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aw look at them, so happy and healthy and not at all dead or orphaned

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My headcanon is that she never legally changed her surname because she still goes by "Tonks," but that she'll introduce herself as "Tonks Lupin" following the Battle of Hogwarts, which she and Remus most definitely, 1000% survived.

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need to ramble about my favorite werewolf: i'm ALL in for the remus loser boy agenda, but when i say my boy is a loser i mean he's all lumpy, with clumsy hands and worn-off sweaters. i mean he spills coffee on his shirt every morning at breakfast and thinks he's the most boring person in the world. i mean he usually prefers books over most people and believes that having many friends is overrated. i mean he hates too much attention and doesn't think he's worthy of good things. i do not mean he's unfunny, unsmart or has the humor capacity of a doorknob.

i usually don't really like bringing up canon, but i'm gonna do it just this once: he became my favorite character in canon (and then the other million fanon versions of him became it too) because of how incredible he was. i was out there reading the books and thinking to myself: oh god i understand why he's harry's favorite teacher. i wish i had an authority figure like him around.

and you can't be a teacher like that without being charismatic and intelligent. maybe he wasn't academically gifted like sirius and james, but he was very smart and a damn good wizard. he also had such a good sense of humor (and i mean really good) that was perfectly blended with his kindness and his natural way of caring about other people.

like, maybe at first he might've seemed too serious during his time as a kid at hogwarts, but the people really close to him knew how unexpectedly fresh his personality was. my remus is a gay half blood werewolf. this guy is made out of sassy self deprecating humor and clever puns. he's funny and fun as fuck.

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hi! I'm writing this story about a woman (20-27??) who lives in a haunted house, and treats some of the younger spirits like their younger siblings and the older ghosts like her overbearing parents, constantly warning her not to die in the same ways they did. I would like dialogue prompts for it or something similar please, thank you :)

Hi :) Interesting story and I tried to come up with some good dialogue for it!

Human/Ghost Dialogue Prompts

"You seem exceptionally happy today." "Yes, you could say I'm in high spirits." "That was like an awful dad joke coming from a ghost." "You mean, a dead joke?"

"I love living with you all. But sometimes it just gets to much."

"You can't always protect me from everything. You can't even leave this house." "Well, would you consider not leaving the house either, for your own safety." "Definitely not."

"We definitely need to have the talk about boundaries again."

"Every time people ask me about my family, I want to tell them about you guys, but I'm not sure how they would take the information that I live with a bunch of ghosts."

"I know you're always scared I would die the same way you did, but at least dying from the bubonic plague is not that easy to achieve in this day and age." "Oh, never say never."

Hope you like them!

- Jana

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In Defense of Remus Lupin: Misunderstood, Not a Coward

There’s a recurring pattern in fandom that deeply saddens me: the tendency to vilify Remus Lupin for the lowest moment of his life — leaving Tonks during her pregnancy — while ignoring the lifetime of pain, sacrifice, and silent heroism that led him there.

Let’s be clear: Remus Lupin is not a coward. He is a man shaped by a society that taught him to hate himself.

A Life of Stigma and Loss

Remus was bitten as a child and spent his life being treated like a dangerous outcast. Even when he did everything right — got an education, made friends, joined the Order — he lived in fear of being discovered and rejected. His trauma wasn’t just physical; it was systemic, emotional, and constant.

His self-control wasn’t just about keeping others safe — it was about trying to hold on to his humanity. When he calls himself a “creature,” it’s not metaphor. It’s how he sees himself. And that’s tragic.

The War, Grief, and a Crumbling Mind

By the time Deathly Hallows opens, Remus has:

• Lost his only connection to his teenage years, Sirius;

• Lost his mentor and father figure (Dumbledore);

• Been shamed into a relationship he didn’t think he deserved;

• Been shamed publicly and privately for not accepting that relationship sooner;

• Been forced to live under constant threat, while society still devalues his existence.

When he tries to leave Tonks, it isn’t out of neglect. It’s because he believes he is hurting her by being near (and, let's face it, he was right!). He thinks that loving him will destroy her (and it did!) That Teddy will grow up ashamed. That the best gift he can give them is his absence.

It’s heartbreaking, but it’s not cowardice. It’s despair.

The Scene We Should All Re-Read

“Lupin actually seized handfuls of his own hair; he looked quite deranged.”

— Deathly Hallows, Chapter 11

In this scene, Lupin doesn’t speak like a man who made a rational choice. He speaks like someone in the midst of a mental breakdown. Everything he says is steeped in self-loathing:

“I made a grave mistake in marrying Tonks…”

“Even her own family is disgusted by our marriage…”

“It will be better off… without a father of whom it must always be ashamed.”

This is not someone running from responsibility. This is someone convinced that his very presence is the danger.

Everyone Else Broke, Too

The wizarding world was collapsing. People we admire made horrific choices under stress: Harry used Unforgivable Curses. Dumbledore lied for years. Ron abandoned his friends. Even Hermione nearly erased herself from existence.

Remus had one breakdown (after a long period of pressure) and for that, fandom calls him a coward?

And Here’s What’s Strange

Fandom often bends over backward to redeem characters like Sirius Black — who was reckless, emotionally manipulative, and treated both Remus and Harry poorly — and Severus Snape, who bullied children, held lifelong grudges, and only switched sides out of unrequited love.

But Remus? The man who spent his life protecting others, who carried his burdens in silence, who came back to face the consequences of his worst moment — he is the one people won’t forgive?

It says something sad about how fandom defines strength and worth.

But He Came Back

That’s the part people forget: Remus came back.

He returned to Tonks. He held his baby in his arms. He fought and died for a better world — not for glory, but so that Teddy could live in a better world, and free from the shame Remus carried all his life.

And that… is not cowardice. That is strength.

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Love this! I've always had a headcanon that James was the only marauders who joined the Order because he truly believed it. Not that the others didn't believe in the mission, I just don't think it was their primary reasoning.

James joined because he believed that blood purity was dumb & wanted to help protect/save the Wizarding world.

Remus doesn't even believe that he'll ever actually find himself treated equally in a Wizarding society, but he genuinely believe that he owes everything to Dumbledore & immediately joins out of obligation.

Sirius joined because James and Remus did & because it put him in direct opposition to his parents & their beliefs. While he also wants a better world, again, it's not his primary motivator.

Peter joins solely because his friends did and he craves security. He wants to feel safe and there's a war and all of his friends join, so he does, too. Because his motivator was security, though, and not loyalty, or belief in justice, or desire to rebel, he was the easiest to sway. Once his security amongst his friends was threatened, he turned to the next person he could get it from - the people who were already leading the war.

Sorry, but Sirius Black was a privileged brat who supported causes superficially without understanding discrimination or making an effort to do so. Throughout his story, we repeatedly see behaviors that could easily belong to members of his own family, only instead of directing them at "Mudbloods," he targets other groups: poor half-bloods, werewolves, house-elves... Because Sirius Black never understood his own privilege, nor did he understand what privilege itself entails. He only hated his family, and therefore, anything his family thought was good, he thought was bad, but not from a studied, logical, or well-thought-out perspective. Not from a position where he wanted to give up everything that made his life easier, but purely out of hate, resentment, and family trauma.

And that makes him very interesting because he constantly defends certain moral issues and fights for them without truly understanding them. And not understanding them leads to him constantly displaying very questionable and hypocritical behaviors. He supposedly believes in equality, yet the first person he suspects of being a spy for Voldemort is his werewolf friend because he’s a werewolf. He supposedly defends the weak, yet he spent years enjoying himself while bullying a poor, resource-less kid who clearly couldn’t compete with the status or surname of the Blacks. He supposedly should treat those below him well, yet he treats his house-elf like garbage.

Sirius Black is contradictory and is a great example of the typical rich kid from radicalized, highly sectarian families who opposes those families, leaves them, but never abandons their privileged environments nor gives up their money or resources. As a result, his social awareness is very performative because he hasn’t engaged in self-criticism. And that’s what gives the character realism and interest. If you take that away from him, he becomes incredibly boring. So please stop saying he wasn’t a privileged elitist, because he was, and he also had violent and sadistic tendencies.

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I’m not a fan of Snape, so I’d make him the abuser if I were writing it. I feel like he would give a more interesting twist than Sirius:

In a magical-but-no-voldy AU, maybe Voldemort is defeated, James & Lily die but Harry survives & Sirius raises him. Remus feels wrong-footed with Sirius because he knows that they suspected him of being the spy at least in part due to his lycanthropy, so, one night at the pub - still reeling from the changes in his life - Remus bumps into Snape. Snape is also displeased at his current predicament, but blames Remus in part because he almost killed him at Hogwarts. They end up hatefucking & it’s meant to be a one time thing, but Snape realizes how easily Remus is manipulated and takes advantage of it and eventually it turns into a complicated relationship of sorts. Remus stays only out of a sense of obligation and because he sees it as a form of self punishment - like it’s something he deserves because of his Lycanthropy. In this AU (ages/timelines would need to be changed), Tonks is assigned to his case shortly after she is hired because they are still cleaning up after the defeat of voldy. She sees what is happening & helps him leave Snape. Along the way, he reconnects with Sirius and Harry, who he had lost contact with at Snape’s insistence.

In a non-magical AU, it’d basically be the same but Remus first hooks up with Snape because Snape told him he owed it to him after costing him Lily because Snape didn’t believe that Remus was as chronically ill as he claimed so Sirius told him one of Remus’s flare triggers and Snape does it to him, but James saves Remus from the flare’s worst parts and Lily is impressed. James & Lily would die in a car crash & Remus would grow distant with Sirius & Harry because he felt like a burden & then Snape would continue to convince him that he was one until he lost all contact, but by the end they’d all reconnect. Tonks would meet Remus when she is hired to work at the library as the children’s director and Remus is just general staff. She sees what is happening & helps him leave Snape. I’d have him actually move in with Sirius & Harry while he and Tonks begin their relationship because it leaves him hesitant to become dependent on another person so quickly. While Tonks can be impulsive, I’d have that be part of her character arc, learning to be patient with important things, and she’d tell him that she’s willing to go at whatever pace he needs. She’ll still manage to draw him slightly outside of his comfort zone, but in a good way.

So an idea I've been playing with in my head for a while. Tell me what you think.

Remus is in an abusive relationship (physical, financial and emotional) with either Snape or Sirius.

Tonks finds out what's happening accidentally, and wants to help. She doesn't quite know how. She can't bear to see anyone suffer having suffered some similar things in the past.

With support from Tonks, will Remus have the strength to leave his abuser? Will Tonks be patient enough to help (I feel she can be impulsive at times).

Neither expects to fall in love with each other. Tonks and Lupin are pansexual, drawn more to a personality rather than anything being sexual.

What do you guys think? Who should be the abuser? Snape or Black? I'm 50/50 at present. I can make either of them work.

Will of course be an AU.

Let me know what you think in the comments section.

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A literal note from my “detailed outline”:

“Chapter 07: Full Moon”

(Other chapters have paragraph’s of info, but there are a few that are only two or three words)

me, struggling to write: hmm, this part is a little difficult. maybe i should check my planning document, which i created as a helpful tool for my writing process!

the planning document:

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Some idiot: "Why are you reading your own fic, that's shallow and stupid"

All fanfic writers and writers everywhere: "Who the fuck do you think I wrote it for?!"

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subscribing to a fic isn’t enough I need the author to blast a bat signal into the night sky whenever they update

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My villain origin story is the time Google Docs autocorrected “irrefusable” to “unrefusable” and then flagged “unrefusable” as incorrect. Buddy, you made that mistake, I knew what I was doing😂😂😂

Do you think I meant to write "stoopid" google docs. Do you think I meant to describe a character as "stoopid." Do you think that is what I meant to do

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Update: just had a Snape fan foaming at the mouth in my mentions because I pointed out they were wrong about Tonks age & said that neither Lupin nor Snape are inherently better than the other. Like, calling me some wild insults & posting a 4 comment thread with random quotes that did nothing to disprove what I said. The best argument they had was “he was bullied” so all the shit he did as a grown adult is okay. Snape isn’t the worst character in HP, but some of his fans certainly are😂😂😂

okay can we talk about how horrible snape is towards lupin??? he literally makes remus's class write an essay on how to kill a werewolf!! and remus then has to read and mark them!! wtf?!?!!? borderline inhumane behaviour.

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All the Snape fans in the comments straight up lying to try & make Snape look better than Lupin are cracking me up. I’m all for like who you like - I’m sure Snape has redeemable qualities alongside his flaws just like Lupin - but it’s really telling when you have to straight up lie (or can only use fanon evidence) about a character to make a bigot who torments children look better😂😂😂

If I came back from sick leave to see a bunch of papers about how to kill me (when I already hate myself for my condition) I’d be like “damn, that was cold.” IDK why Snape fans can’t just admit that.

okay can we talk about how horrible snape is towards lupin??? he literally makes remus's class write an essay on how to kill a werewolf!! and remus then has to read and mark them!! wtf?!?!!? borderline inhumane behaviour.

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Something I don't think we talk enough about in discussions surrounding AI is the loss of perseverance.

I have a friend who works in education and he told me about how he was working with a small group of HS students to develop a new school sports chant. This was a very daunting task for the group, in large part because many had learning disabilities related to reading and writing, so coming up with a catchy, hard-hitting, probably rhyming, poetry-esque piece of collaborative writing felt like something outside of their skill range. But it wasn't! I knew that, he knew that, and he worked damn hard to convince the kids of that too. Even if the end result was terrible (by someone else's standards), we knew they had it in them to complete the piece and feel super proud of their creation.

Fast-forward a few days and he reports back that yes they have a chant now... but it's 99% AI. It was made by Chat-GPT. Once the kids realized they could just ask the bot to do the hard thing for them - and do it "better" than they (supposedly) ever could - that's the only route they were willing to take. It was either use Chat-GPT or don't do it at all. And I was just so devastated to hear this because Jesus Christ, struggling is important. Of course most 14-18 year olds aren't going to see the merit of that, let alone understand why that process (attempting something new and challenging) is more valuable than the end result (a "good" chant), but as adults we all have a responsibility to coach them through that messy process. Except that's become damn near impossible with an Instantly Do The Thing app in everyone's pocket. Yes, AI is fucking awful because of plagiarism and misinformation and the environmental impact, but it's also keeping people - particularly young people - from developing perseverance. It's not just important that you learn to write your own stuff because of intellectual agency, but because writing is hard and it's crucial that you learn how to persevere through doing hard things.

Write a shitty poem. Write an essay where half the textual 'evidence' doesn't track. Write an awkward as fuck email with an equally embarrassing typo. Every time you do you're not just developing that particular skill, you're also learning that you did something badly and the world didn't end. You can get through things! You can get through challenging things! Not everything in life has to be perfect but you know what? You'll only improve at the challenging stuff if you do a whole lot of it badly first. The ability to say, "I didn't think I could do that but I did it anyway. It's not great, but I did it," is SO IMPORTANT for developing confidence across the board, not just in these specific tasks.

Idk I'm just really worried about kids having to grow up in a world where (for a variety of reasons beyond just AI) they're not given the chance to struggle through new and challenging things like we used to.

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