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ever engage with a media you really really liked and thought you were going to become obsessed with but it doesn’t quite lodge itself into your brain at the correct angle and you can just brush fingertips with the version of yourself from the alternate reality where it completely corrupted your every waking thought

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you’ll never believe what I am choosing to start reading now, for the first time ever, in the year of 2K25

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you’ll never believe what I am choosing to start reading now, for the first time ever, in the year of 2K25

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sorry i can't make it my girlfriend's doing experiments on me again

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it's so evil that office/desk jobs are 400million times easier than food service or retail or anything with in person constant customer service but pays better. Like. If you're working an evil exhausting job that sucks you should be paid more for that you should be making 100 dollars an hour

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found family horror: the queer person who keeps projecting their unmet deepest childhood attachment needs onto you

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I love being femme4butch bc yes I can have a boyfriend!! no I'm not straight!! yes I can call them my boy!! no they're not a man!! they can have whatever gender they want!! *sighs dreamily*

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NO IT ISNTTTT!!!!!!!!! NO IT ISNT. HAVING A SPECIAL INTEREST DOESNT MEAN YOURE A GENIUS IN THAT CATEGORY OHNMY GODDDD this was reblogged by an allistic mutual too. oh my god.

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consuming mass amounts of media related to my hyperfixation isnt enough i need to eat it

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the unholy trinity of piss-poor caretakers, tag yourself:

tomboy, meaning "this child is clearly queer but let's hope it goes away"

sensitive, meaning "clearly neurodivergent and often distressed but let's keep going until they grow numb"

mature, meaning "traumatized but let's ignore that"

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The problem with having a child with an attorney that has spoken to the child like an adult since birth is that she's 4 years old and she's negotiating the order in which we're going to complete tasks as a family to best suit her idea of an ideal day.

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seeing mutuals younger than you discover blorbos you've already known and chewed on is like watching a newborn lamb discover that it can frolic with it's friends it's beautiful and soon i will drop the Lore that i was there during a big event and their eyes will light up as if the little lamb has just sniffed its first dandelion

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also does anyone actually in real life know anyone who insists on varying up pronouns (over a relatively short span of time like a single sentence) when referring to them? I feel like this is something you hear about on tumblr but never seen irl.

(I think this is different from someone who has some kinda gender fuckery/fluidity/multiplicity, and dislikes feeling as if the people who are very close to them see and refer to them through a single lense all the time. I am such a person, but would never request that someone flip through she he and they in a single conversation about me, or expect them to unless it sets up a joke or makes a point.)

For me, "rotate my pronouns in the space of a single conversation" is one of the pronoun things that I can see why someone might want it, but I think is actually not reasonable to ask of people (in an "if you don't do this you're not respecting my pronouns" sort of way, at least), because it's very demanding of processing power and destructive of ordinary communicative functions of speech. (When you say "She went over there and picked up his jacket", English speakers understand that one person picked up another person's jacket.)

I feel like almost for the very reason of its impracticability it was championed on here for a time, as there's always a bit of a competition to outdo the people saying "You should totally do the pretty reasonable thing people are asking, it isn't hard," by saying, "You should totally do anything vaguely in that category however burdensome and never fuck up once, it isn't hard 🙄", but I'm not sure to what degree it was ever a real-world thing.

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do you have advice on dismantling the idea in your brain that your FP can save/fix you?

i'm trying to lessen my attachment to my FP right now, because i'm tired of the emotional rollercoaster and all the shitty stuff that comes with having an FP. i think a lot of why i get so attached to my FPs is because on some level i believe they can fix me, they can save me, that if i was just with them 24/7 then everything would be okay and fine and perfect all the time. i've started with no longer making jokes about wishing my FP was available all the time, but i'm not really sure what else i can do to change this underlying belief.

The belief that your FP can “fix” or “save” you is often rooted in deep, painful places. And acknowledging that can be important. It is often a survival strategy or trauma response. It makes sense that your brain latched onto this. When someone feels safe, your nervous system might scream “this is the answer. We can’t let go”.

But here’s the thing, nobody, not even the strongest person in the world, can carry the full weight of everything. And honestly? That’s a good thing. Because it means your healing isn’t dependent on someone else’s availability, mood, or presence. It’s yours. That’s your power. (Telling myself this really helps and makes me feel I have control)

Challenge the thoughts and the fantasy

When the thought comes up (“If they were always around, everything would be okay”), try asking:

Would everything really be okay, or would I still feel anxious, just in a different way?

Would it really be okay or would it just be a ‘pause’ from reality?

What do I think they’re saving me from? Can I give myself a little piece of that instead? Which kind of leads into another suggestion of mine.

Name what your favourite person represents to you

Often it’s not them specifically we’re attached to. It’s what they symbolize to us like safety, love, compassion, etc. If you can name what needs they’re meeting, you can start figuring out how else to meet them. And there’s no shame in this. It’s just for awareness. It’s okay to admit this. It can help us work on it.

Build up your relationship with you

Even in tiny ways. “I took care of myself this morning.” “I handled that emotion without texting them.” Celebrate the little victories because you deserve to and this shows you can trust yourself.

Find hobbies that are just about you. For me, it’s reading. I get to escape into my own world and it’s mine in a sense. I know people that love gaming, or perhaps doing some form of art. It doesn’t really matter what it is just that you enjoy it for you and not others.

Change the narrative

Try changing from “they can fix me” to “they support me while I work on healing.” You’re not alone, but you’re also not helpless. It’s okay to have someone there to hold your hand but they can’t do it for you.

Be compassionate with yourself

This belief didn’t come from nowhere. It was built over time, probably from experiences that taught you people either saved you or left you. Undoing that won’t be instant but every time you sit with the discomfort instead of spiraling into dependency, you’re doing the work. And you deserve credit for that.

You’re not broken for wanting someone to save you. But you’re also not beyond saving yourself. And you don’t have to do it perfectly to be doing it at all.

(Also, I think acknowledging this being a problem for you is huge! And that’s a really big and important step. Sorry to sound corny, but I think that’s really brave of you.)