ol grimoire.

Honestly I pulled the medium to animals thing out of my ass, I don’t even know if that’s a thing -- but that’s kind of my point! That I can say whatever I want, whether it has any basis or not. It’s up to you to decide what’s legit! 

In any case, I’m glad it was helpful and I do wish you all the best. And I hope you stay in touch! :) 

Hugs, Your Witch Mums

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Hi Mums, I'm on anonymous because I haven't told friends and family yet, but I'm pregnant! I was wondering if you knew of any maternity related spells for healthy pregnancy. And any suggestions for morning sickness (spells, teas, sigils, safe oils, anything...) Thanks! 💜

Sorry,

We have a very firm policy of avoiding all health/medical related questions for reasons which I hope are very obvious.

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Hi, My mom, uncle, and I are in a bad situation with a verbally, mentally and emotionally abusive father/husband. We have been working on finding jobs and a home away from him. We finally found a great house the only problem is that we need for the lady selling to either work with us or to get up to 15K to put down to get into this house. I was wondering if you know of any charm or spell that can be done to help gain a large sum of money or to better the chances of a seller working with you?

This is an old ask, and I do apologize for not getting to it sooner. Both @madamehearthwitch and @estfortis have been going through Big Life Stuff and haven’t been able to keep up this blog very effectively! 

I have never been one to do money spells, myself. I have used some general prosperity and success spells, as I believe that it’s better to ask for wellbeing than to cure a specific symptom, if that makes sense? Or put another way, asking for money might bring you a limited amount, or even more than enough but that comes at the price of your wellbeing in other areas. Some people say that’s why you need to be very specific in your magic, but I actually believe it’s better to be less specific about details and more specific about circumstance. Rather than saying “I will get this job and get paid XYZ amount” say “I will be prosperous and secure.” 

Finally, I am a big fan of creating your own spells, as I believe they are more potent and connected to you than anything someone else might come up with. As we’ve mentioned before, neither of us are huge on formal magical workings, preferring to incorporate our practice into our lives through smaller, every-day actions. Thus, I don’t really have an incantation or anything for you, anyway. 

Please do go back and read the answer I just left for @mymysterium on giving away your power -- and then I encourage you to develop a spell or practice that will get you to your goal in a way that feels authentic and powerful to YOU. 

All our love, and best of luck. 

Your Witch Mums. 

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Do you have any experience with binaural beats? Can they be used in meditation os meditation? If so, can you tell me how you use them? If you don't, can some folks help me out in the comments 😄

I have used binaural beats for meditation before but not extensively and I have to admit I don’t really know or understand the theory behind them. Any of our followers have any info to share?

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Thanks witch Mums 💕 I had recently done a piece of hearth magic to make my house feel safe and cozy. I wondered if perhaps it had made the feeling that my appartment at the time was a haven and that I would help the poor little birb. I believe it was a common sparrow. Thanks for answering me and telling me not to give away my power. No ones ever told me this. I truly treasure this response.

I’m glad it was helpful! And I love the idea that the bird was attracted to the safety of your hearth and its magic. <3

The idea of giving away my power is one that I’ve been considering a lot lately, and seeing how it pops up in many varied aspects of my life. I think it’s worth mentioning here, especially in the context of hearth magic and making a home a sanctuary. 

I talk a lot about my definition of hearth craft as “hospitality as a sacred calling,” and the actions that I take to fulfill that calling. But I have also begun to realize the extent to which I give of myself to the point that I am empty. Sure, I talk about self-care and taking breaks and all that, and I even do those things. But I also have a tendency to throw myself into relationships-- whether romantic, familial, or platonic -- to the extent that I sometimes (more often than I would like to admit, even to myself) lose sight of my own needs, priorities, and dreams. It’s easy to look at that tendency and think, “I am so caring, so loving, so supportive and unselfish!” But what I miss is that I am giving away what makes me who I am by supporting the dreams and priorities of others at the expense of my own driving force. 

To bring this back to your ask -- We also do this when we let others define things for us. When we rely on others to give meaning to our lives and what we believe and think -- because these are the things that we then act on, and our actions tell ourselves and tell others who we are. I could have told you that the bird was coming to you because you have a destiny to be a spirit medium for animals. Maybe you would have believed me, maybe not. But if you had decided to internalize that thought and act on it, you would have allowed me, a stranger on the internet, to determine a path for you based only on a very brief interaction. That’s a lot of power to hand over! 

So to you, dear, and to all the others reading this -- and not just new or young witches -- remember that YOUR experiences are valid and YOUR associations and correspondences and beliefs are the most important ones to rely on. That, more than anything, is what will make you an effective and powerful witch! 

All my love, my dear. Your Witch Mums.  (@estfortis​)

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I know this was probably an accident, but please don't forget Wales when you're talking about Celtic cultures. That being said, I love your reply to that ask - you explained it really well!!

Oh my gosh, I can’t believe I left out Wales! It was even in an earlier iteration of that response -- I’m not sure why it got taken out, probably I just re-worded something and it got cut by accident. Thanks for pointing that out!