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like my friend asked me if my nails were for the fourth of july T-T

my friend that is pink, not red

she insists its red. “dusty red,” supposedly

i forgot how cishet my gymnastics teammates are

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i forgot how cishet my gymnastics teammates are

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cashier called me “sir” today but theres a 75% chance they werent talking to me

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i tried on a new sweater i got and immediately got dysphoric bc of the way it hangs over my body so. i hope its not like that forever bc i liked that sweater

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im back from the dead (and no one missed me)

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i only just realized that one of my older friends calling me “little bro” has been one of the most gender affirming experiences of my life

they’ve been doing it for ages now, how have i not noticed

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using online name and pronoun testers when people are misgendering me too much is nice. They basically write sentences using your name and pronouns! They’re normally used to help people figure out what name and pronouns they want to go by, but they can be used for euphoria as well.

The one i use is at this link, but there are more online.

Wearing layers can help hide your chest.

Tying a sweater around your waist can act like a skirt. It works best with an unbuttoned or unzipped hoodie/flannel/whatever.

Also, just remembering that my body, my name, the pronouns people choose for me, etc. do not change or invalidate my gender. I am my gender regardless of what other people think. I am my gender regardless of my body. It doesn’t always help, but it can sometimes.

yall idk why i feel like this but since we're all trans reblog with your best dysphoria tips!!

for any gender and agab

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My goal over the next four years is to just get gayer and more nonbinary. Y’all think you can stop me, baby, I’m punchin’ it into hyper-drive. Good luck, losers.

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been following your stuff for a while, big fan. may we get an agender zork in this trying time

Green Zork

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@this-is-exorsexism

It is legitimately so annoying how nonbinary genders get rounded off to “basically a man” or “basically a woman” depending on presentation/ birth assignment/ vibes/ general viewer bias. It’s so pervasive even within the queer & trans community that half the time I wind up doing it to myself! I desperately want to feel like I belong somewhere, gender-wise, but I rarely ever do. Can hardly even find any writing about trans experiences that mirror mine… Like idk, sometimes I feel so invisible I might as well poof out of existence 🙃

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Call me "girl", and when I tell them that I'm uncomfortable with gendered terms, insist that they meant it "gender-neutrally" and that they "use it on everyone anyway"

this is exorsexism.

yup. so tired of the "i call everyone girl/guy" crowd, and the burden is always on us to tell them we don't like it rather than them just maybe not assuming everyone likes gendered terms.

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sigh.

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Demigirl/genderfluid —> agender

Ace ??? —> aroace demialterous lesboy

Everyone introduce yourself by what you thought your OG queer identity was and what you currently identify as

Ill go first: hi I was bisexual now I’m a pansexual aroace

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Hi! Agender person here!!

Non-binary is a gender that is neither girl nor boy. It’s not part of the binary spectrum of gender. Non-binary people can experience gender, it’s just a gender that is not girl or boy. Non-binary is not specifically a lack of gender, because sometimes non-binary people DO have gender. Also, it’s not people who don’t think they’re a boy or a girl, non-binary people are not boys or girls (talking about strictly non-binary people - not demigenders, paragenders, etc.)

Agender is a label that fits under the non-binary umbrella label. Agender people don’t have a gender. They’re not boys, girls, non-binary, xenogender, etc. (again, talking about strictly agender people.)

Of course, this is a spectrum. Some non-binary people don’t have a gender, but still prefer to call themselves non-binary. Some agender people feel gender, but only sometimes. There are infinite ways to be non-binary, agender, or both! Personally, I prefer to call myself agender, because calling myself non-binary can suggest that I have a gender, which is incorrect. However, I do call myself non-binary sometimes because it is a more commonly known label than agender, and therefore saves me from having to explain my label to other people.

I hope this helped! Gender is weird and confusing so it’s okay if you don’t get it - I definitely didn’t understand it for a while.

Ok I don't wanna sound rude but

If non binary means you don't think you're a boy or a girl then

What's the point of Agender like-

It's the difference between not thinking you're any gender vs not having a gender

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Forcing people to call you it/it's is disrespectful, since these are for objects these pronouns are inherently dehumanizing so it's yuck to force that on nonconsenting people

This had been adressed so many tomes by so many people. Me wanting to be called it/its is not a kink, first of all, it's part of who I am and my identity as much as if I used any other pronouns. And by all means, if you don't want to respect my identity, I don't want you to talk to me, so piss off.

I mean, that's so weird. You wouldn't say that about other trans people using she/he/they, why do you say that to me ? You wouldn't imply that other people's transness is a kink (that's why I understand from the "non consenting" part), why do you do that for mine ?

As I said, in the end, if you don't like it, don't talk to me. That's not a loss for me.

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hold on, people actually follow this blog???