I want to live by myself when I move out of my parent's place but I'm really afraid of money problems? I'm afraid that the only place I can afford will be in the ghetto and it'll all be torn apart and I'll only be allowed to eat one granola bar a week. I'm really stressing out about this. I don't know anything about after school life. I don't know anything about paying bills or how to buy an apartment and it's really scaring me. is there anything you know that can help me?
HI darling,
I’ve actually got a super wonderful masterpost for you to check out:
Home
what the hell is a mortgage?
first apartment essentials checklist
how to care for cacti and succulents
the care and keeping of plants
Getting an apartment
Money
earn rewards by taking polls
how to coupon
what to do when you can’t pay your bills
see if you’re paying too much for your cell phone bill
how to save money
How to Balance a Check Book
How to do Your Own Taxes
Health
how to take care of yourself when you’re sick
things to bring to a doctor’s appointment
how to get free therapy
what to expect from your first gynecologist appointment
how to make a doctor’s appointment
how to pick a health insurance plan
how to avoid a hangover
a list of stress relievers
how to remove a splinter
Emergency
what to do if you get pulled over by a cop
a list of hotlines in a crisis
things to keep in your car in case of an emergency
how to do the heimlich maneuver
Job
time management
create a resume
find the right career
how to pick a major
how to avoid a hangover
how to interview for a job
how to stop procrastinating
How to write cover letters
Travel
ULTIMATE PACKING LIST
Traveling for Cheap
Travel Accessories
The Best Way to Pack a Suitcase
How To Read A Map
How to Apply For A Passport
How to Make A Travel Budget
Better You
read the news
leave your childhood traumas behind
how to quit smoking
how to knit
how to stop biting your nails
how to stop procrastinating
how to stop skipping breakfast
how to stop micromanaging
how to stop avoiding asking for help
how to stop swearing constantly
how to stop being a pushover
learn another language
how to improve your self-esteem
how to sew
learn how to embroider
how to love yourself
100 tips for life
Apartments/Houses/Moving
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 1: Are You Sure? (The Responsible One)
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 2: Finding the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 3: Questions to Ask about the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 4: Packing and Moving All of Your Shit (The Responsible One)
How to Protect Your Home Against Break-Ins (The Responsible One)
Education
How to Find a Fucking College (The Sudden Adult)
How to Find Some Fucking Money for College (The Sudden Adult)
What to Do When You Can’t Afford Your #1 Post-Secondary School (The Sudden Adult)
Stop Shitting on Community College Kids (Why Community College is Fucking Awesome) (The Responsible One)
How to Ask for a Recommendation Letter (The Responsible One)
How to Choose a College Major (The Sudden Adult)
Finances
How to Write a Goddamn Check (The Responsible One)
How to Convince Credit Companies You’re Not a Worthless Bag of Shit (The Responsible One)
Debit vs Credit (The Responsible One)
What to Do if Your Wallet is Stolen/Lost (The Sudden Adult)
Budgeting 101 (The Responsible One)
Important Tax Links to Know (The Responsible One)
How to Choose a Bank Without Screwing Yourself (The Responsible One)
Job Hunting
How to Write a Resume Like a Boss (The Responsible One)
How to Write a Cover Letter Someone Will Actually Read (The Responsible One)
How to Handle a Phone Interview without Fucking Up (The Responsible One)
10 Sites to Start Your Job Search (The Responsible One)
Life Skills
Staying in Touch with Friends/Family (The Sudden Adult)
Bar Etiquette (The Sudden Adult)
What to Do After a Car Accident (The Sudden Adult)
Grow Up and Buy Your Own Groceries (The Responsible One)
How to Survive Plane Trips (The Sudden Adult)
How to Make a List of Goals (The Responsible One)
How to Stop Whining and Make a Damn Appointment (The Responsible One)
Miscellaneous
What to Expect from the Hell that is Jury Duty (The Responsible One)
Relationships
Marriage: What the Fuck Does It Mean and How the Hell Do I Know When I’m Ready? (Guest post - The Northwest Adult)
How Fucked Are You for Moving In with Your Significant Other: An Interview with an Actual Real-Life Couple Living Together™ (mintypineapple and catastrofries)
Travel & Vehicles
How to Winterize Your Piece of Shit Vehicle (The Responsible One)
How to Make Public Transportation Your Bitch (The Responsible One)
Other Blog Features
Apps for Asshats
Harsh Truths & Bitter Reminders
Asks I’ll Probably Need to Refer People to Later
Apartments (or Life Skills) - How Not to Live in Filth (The Sudden Adult)
Finances - Tax Basics (The Responsible One)
Important Documents - How to Get a Copy of Your Birth Certificate (The Responsible One)
Important Documents - How to Get a Replacement ID (The Responsible One)
Health - How to Deal with a Chemical Burn (The Responsible One)
Job Hunting - List of Jobs Based on Social Interaction Levels (The Sudden Adult)
Job Hunting - How to Avoid Falling into a Pit of Despair While Job Hunting (The Responsible One)
Job Hunting - Questions to Ask in an Interview (The Responsible One)
Life Skills - First-Time Flying Tips (The Sudden Adult)
Life Skills - How to Ask a Good Question (The Responsible One)
Life Skills - Reasons to Take a Foreign Language (The Responsible One)
Life Skills - Opening a Bar Tab (The Sudden Adult)
Relationships - Long Distance Relationships: How to Stay in Contact (The Responsible One)
Adult Cheat Sheet:
what to do if your pet gets lost
removing stains from your carpet
how to know if you’re eligible for food stamps
throwing a dinner party
i’m pregnant, now what?
first aid tools to keep in your house
how to keep a clean kitchen
learning how to become independent from your parents
job interview tips
opening your first bank account
what to do if you lose your wallet
tips for cheap furniture
easy ways to cut your spending
selecting the right tires for your car
taking out your first loan
picking out the right credit card
how to get out of parking tickets
how to fix a leaky faucet
get all of your news in one place
getting rid of mice & rats in your house
when to go to the e.r.
buying your first home
how to buy your first stocks
guide to brewing coffee
first apartment essentials checklist
coping with a job you hate
30 books to read before you’re 30
what’s the deal with retirement?
difference between insurances
Once you’ve looked over all those cool links, I have some general advice for you on how you can have some sort of support system going for you:
Reasons to move out of home
You may decide to leave home for many different reasons, including:
wishing to live independently
location difficulties – for example, the need to move closer to university
conflict with your parents
being asked to leave by your parents.
Issues to consider when moving out of home
It’s common to be a little unsure when you make a decision like leaving home. You may choose to move, but find that you face problems you didn’t anticipate, such as:
Unreadiness – you may find you are not quite ready to handle all the responsibilities.
Money worries – bills including rent, utilities like gas and electricity and the cost of groceries may catch you by surprise, especially if you are used to your parents providing for everything. Debt may become an issue.
Flatmate problems – issues such as paying bills on time, sharing housework equally, friends who never pay board, but stay anyway, and lifestyle incompatibilities (such as a non-drug-user flatting with a drug user) may result in hostilities and arguments.
Your parents may be worried
Think about how your parents may be feeling and talk with them if they are worried about you. Most parents want their children to be happy and independent, but they might be concerned about a lot of different things. For example:
They may worry that you are not ready.
They may be sad because they will miss you.
They may think you shouldn’t leave home until you are married or have bought a house.
They may be concerned about the people you have chosen to live with.
Reassure your parents that you will keep in touch and visit regularly. Try to leave on a positive note. Hopefully, they are happy about your plans and support your decision.
Tips for a successful move
Tips include:
Don’t make a rash decision – consider the situation carefully. Are you ready to live independently? Do you make enough money to support yourself? Are you moving out for the right reasons?
Draw up a realistic budget – don’t forget to include ‘hidden’ expenses such as the property’s security deposit or bond (usually four weeks’ rent), connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.
Communicate – avoid misunderstandings, hostilities and arguments by talking openly and respectfully about your concerns with flatmates and parents. Make sure you’re open to their point of view too – getting along is a two-way street.
Keep in touch – talk to your parents about regular home visits: for example, having Sunday night dinner together every week.
Work out acceptable behaviour – if your parents don’t like your flatmate(s), find out why. It is usually the behaviour rather than the person that causes offence (for example, swearing or smoking). Out of respect for your parents, ask your flatmate(s) to be on their best behaviour when your parents visit and do the same for them.
Ask for help – if things are becoming difficult, don’t be too proud to ask your parents for help. They have a lot of life experience.
If your family home does not provide support
Not everyone who leaves home can return home or ask their parents for help in times of trouble. If you have been thrown out of home or left home to escape abuse or conflict, you may be too young or unprepared to cope.
If you are a fostered child, you will have to leave the state-care system when you turn 18, but you may not be ready to make the sudden transition to independence.
If you need support, help is available from a range of community and government organisations. Assistance includes emergency accommodation and food vouchers. If you can’t call your parents or foster parents, call one of the associations below for information, advice and assistance.
Where to get help
Your doctor
Kids Helpline Tel. 1800 55 1800
Lifeline Tel. 13 11 44
Home Ground Services Tel. 1800 048 325
Relationships Australia Tel. 1300 364 277
Centrelink Crisis or Special Help Tel. 13 28 50
Tenants Union of Victoria Tel. (03) 9416 2577
Things to remember
Try to solve any problems before you leave home. Don’t leave because of a fight or other family difficulty if you can possibly avoid it.
Draw up a realistic budget that includes ‘hidden’ expenses, such as bond, connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.
Remember that you can get help from a range of community and government organizations.
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Jack’s Broken Shoulder
So I was rewatching the Netflix Newsies recording and noticed something interesting about Jack: he’s right handed (as is Jeremy Jordan), but he doesn’t reflect that in his right shoulder. It shows through in lots of little ways.*
Whenever he’s gearing up for something, he rolls his right shoulder as if loosening it up in preparation. He does this a lot: in Carrying the Banner, when he’s just committed to the strike, right before the fight, twice when he’s being convinced to return, just after he scabs, when he asks what he and Kath are, while looking at Roosevelt, and three times in the final confrontation with Pulitzer.
He carries weight with his left arm whenever he has the choice. Look at how he pulls up Crutchie, even though he has to take an extra second (while Crutchie is hanging!) to get over to that side. Both times the Delancey’s knock him down, he catches his weight on his left hand. JJor’s single cartwheel at the very end is also pivoted around his left hand.
He also often prefers to gesture with his left hand, far more than Davey or Kath comparatively do. These are just four random moments I pulled out, but it’s present all throughout the show (particularly Santa Fe and STBI).
I can only think of about 5-6 times in the entire musical when he raises his right arm above shoulder level, usually as part of a double-armed action or group choreography. Whenever he gets to choose which arm he uses to go high, he tends to pick his left. The punch he throws with his right hand in the fight is almost laughably easily blocked by Oscar and is in terrible form (a really wide swing, almost like he can’t forcefully bend at the shoulder).
And again just after he’s been tossed out of the doors of The World. Les bounces right back up because kids are indestructible, but Jack and Davey lie there for a minute. Jack awkwardly pushes himself up with his left hand, gets pulled up by Albert, then presses down on his upper arm like it hurts more than the rest.
So what if he was in the Refuge, trying to cheer up some of the smaller kids? It’s after dinner, just enough weak light streaming through the windows to shine off the tear tracks, and he starts sketching in the dust on the glass. Wildly unflattering caricatures of Snyder and the wardens, working out his anger and trying to make the kids laugh. And they do. Quietly at first, then louder and louder until the room is ringing with it, the first happy noise in the Refuge in months. And then the wardens bust in, drawn by the noise, see the drawings and decide to stop Jack from drawing them ever again.
Humerus fractures are tricky things, and it’d be no surprise if Jack didn’t heal quite right from a break, even years later. Maybe that’s why Crutchie has no problem telling Jack he “ain’t been walking so good,” despite the fact that he doesn’t want “anyone should see”, because for ~2 months, Jack was in the same boat. They probably sold together, with the crutch and the sling, milking ableism for all it was worth. And even though Jack can only know the smallest fraction of what Crutchie deals with every day, he has more experience than most of the boys.
* obviously, some/most/all of this is due to blocking decisions and trying to stay open to the audience, but c’mon guys, let’s have some fun here.
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*peter comes and tony’s spirit’s there, feeling lonely, wishing it was just a dream, crying*
T: *sees peter* *cheers up* hey, kid. Y-You still remember me…?
*smiles with teary eyes*
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P: i can never spend a day without missing you, mr stark..
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T: oh, peter.. *tries to hug him but fails* i’m sorry.. *frowns*
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P: i wanna give you something special for this father’s day…
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T: knowing you remember what day it is already makes me happy, kid. *smiles and keeps talking to him as if peter could hear him*
but, what is it…?
*asked him as fast as he could before peter continued talking to him so that he could feel like they were having an actual conversation*
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P: harvard accepted me. I’m gonna study at harvard, mr stark.
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T: *covers his smile with his hand and can’t tell how happy and proud he is to hear that* that’s… -i knew you would, kid.
I’ve always believed you would since the first time you told me u wanted to study there.
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P: are you proud of me?
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T: *starts sobbing* god, i wish you could have heard what i said.. of course i am.. peter.. i am..
i even wish i could be on your graduation day and be in the picture of it to tell te world how proud i would be someday..
*sobs*
i’ll still be there and watch you tho, i promise.
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Petter: *sits down and bruises his fingertips over tony’s gravestone* i know you are, i can feel it.. *starts crying*
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T: *sits next to him* god, why can’t i hug you now..? *wipes his tears while seeing peter cry but can do nothing*
peter, i’m sorry..
You shouldn’t have come here alone..
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S: *creates a portal to tony’s graveyard to celebrate the father’s day with him* *sees peter cry and sits next to him* peter..?
hey…
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P: h-hey, dr strange.. *keeps sobbing*
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S: *hugs peter close and kisses the top of his head* *rubs his arm* it’s okay, peter. It’s alright. I’m here..
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T: *smiles* thank god, you’re here. Stephen..
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