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if you are here specifically for abdl or other kink stuff, please go to @diaper-dyke instead. my main is @axolotlnoise

i am no longer posting abdl or kink content on this blog. this is mainly just going to be me reblogging content surrounding palestine, sudan, congo, papua, etc. from now on.

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i think i'm gonna make diaper-dyke a main blog bc my dash is kinda flooded with negativity on this blog :p i just wanna be diaper horny in peace

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Practice Safe Sex. Tie your partner down to the bed so they don't fall off.

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Hey, are you pooping yourself right now? Okay, I thought so. Thank you for telling me. Was this on purpose or was it an accident? What’s that honey? You don’t want to tell me, do you? Why don’t you want to tell me? Is it because it was on purpose and you’re embarrassed? Are you embarrassed that you’re going in your diaper on purpose? Oh, don’t worry. We can pretend it was an accident if it makes you feel better.

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[Photo ID: A Tweet from user wanderingdah that says "fun fact: a trans woman’s pronouns don’t suddenly become they/them when you’re mad at her." End ID.]

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I mean this question in good faith and I’m not saying any side is wrong, but while I understand the freedom and cultural importance and such of kink at pride, it does worry me thinking about kids attending and seeing certain things. If there’s just leather in part of your outfit I don’t care, but if it’s something more explicit? I don’t know. Everyone who supports kink at pride are people I generally agree with so I think this is something I should believe, but I just can’t help being worried. My question is how is it okay? Like idk why don’t we confine it to adult-only pride spaces? I don’t want kids to be unable to attend the main pride (like the parade) but if you’re exposed to sex too early it messes with mental stuff. I just want an argument from a supporter of it. Thank you in advance and I hope this ask doesn’t upset you!

hello anon! no worries, you haven’t upset me; i’m always happy to share my opinions, and appreciate that you’re questioning things which make you uncomfortable and looking for other perspectives <3

a few years ago, i wrote about kink at pride in this post, which i hope you’ll read first. the tl;dr is: 1) kink at pride doesn’t equal exposure of genitals & public sex, 2) “pride” is more than the pride parade, and 3) kink is not predatory.

if you’ll allow me, i’d like to present a few more ideas on this subject:

1) sex is not dangerous. when i say i’m sex positive, i mean that while sex can be dangerous, it is not uniquely more dangerous than any other risky adult activity. for example, children shouldn’t drink alcohol while their brains are developing, children shouldn’t drive vehicles or handle firearms before they develop impulse control and good judgement, and children shouldn’t rock-climb without learning proper safety protocol. sex is the same; kids shouldn’t have sex until they’re mature enough to understand the logistical and emotional consequences of any given sex act. assuming that they have access to proper sexual education* and safe adults to approach with questions, being ‘exposed’ to sex** is not damaging or harmful to children. however, this almost doesn’t matter to the issue of kink at pride because:

2) public kink does not involve sex. as i’ve said before: public kink displays do not involve public sex. what they do include is: collars, harnesses, fetish masks, bodysuits, all with garments which cover the genitals. you might also see rope, floggers, paddles, handcuffs, and gags. but even at adult-oriented kink events, there is no public sex. if you’re imagining an event where sex is happening, that’s most likely a private orgy with explicit consent from the participants, and will absolutely not be happening at pride events.

3) public kink is easy to explain to children. given that public kink amounts to people in silly outfits and props, kink displays are okay because an adult guardian can explain kink to their child in the same way they would explain alcohol, driving vehicles, or firearms. kink (just like alcohol, driving, and firearms) is something for adults to enjoy, which kids can learn about and explore later, once they’re old enough to engage safely. an adult guardian might say, for example, “those people are playing a game for adults. if you’re confused or uncomfortable, we can look away together until they pass by. if you’re still curious in a few years, we can talk about it then.” this also teaches children how to disengage with things they might find upsetting—a skill which is applicable in all facets of life.

4) the solution is always diversification, not restriction. a thriving queer community has a series of pride events during june. the pride parade shouldn’t be thought of as “main pride”. even as an adult, i don’t always attend the parade. in the past, my pride month has meant i go to drag shows, pride parties in the city square, and queer sporting events. some people are still uncomfortable around any form of kink, and that’s okay! everyone has different comfort levels. so even though i don’t believe public kink displays are harmful to children, i will always advocate for a wider diversity of pride events which are explicitly child-friendly. making safe spaces should always be about creating communities instead of restricting people and things from pre-existing spaces. and because the parade has always included kink, it’s my hill to die on that it should stay that way. even if you’re over-cautious and want to avoid the parade with your children while they’re young, you can always make it something to look forward to when they’re older.

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i hope this makes sense to you. while i appreciate you trusting me to advocate for this position, i would hate for you to decide to be in favour of kink at pride just because your friends say you should be. for me, part of being queer is actively interrogating my own beliefs and the structures that surround me. and as always, all i’ve written here is based on my personal experiences of pride, and kink events in various canadian cities.

happiest pride month to you, anon! 🌈

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* proper sexual education = age appropriate resources about their bodies, reproductive systems, and how reproduction happens. later, information on safe-sex practices (ex. condoms, birth control, lubrication, hygiene), sexual orientation, and the importance of consent.

** exposed to sex = knowing what sex is, learning how sex happens, and/or accidentally seeing sex happening (for example, walking in on adults having sex, catching a sex scene on TV, etc.).

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So I don’t usually really enjoy the idea of messing but when a domineering Mommy type phrases it as “pamper packing” or “fill your diaper” it becomes all I can think about.

Well I don't really see a point in using any other kind of language with a little one. That's just appropriate. Little darlings fill their diapers and pack their pampers. I also use mess but that's just what it is, a mess. Honestly though it's cute how your aversion to messing only seems to be one of language. Maybe you don't dislike it as much as you like to tell yourself sweetheart. Maybe, just maybe, you deeply want to be Mommy's professional pamper packer hmm?

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“It Is an Honor to Be Suspended for Palestine”

Dispatches from the Solidarity Encampment at Columbia University

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In this in-depth report, participants offer a blow-by-blow account of the events at Columbia, appraising the tactics that the demonstrators have employed and the challenges that they face.

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happy lesbian week!!

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here’s the closeted furries “hey man… can u bum me a cig” and “the one uncle nobody invites to the family reunion but SOMEONE keeps telling him where it is anyways”

if you want an idea of what john is like, imagine hau from pokemon sumo

ALSO the ppl who kept asking me for trans thomas art, HERE he’s trans in this au (; 

ft John:

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You know maybe a trans guy talking about how he is mourning the deaths of multiple trans men this year and how he knows multiple trans guys who’ve committed suicide isn’t the post to go on a rant about how you think “trans men have transess on easy mode” fuck off

You can have whatever opinions you want I don’t care anymore. But to lack sympathy for trans men to the point that your reaction to a trans man mourning the death of other trans men is to go on a rant about how private trans men are??? Jesus read the fucking room.

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