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came home drunk last night and got way too excited to see my cat

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Since the OP made their post unrebloggable (and blocked me. Both actions they are well in with their right to do)

I'm going to make my response it's own post because I think the point is important

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As someone who is autistic and has BPD and CPTSD and loads of trauma yes you sometimes need to change how you interact with others to keep people around

When I was 13 I hit the few friends I had when I was angry

I had to change that in order to keep those friendships

When I was in my early 20s if I was losing an disagreement with my husband I would threaten to kill myself. My husband told me it hurt him and was cruel and manipulative behaviour, because it was.

So I worked hard to change that to keep my relationship

It's easy to say "I shouldn't have to change for others" and that's true to an extent. You shouldn't change your interests or passions or dim your light. And you should have space to be imperfect and flawed and not have to pretend your ugly bits aren't real. But if something you are doing it causing other people harm you kinda need to change that.

That's called "living in a society"

People adapt to each other and make space for each other in their lives. You adapt to them and they adapt to you

You start being more diligent about throwing away the empty toilet roll because it really bothers them. They start warning you before they run the blender because you hate loud noises

I stopped threatening to kill myself because I was mad I was losing an argument and my husband stopped being so vocally judgemental amount media he personally dislikes

There is a certain type of person who heard the phrase "your emotions are valid" and took that to mean "my emotional reactions and my behaviour are always objectively correct because my emotions are valid and if you have an emotional response or react to what I'm doing negatively then you are wrong and you can't be hurt because my emotions are valid"

And that's a recipe for disaster

Your emotions are valid to feel. They are how you feel and there are reasons you feel the way you do

However, your reactions and behaviour are something you can learn to control and can be irrational

We live in a society and we as people change each other as we interact and that isn't necessarily a bad thing

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The battle between Moon-and-Star and Moon-and-Sugar.

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He doesn’t know where he is rn

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HETEROSEXUAL CIS-PEOPLE LOOK HERE

Snaps my fingers at you as you scroll past this post

Look at me. Listen.

I'm not the best at serious posts, but that article up there reminded me of how important it is that people like you stand up for us. So hold on while I try to get this out of my mushy end-of-work-day brain.

We could fight this fight ourselves for decades trying to reach the equal laws, gender affirming trans healthcare that doesn't have a 2-5+ soul-eating years of waiting time, medical care with equal knowledge of lgbtqia+ bodies, and, what is often forgotten, inclusion in the little everyday areas of life like our way of speaking or things being set up or designed with the existence of queer people in mind.

But you joining in could get us there so much faster.

The power you have as a hetero cis person is that you set the standard for what is seen as the average way of treating us among other hetero cis people. You have been given the power of deciding what's "normal" and I'm begging you to use it.

Richard Green is a great example of to what extent your actions can help our situation, and smaller ways of support still add up to a great impact on society, and could make the days of the queer people you interact with.

Educate yourself before you speak up, but don't be silent.

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I have been waiting all year to post this.

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If I was in the elder scrolls universe I'd either get cancelled or cause a political incident by frequently and inadvertently offending Alfiq Khajiit by saying things like "aw little guy!" to like these grown ass merchants and bankers and such

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Secunda and Masser 🌕

This should be the final piece for this year celebrating new year Eve today🐈

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The sheep of Cyrodiil are always aware of what you do and keep track of your crimes and murders. They maintain an active tally of your current bounties but choose not to take action.

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Ecstasy.

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Everybody needs Todd Howard in a teletubby costume holding a shotgun on their blog.

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artists! nightshade v1.0 is ready!

(remember that nightshade does not include glaze, but they're working on an integrated version of both. so if you want both, use nightshade first, then glaze!)

edit: adding this info for those who do not know what i'm talking about. nightshade poisons ai models if your images are taken without permission, and glaze protects you from ai mimicry!

now go protect your art and poison that ai!

download nightshade

download glaze

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leans into the mic. the qsmp streams and events are not to distract from the admin situation. the new admin team (which likely includes some admins who stayed from the last one) likely just want to have fun on the server they’re on. they’re allowed to do that. thank u <3

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{Quotes:Nitya prakash/Richard siken ,crush}

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He's so me fr

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i'm seeing that y'all are gonna let watcher control the narrative and act like we misunderstood them and they were never gonna remove their stuff from youtube. you can say whatever you want about their streaming service, but one thing is a fact: they are lying to us pretending that was not their intention and we're spreading misinformation. we not only aren't stupid and understood the video correctly, but also they told variety that that's what they were doing.

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The most important comment in this whole mess