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2007

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He loves the kitties

(via)

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We all love the "becoming the very thing you sought to destroy," trope. but I have a growing fondness for "destroying the very thing you sought to become"

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Good Omens + even more The Onion headlines

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asexuality is word that describes an orientation, not a set of behaviors, ace people can do all kinds of sexual behaviors and still be asexual. some ace people have sex, some don't. some ace people kiss, some don't. some ace people masturbate, some don't. some ace people get homoerotically stabbed, some don't. it's as easy as that to understand.

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Favorite genre of image ever

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Vintage AVON Mini Glass Perfume Bottles-Mouse & Pig ebay 3spoileddoggos

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@jewishvoiceforpeace

"Today marks one year since the death of the People’s Bubbie Shatzi Weisberger. Before she passed, she said, “I’ll fight like hell for a free Palestine until the day I die. Then I’ll keep fighting. Your queer ancestor is with you.”

If you’ve been rising up in solidarity with Palestine these past two months, your queer ancestor is indeed with you, along with countless other antizionist Jewish ancestors. For many, family and community rifts may be especially painful right now. No matter what, you are not alone. Remember that you have a long lineage of elders and ancestors at your back.

Last night, Israel resumed its brutal bombing of Gaza and has already killed dozens of people. Shatzi would encourage all of us to do everything we can right now for a permanent, lasting ceasefire. To mourn the dead and fight like hell for the living.

Shatzi died on World AIDS Day, which was b’sheret ("destined”) because in addition to being a lifelong organizer, she was a nurse for 47 years who cared for people living and dying with AIDS.

From ACT UP’s organizing to end AIDS to the movement for Palestinian freedom, we honor the ancestors and movements who made us possible."

We will be forever grateful to the ancestors who paved the path before us. May their memories fuel us to work towards freedom for all people — no exceptions."

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Oh sunk-cost fallacy, we're really in it now. We are in fact so really in it that if we quit now then everything we did would have all been for nothing and so we have to keep going in

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Megoosa.

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i need to eat a food. none of the food in the house is The Right Food. what is the right food? only god knows. and we're not on speaking terms right now.

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I criticize the idea of the nuclear family because I am incredibly pro-family and pro-community. I criticize the construct of the nuclear family, not because I want to destroy the familial bonds, the warmth, and the nurturing grounds of the home, but because I want to extend this warm place to more people in our social networks.

{This post is about to get very US American, rest-of-the-world.} I want to normalize multigenerational families, I want to normalize uncles and aunts living with their siblings in adulthood, I want to normalize a best friend becoming an uncle in a household and moving in. I want to reinvigorate monastic and neo-monastic community structures, with the service that their communal focus provides to the greater community. I want to promote neighbors to be neighborly, and I want to promote neighborhood activity that the suburbization associated with the nuclear family undermined by removing communal spaces. More than anything, I want to decimate the myth that everyone is disconnected. It’s not only false, but it simply exists to further business interests.

I mean, the strict boundaries of the American social construct of the nuclear family, serve business interests. The nuclear family’s disconnectedness from the greater community allows big business to demand people uproot their families whenever it serves coorporate interests to move. The nuclear family’s disconnectedness from relatives causes families to spend more on childcare and eldercare than they otherwise would. The nuclear family’s model has been that one partner {a woman} stays home to support another partner {a man’s} full time work schedule, and is now shifting so that the modern nuclear family consists of two working partners, who are modern ‘heros’ who raise their kids as well. The word ‘hero’ is a mask for a social issue. The only reason taking care of a family isn’t already considered a serious workload for a family is because its traditionally woman’s work, and a patriarchical society always denies the value of woman’s work. The nuclear family limits intergenerational contact, and leads to domestic knowledge being lost, such as how to can fruits and vegetables from the garden, how to do your own repairs, and how to produce certain processed foods {i.e. bread loaves}. This, in turn, also serves business, because people buy cheap, mass-manufactured versions that they would traditionally {and until very ! recently} make. The idea that we exist as financially seperate miniscule units in little nuclear families undermines communal knowledge, caretaking, and domestic productivity.

I think family, the quality of childhood for kids, homemade things, food-work-and-culture access for the elderly and disabled, and togetherness should be the priorities of a functional society. Not business, not selling as many teapots to as many household units as possible {by breaking existing units into smaller ones}, and not some false mythology of independence. We are all interdependent: if you want to live with your parents all your life and take care of them in old age, sharing resources and a teapot - good for you. If you want to form a family unit with some friends - good for you. If you want to develop religious community {such as monasticism, or more informal collections} than good for you. If you and a partner want to raise children, then good for you, you shouldn’t feel pressured to both work full-time, and at a social level we should take responsibility for work-family balence issues. If you want to live with your siblings, then you should, if you don’t want romance to be the glue to your closest relationship than it shouldn’t.

I’m pro-family, pro-loyalty and commitment, pro-domesticity, pro-cooperation and for those reasons I am anti-nuclear family.

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Team “not actually oblivious to flirting, just terrified of appearing presumptuous” represent.

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the five homoerotic love languages:

- intimate stabbing

- outright obsession

- confused pining

- "no one knows me like you do"

- lifelong promises that always sound suspiciously like wedding vows

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man who opened a parenthesis he forgot to close 4 years ago is tragically unaware everything he's said since has been an aside