late 20's on HRT since 2023I do not get to control how I am perceived, and neither do you. This is the trans experience in particular. This is the trans struggle. This is the burden of being alive. This blog talks most about this truama.I have never liked the word transandrophobia for its messy name and even messier baggage attached. This blog exists to give space to people who feel like they do not have a voice anywhere else, so anon asks will stay on if you want to vent.If you take issue with my phraseing, definitions, outlook, ideas gleened from lived experiences, and wider consequences of the ideas I advocate for, please tell me. I welcome constructive criticism and will have more generous leeway to consider a comment as such than to just quickly label it harassment.It is important that we talk directly and honestly with each other if we want to make sure everyone feels safe.I am not exempt from criticism, and neither are you.I do not have the time to moderate this space outside of my own words and what asks i choose to platform, so please do not assume I condone tags others put on my posts.I cannot know the entire history of the person I rebloged from and would rather keep my feed diverse than overly curate it. I do not tolerate queer bigotry of any kind.I refuse to contribute to a harassment campaign. If you come here to try and find ways to hurt other queer people, you have come to the wrong place. I stand in solidarity with transwomen of all varriation so much in common with us, just as I plead for them to do for us. Intersex, detransitioned, nonbinary, neopronoun users, uncatagorized, etc, I want you to feel safe here.
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the Trans Experience in our society is being treated like schrodinger's gender. you're a woman when they wanna deny you agency and a man when they wanna deny you support. this is an experience that unites nearly all of us, whether transmasc, transfem, or something else.
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@wolfertinger666 why was I blocked? i thought we had a good conversation
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I really liked how this conversation went so I wanted to put it up all proud on the refrigerator. Whatever the opposite is to twitter flame wars I want this blog to embody that (heartfelt, vulnerable conversations?) As someone who uses this website desktop only and has a flip phone and fights to keep the internet functioning the same way I have used it for over a decade being here (so sorry if I come off long winded, that is why) Please tell me @wis-arts-evil-corner, @wolfertinger666
if you have any problems with me making posts like this, it is the first time I have made anything like this in this style and I want to do whatever makes you feel most comfortable. This conversation about trans issues was just really healing for me and it made my day feel lighter with how I am daring to allow myself more visibility online then I ever allowed myself to have before.
I had an exchange today that I put a lot of effort into writing out that I want to preserve here as an archive of my core ideas. It is for the post seen here: https://www.tumblr.com/wolfertinger666/751553202218991616/basically-lily-simpson-made-a-really-good-video
My full thoughts repost that I had made before the messy and fast typed exchange is here: https://www.tumblr.com/yet-another-trans-man-blog/751566991567028224/you-have-the-right-to-make-art-and-statements-you
I apologize for my spelling and grammar errors even when I try to spell check because even when I try to spell check I can only spell so well to recognize an error in the first place.
TLDR: Not every representation has to be perfect to be important to someone and worth seeing the good in to help support those who relate.
#trans man issues#transman issues#intersectionality#days where i get to feel connected to other trans people and feel heard and understood are always good days#i have been yearning so for community and its only been this year that i really feel like i am more apart of the queer community finally#i am nothing but grateful to feel included here in these spaces <3
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she's so hot i wish everyone treated her better in the episode.
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Can we talk about the weird misogyny that’s in the idea that T makes trans men ugly.
The T making trans guys ugly idea always is joined with ‘women are destroying their beautiful feminine bodies to become men.’ Shit.
It’s just ‘a women’s (or people that society deems as women.) worth is connected to how pleasing/attractive they are to cishet men.’ idea.
Trans guys becoming masculine is seen as us losing value and worth as a person because we are no longer attractive to cishet men.
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i think a lot of white queer/trans people need to hear that "breaking gender norms" isnt just wearing a dress while masc or dying your hair. its also unlearning the beauty standards that impose ideals of white beauty and attractiveness on non-white folks. yes you have a nose ring but i just heard you tell your black friend with meticulously cared for natural hair "you'd just look so nice with straight hair is all im saying..." why does your blog fetishizing i mean uh. appreciating trans women only feature skinny white women who pass. when societal gender norms are so inextricably tied to whiteness and emulating whiteness it is not enough to simply change your aesthetic. you need to defy the gender norms in your own head too.
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we, as in the trans community, need to stop validating one another's body anxieties, even in the name of helping alleviate dysphoria. i can only speak for transmasc spaces since those are ones i have frequented since childhood but r/ftm is like. full of dudes having an absolute CRISIS about whether their hip ratios are 2 cm off + instead of empathy + support + body neutrality, the responses will be something unhinged + disturbingly essentialist like "the ideal male hip to chest ratio is xyz, which can be achieved by working out x times a week + starting testosterone immediately, in which case you will pass in 8-14 months".
sometimes ppl need to pass for safety or need tips on alleviating dysphoria but we can provide those to one another without reifying the idea that there is an Biologically Ideal Body Type which All Cis People Have which is conveniently a thin, white, athletic one. also, maybe do a double take before you pass your own body hyperfixations on to others as if they are immutable biological facts. "are minor differences waist to hip ratios actually this obvious + important or am i dysphoric + thus hyperfixated on them? would i wish this obsession on another human being?"
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I had an exchange today that I put a lot of effort into writing out that I want to preserve here as an archive of my core ideas. It is for the post seen here: https://www.tumblr.com/wolfertinger666/751553202218991616/basically-lily-simpson-made-a-really-good-video
My full thoughts repost that I had made before the messy and fast typed exchange is here: https://www.tumblr.com/yet-another-trans-man-blog/751566991567028224/you-have-the-right-to-make-art-and-statements-you
I apologize for my spelling and grammar errors even when I try to spell check because even when I try to spell check I can only spell so well to recognize an error in the first place.
TLDR: Not every representation has to be perfect to be important to someone and worth seeing the good in to help support those who relate.
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You should include intersex people in your activism not bc we prove bio essentialists are wrong but bc we are people who deserve rights 👍
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(Note I am ignoring the video essay for my comments here because these ideas are entirely my own, and I don't pretend to speak on behalf of anyone other than myself.)
I feel like I want to speak to this post because of how so many trans men often feel about your text posts and art, which can often be read as violent graphic dysphoric detail and trigger a lot of trans men with how they do not want moments where they do not pass to be seen as an invitation to be sexualized or have attention drawn to them in the way that your entire blog advocates for.
You have the right to make art and statements you do, and I hope you continue doing so.
The part that is usually the most emotional to people is where Orchard Blossom goes through the obstacle course in ways that will absolutely trigger some form of dysphoria, even secondhand, for people who are not trans women.
This is not inherently transphobic in the same way that your art isn't inherently transphobic.
the episode can be read as good faith sincerity with how it speaks to feeling excluded and the pain of yearning for a role that discourages you to achieve, always forced to put your head down and endure the expectations you have to squeeze yourself into- and the absolute joy of finally experiencing freedom and confidence to finally have-a-voice after so long of hiding, feeling like an inconvenience just for existing, and not wanting to take up space because you feel like you never deserved it
this is a near universal trans experience that any gender or lack there of can relate to in a gendered gate kept world.
The episode was written by cis people for a show that was always only ever concerned with cis women and the 3rd wave feminism that was lacking in the intersectionality that allows for terf/swerf/gender critical bigotry.
Also the constraints of it being a kid's show and limited with how short episodes are and how fast they are expected to be made. The episode was written by cis people with the voice of big mac being a father to a trans daughter who he had loosely talked to about but ultimately that doesn't give any creative power to the episode
Now a days we have more ways to push writers to consult with the communities and representatives of wider human conditions to represent without bad faith and misinformation.
Hateful characters and slurs even still have the power to be reclaimed and be warn as a badge of identification and recognition of a history and trauma so with how the show was a lighthouse for so many marginalized people of all kinds especially queer people i really think that as a whole regardless of how "gross the dysphoria triggering scenes" are I really think the message at the end, where the judges don't even argue for a second that Orchard Blossom isn't a "sister" that its enough to treat this with good faith
Because we have to be careful on how we talk about caricatures even the most hateful of ones because there might be someone in our community that (willingly or unwillingly) have those traits and it wold be bad to target the marginalized group for "fitting the harmless aesthetics of a stereotype that we deem cringe" and not "the bigot that thinks that having blue hair is enough to warrant the death sentence so will group other traits in with blue hair to encourage a cringe response just at the sight of blue hair"
To my favorite and most notable example of people making Orchard Blossom fan art as a symbol of trans pride i point to @punkitt-is-here (all her my little pony fan art is great but shes so popular you already know that i bet)
But to showcase some kids shows that do gender right in a way that I always felt my little pony fell behind on i give you:
Steven Universe (too many cooks too and many eyes is the curse of most trailblazer art)
Wake up Carlo
Battle Kitty
Aaahh real monsters
Centaur World
Sam and Max Freelance police
Rockos Modern Life
Fraggle Rock (the new one AND the old one)
At the end of the day I plead to every trans person out there who has dysphoria like I do to not make another trans person simply existing a targeted attack at yourself
Drawings are not real but it can often help real people to puppet them in ways that remind the people who relate to those shapes and ideas that they deserve to exist and are worthy of love.
thinking about that really transphobic MLP episode and how charged it felt wtf.
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people who hate trans men seem to overwhelmingly be of the opinion we can control how big our breasts are/were. 'me when the he/they with the biggest fattest womanest boobiest tits you've ever seen-' shut the fuck up
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i love trans men who don’t wanna be called or reminded of being trans, i love dysphoric trans men, i love trans men who will never pass and don’t try to, i love trans men who don’t care about hrt or surgery. i love trans men who have 46 genders. i love trans bears who grow bushy bears and thick body hair and waltz around in makeup and dresses and lingerie. i love trans men who flex their surgeries and hrt progress. i love trans men who are obsessed with every change T has on their voices. i love trans men with xenogenders and nonbinary genders and their own versions of masculinity and manhood. i love trans men who are stereotypically masculine n get euphoria from passing as cis. i love trans men who are also a lesbian because they sit right on the cusp and are comfortable there, i love trans men who have never experienced dysphoria and never will, i love trans men who experience dysphoria even after transitioning and for the rest of their loves, i love trans men who lead separate genders in different spaces for safety reasons, i love trans men who can’t come out, i love trans men who tell everyone they’re trans. i love all trans men. all trans men are good. we’re all good. thank you. i love you.
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I like the label demisexual/demiromantic for entirely avoiding gender.
to people who know what "their thing is" it can be great to just say something like " i really like when legs are shaped like this so it dosn't matter what the person identifies as who has that feature" And then the whole thing of people craving a dynamic more then what a person looks like so identity matters more on those lines then they do the nebulous realm of gender.
I'm just waiting for tv trope classifications to take over what sexuality labels are with how much overlap and specific community understanding makes it more difficult then it needs to be to get the core idea across more often then not.
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transfems 🤝 transmascs
no seriously this post isnt a bit y’all gotta start holding hands and talking to each other. both of y’all need to work to make better spaces where the other one feels included and we need to do that yesterday
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i am so desperately concerned with some people on this website.
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tumblr is a beautiful ecosystem bc here you can see that transgender disabled mentally ill gay minorities can be just as annoying, obnoxious and reactionary as any cishet abled white person. THATS equality.
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