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I recently discovered laundry stripping and y’all, no matter how much of a crock of shit you think fast fashion is, you’re underestimating.

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A faerie introduces himself. Then, holding out a hand, asks, “And your name, please?”

And, like a fool, you give it to him.

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Tubby Hot Summer

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i think stockpiling HRT is immoral and you should never do it. please do not reach out to me for advice on how you can stockpile yours in a conservative state. i will absolutely not be happy to answer and help you.

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something that should be taken with a grain of salt are the statistics talking about the high rates of mental illness + neurodivergence among trans people (ocd, bpd, adhd, autism, etc)

I see both sides of the political spectrum taking these studies at face value - conservatives say we're broken, and trans people try to come up with reasons why for example autism + gender dysphoria makes sense and why one of them feeds into another

at the end of the day you have to remember that we're the one category of people on this planet who are legally required to go see a psychiatrist in order to receive non-psychiatric medication and surgeries.

more trans people are in therapy by law than any other demographic of people, and as a result, this captures more comorbidities.

if I had to look at my own family & rates of mental illness?

mom, dad, 2 maternal aunts, maternal grandmother, paternal grandmother, sister, sibling, and me all have OCD.

7/9 of them are cishet, never been to therapy, never diagnosed. 2/9 are trans, required therapy for hormone treatment, and were diagnosed.

you don't have to do any math to just see that the resulting statistics end up intensely skewed.

and we can think back to how autism was virtually never diagnosed more than 50 years ago - ruling out any grandparents being included in statistics - and even my parents' generation (they're in their 60s now) wouldn't have been included either.

I don't think it's to anyone's benefit to accept these studies uncritically. a lot of these things are hereditary and far more prevalent in the overall population than people realize

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like because when you're physically disabled it doesn't mean you have no other disabilities. it doesn't mean you can't have problems with mental health either. a physically disabled person who's autistic or schizophrenic or traumatized aren't dealing with these issues separately. we're dealing with them concurrently. our ability to react and respond to issues caused by physical disability can be impaired by other things. so if someone grabs us to try and help stop us falling over or want to pick up something we dropped or. idk. the unfortunate thing is we can react very badly. when we're having these problems we won't react the same way a normally abled person who is physically limited for a while would. like if you just grabbed an autistic person in general they might scream or cry or try to bite you because like. you just grabbed them. but somehow when that person is also physically disabled, usually visibly physically disabled, people kinda see nothing other than the physical limitation. our complex humanity and individual circumstances and personalities get sidelined in favour of seeing us like a task, or an obstacle, or a good deed. like it always boils down to the fact that hey. do you know that we're people.

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It’s interesting how diseases rip through schools at incredible speeds despite being in an arguably modern, clean(ish) environment. I wonder if it has something to do with the whole “you need a doctor’s note to excuse your absence of even one day” combined with the average price of going to a doctor, the lack of education on things like “you’re still contagious even after the fever goes away”, and the overwhelming message of “if you don’t struggle through it, you’re a failure!”

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Hey, I wanted to ask what your thoughts are on allistic ndv people using the word "stimming"? Since I've learned about stimming I've realized that is a much more apt description for a lot of my "habits".

I’m okay with other neurodivergent people doing it.

This is where it’s clear I’m old though; in the early 2000s we were always catching non autistic (even neurotypical) people stimming at our presentations & pointing out that the difference isn’t the purpose of the behavior or the doing of it but who is & isn’t pathologized.

So, yeah, from where I sit stimming is for everyone (well, everyone who actually stims. the purpose matters…). Opinions may vary on this. 

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this is from a "manipulation advice" video and it's just so fucking funny to me. why didn't I think of responding to insults like this

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If anyone's curious, Livejournal's "strikethrough" ban wave, which was the event that caused the creation of AO3, was generated by the exact same pressure that is currently causing the steam and itch bans.

A group of moral crusaders, in this case "Collective Shout", and in that old case "Warriors for Innocence" campaigned and put pressure on corporations to get rid of "obscene" content, which ended up deleting the works of many creators.

Thankfully in the case of livejournal and "warriors for innocence" we got the miracle of AO3 out of the ashes.

Hopefully something equally good will come from the bullshit steam and itch io adult conetnt purges.

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i think it's important to acknowledge that the reason why mastercard/visa has such a stranglehold on american society is because cash is not the main form of payment in the usa. the predominance of card has effectively privatized currency

in japan, one of the reasons why dlsite and other similar websites are able to just remove visa as a payment option instead of changing any of their merchandise (aside from the fact that visa doesn't have a monopoly here) is because cash payments for online transactions remain an option. even if you don't have a jcb credit card or paypay or whatever, you can still pay for your online purchases using cash by taking your barcode to a convenience store, and you can do this for essentially every online vendor, meaning credit card companies can't just impose their moral judgments on your purchases with much repercussion

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Love when I point out a problem with capitalism and people are like "oh so we should hate and shun technology and live like peasants" like living good is a sin we must atone to the God of Socialism by living in medieval villages. I say something like "climate change is bad" and they're like "then we must destroy all industry", I say something like "space exploration is good" and they're like "no only billionaries do that that is a sin", I say something like "electronics in the first world are artificially cheap by exploitation" and they literally, like right now, just said to me "have you heard of luddites they had good ideas".

It's never about dismantling current oppressive systems and building a better society, as socialism as the path to a communist society, it's always about getting punished. Because of your Sins.

You can teach Usamericans Marxism but you have to work triple time to unteach them Puritanism.

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Nothing shuts down a bougie conversation like "well, when I was homeless—" Nothing. It's one and done. They are fucking taken out. The conversation is dead. Done.

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The other night husband and I were watching a documentary about the yeti where they were doing DNA analysis of samples of supposed yeti fur, and every one of them came back as bears.

Anyway, the next night we watched a thing about some pig man who is supposed to live in Vermont. People said it had claws and a pig nose but walked upright like a man. Now, I happen to know that sideshows used to shave bears and present them as pig men. So every piece of evidence they gave of this monster sounds to me like a bear with mange.

So now the running joke in our house is that everything is bears. Aliens? Bears. Loch Ness monster? Bear. Every cryptozoological mystery is just a very crafty bear.

Bears. They’re everywhere. Be wary. Anyone or anything could be a bear.

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[ID: A 2-panel comic. The first panel shows a gray cartoonish figure excitedly reaching out to grab a yellow ball. This ball is labeled, "Getting diagnosed to receive necessary accommodations and treatments to improve my QOL." (QOL meaning Quality of Life). The second panel shows a large pink blob-monster with an unsettling expression holding the gray figure back, preventing them from reaching the ball. This blob-monster is labeled, "47's admin trying to make an autistic registry, gutting accommodations, and throwing away disability rights." The gray figure is looking backwards at the blob-monster sweating, being frightened or annoyed, but still smiling. End ID]