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Accounts been hibernating for a bit, but I rise to share images of swimsuit options!

Please help me choose the one that you think looks best!

Swimsuit 1

Swimsuit 2

Swimsuit 3

Swimsuit 5

Or Swimsuit 6

More nsft images below cut 😋

One of the skirt bottoms!

Bonus detail from #6, boob window!

And in thanks for your help, titties! (And another skirt)

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AFTERCARE

What is aftercare?

Aftercare is the emotional, mental, and physical support given to someone after a scene, especially one that is intense, vulnerable, or taxing. However, aftercare is an essential part of sexual activity in general–not just BDSM scenes–as it's a mutual expression of vulnerability and empathy after engaging in sexual charged activity.

Examples of Aftercare

Cuddling

Blankets, soft clothes, and warmth

Water and snacks

Gentle praise and reassurance

Taking a shower or bath together

Journaling to decompress in silence

Giving each other space if requested

Checking in the next day

Applying ointment to bruised or sore spots

Talking through what happened and how it made you feel

Why is aftercare important?

Scenes can trigger intense physiological and psychological responses as endorphins, adrenaline, and dopamine spike during play. These neurotransmitters and hormones drop, causing individuals–most notably submissives (sub drop)–to experience exhaustion, shakiness, disconnect, or anxiety.

Aftercare softens that landing as an individual comes down from the "high" of play. It helps partners rebuild trust and restore emotional balance in their relationships.

Aftercare Looks Different for Everyone

There is no one-size-fits-all formula for aftercare so it's important that you and your partner(s) discuss what works best for you. Some people might need to be held in silence, while others need praise and reassurance. The key is to know what you need and communicate it clearly to your partner(s).

What if I don't know what I need?

When you're just starting out in kink, or you're playing with something new, you might not be entirely sure what aftercare works best for you. It's important to know that is completely normal. Sometimes you might not even feel the effects of play until hours or days after, so remember to give yourself–and your partner–grace during this journey.

Start simple and try out different things you like, such as:

Asking for water and a warm blanket

Writing about your feelings after play in a journal

Discussing the scene with your partner

Letting your partner know when, or if, you feel "off"

Can I give myself aftercare?

Yes! You may between partners or choose to explore BDSM alone. Solo scenes, masturbation with kink elements, or the emotional processing of fantasies still require gentle, supportive self-aftercare that can help build a solid understanding of your needs when you do engage with other. Some things to try/consider include, but are not limited to:

Taking a warm bath

Journaling your feelings

Wrapping up in a soft blanket

Meditation

Speaking kindly to yourself

Watching a comfort movie

*Self-awareness in kink is just as lengthy of a journey as it is in your vanilla life, and your needs will evolve the more you play and reflect/discover your identity. Even long-term kinksters are still learning and discovering things about themselves and the lifestyle.*

Different Types of Play Require Different Types of Aftercare

I always specify that aftercare is deeply personal and will look different from individual to individual, but it's important to note that certain scenes require certain aftercare considerations as types of play effect the body and psyche differently.

Impact Play

Impact play often leaves the body sore and adrenaline-drained so it's important that you and your partner are addressing those needs together. Consider physical touch, cuddling, cleaning any wounds, ointment, hydration, warmth, and creating a calm environment for both individuals to level out.

Degradation or Humiliation

Degradation and humiliation may create emotional bruises, so aftercare should focus on healing those wounds. Consider gentle words, reaffirming love and respect, and focusing on reinforcing the value you hold for your partner(s).

Fear Play or CNC

CNC comes with many risk, but grounding and emotional reassurance are likely the two most important things to take into consideration. You have to distinguish reality from fantasy and re-establish safety and consent with your partner(s).

Rope Bondage or Restraint

Rope bondage can cause physical strain and emotional vulnerability. It's important to consider untying your partner slowly, massaging their body, helping them stretch, checking circulation, and spending some tender quality time together.

Discuss Aftercare Before the Scene

Aftercare should always be a part of your pre-scene negotiation. It's an act of love and consent that shows your partner you care about how they feel after play just as much as you do during play. Some questions your may want to ask include, but are not limited to:

What helps you feel grounded again?

Do you like physical touch after a scene?

Would you rather talk or just rest?

Do you tend to drop later?

Debriefing

Having conversations with your partner(s) after a scene, or a day or two later, can help strengthen trust and make future scenes safer and more fulfilling for those involved. Some points to discuss include, but are not limited to:

What felt good

What didn't feel good

What surprised you

What could have been done differently

Aftercare Doesn't Always End After a Scene

Drop, or emotional echos, can hit hours or days after a scene. Don't assume everything's fine because your partner smiled at the end of a scene. Follow up and check in with each other. Hold space for processing any emotions you might experience as they come up. Remember to communicate. Communication is essential in kink, and you should always feel that you can openly and honestly communicate with your partner.

What is Drop?

Drop refers to the emotional and physical crash that can happen after a scene, play session, or intense emotional exchange. Both dominants and submissives can experience Drop. It's a natural response to the intensity of BDSM, not a sign that something went wrong. Drop can look like:

Sadness

Exhaustion

Anxiety

Detachment

Shame

Irritability

Disconnection

Guilt

Feeling uneasy without knowing why

Why does Drop happen?

BDSM scenes are emotional and chemical peaks that demand trust, adrenaline, vulnerability, and intense physical experiences. Once the scene ends, your body and mind recalibrate resulting in a crash.

Sub Drop

Sub drop is the most commonly discussed type of drop. It occurs when a submissive's body comes down from the high of a scene. Aftercare ensures that a submissive can come down from the "high" of a scene in a safe and supportive manner. When the chemicals released during play come down, crash can look like:

Emotional vulnerability

Shakiness

Crying or anxiety

Physical fatigue or soreness

Feelings of rejection, worthlessness, or confusion

A sense of "what did I just do?"

Dom Drop

Dom drop, while less talked about, is just as real and important as sub drop. Being in control, guiding someone's vulnerability, and managing a scene is mentally and emotionally intense. Aftercare ensures that a dominant can come down from the "high" of a scene in a healthy manner.

Dom drop can be triggered by:

The weight of responsibility

Fear they went “too far” in a scene

A sense of guilt after a degradation or pain-based scene

Emotional release from being intensely present and controlled

The sudden loss of power dynamic when a scene ends

Symptoms may include:

Guilt or shame

Emotional fatigue

Depression-like symptoms

Disconnection or numbness

Questioning themselves or their role

In summation, aftercare is for everyone, at any time, and forms a foundation for healthy intimacy between partners.

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Gırtlağında hisset sikimi.

#fantazitutkudur

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I think being a bio student with a puppy/dumbification kink is extremely funny. Puppy is so dumb but puppy also knows how the citric acid cycle in cellular respiration works.

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There are two wolves inside of you

One yearns for the most Sapphic Cottage Core vibes

One is begging the kinkiest sex

You are high

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The Sound of Music (1965) dir. Robert Wise

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They need to remove the "convicted felon" option from job applications, and anything else that requires you to say whether or not you have a criminal history. Because CLEARLY if we can have a convicted felon in the white house, then convicted felons everywhere should be allowed to get jobs, should be allowed to vote, etc.

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Plan B has a shelf life of 4 years

Plan B has a shelf life of 4 years

Plan B has a shelf life of 4 years

Plan B has a shelf life of 4 years

Plan B has a shelf life of 4 years

Plan B has a shelf life of 4 years

Plan B has a shelf life of 4 years

Plan B has a shelf life of 4 years

Plan B has a shelf life of 4 years

(Also, you can get 4 months of over the counter birth control (progestin-only pill form) at Costco for $50. Or 3 months on Amazon for about $45.)

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Artist: 📸 The Pulp Girls

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You could say that I have a carefully cultivated fyp

Would love to have a guy on his knees, sucking on my tdick as I play with a remote control vibrator thats stuffed in his tight hole, slowly edging him until he’s drooling onto my cock, his wines and pleas for more muffled.

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Friendly reminder to the domme transfemmes out there, now that it's gettin' more chilly as autumn rolls in, remember to adopt a local submissive transmasc. The process is pretty simple, just go to your local park, emo music venue, library or art gallery and find one you like, approach slowly and let them get used to the scent of you at first, but then you should be good to just take their hand and lead them to your car, it's fine. But please remember, as well as food, water and exercise, they do need to cum at least 5 times a day or it becomes a whole thing, but you can average that out and not let them cum all week and have one heck of a weekend. Anyways, be safe! If you're cold, they're cold. Bring them inside!

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getting gangbanged by a group of feral trans women would fix me

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Subs who are embarrassed about receiving oral are sooo fun - tie them down, gag them to avoid having to listen to their continuous protesting rambles and shy complaints, and watch as the realization, that they're entirely at your mercy and don't have any control over how you pleasure them or when you'll stop, sets in.

You start kissing and sucking on their neck, move down, oh so slowly, and the further down you go - leaving a wet trail of kisses and teasing licks behind - the more they fight against the restraints, try to close their legs, mumble against their gag... shake, moan, twitch. The further down you go, the more they get visibly hotter, trembling, their body begging while they're trying so hard to show disgust and discomfort on their face.

But oh, do they come undone with that first hot breath against the insides of their thighs, the first kisses and hickeys left, oh, how easy it is to make them come the very first time when your tongue gently and barely dances between their legs, the satisfied humming of your lips working them up further, and oh do they become more pliant, easy, willing with every single orgasm following afterwards... many of them do, until they're barely aware of the time in between them.

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Kink Education Time - Consent

So, everyone knows that consent is incredibly important in kink. It's incredibly important everywhere, but especially when one wrong move means a consent violation. But kink often involves pretending to violate consent (CNC). So, how do you navigate consent in kink in the safest and most knowledgeable way possible? The answer lies in two things. First, safewords and other safety items. You probably know about safewords, but what about drop items, or other ways of communicating consent? The second category is less commonly-known: consent acronyms.

Safewords & Safety Items

Safewords are basically flags that you can raise that inform your partner(s) about your current state in the scene. The most obvious benefit to using safewords is that, plainly, a play partner can scream, "no, please, stop, leave me alone", without ending the scene. Meanwhile, they can just say, for example, "Pineapple!" to end the scene at any time. Usually, there are three categories: Green, Yellow, and Red.

Green safewords are meant to mean "everything is all good; please continue". This category isn't really used unless one partner wants to check in on the other partner. An example would be that, during a spanking scene, the giving partner notices that the receiving partner is crying. They may ask, "Are you okay?" They may also use a pre-negotiated term to check in, such as a code word. At which point, the receiving partner may respond with their green safeword if they're doing fine and want to proceed.

Yellow safewords are used to caution the other participant(s) in the scene. Their basic meaning is, "Hey, I'm doing mostly okay right now, but we're close to my limit. Please be careful." To some people, yellow means "do not do anything more than what you're doing right now". To others, yellow means "keep going, do what you wanted to, but I may need to use red soon". It can even mean "I'd like to talk to you about this, can we pause for a minute?" It is absolutely vital for both partners to know what yellow safewords mean before play begins.

Red safewords are the ultimate safeguard. Red means "stop". No questions, no exceptions. If you are doing a kind of play that can't be stopped right away (such as rope suspension), you must begin the process of stopping play. In some cases, that means taking drastic measures. In the case of rope suspension, that can even mean cutting the rope away from them immediately. Red safewords must be obeyed at all costs. Refusing to honor a red safeword is sexual assault. Always be mindful of your partner's red safewords in particular.

It should also be noted that safewords are not just for the receiving partner. Everyone gets safewords, and everyone can use them at any time, for any reason. It's important to know what someone's safewords are before play begins, so you can recognize them when you hear them. However, a commonly-used set of safewords is the stoplight system ("red" for red, "yellow" for yellow, "green" for green). Usually, in most cases, using those safewords is absolutely fine, and no other words are needed.

Safety Items/Nonverbal Safewords

Safewords are all well and good. But what if the person is gagged? How do you safeword with a dildo gag shoved down your throat? These are important considerations for any play. You can have many different nonverbal safewords,as long as they're discussed with your partner beforehand. It could be a hand signal, or three claps, or a little red card in their hand. Another commonly-used solution is what's called a "drop item". The person is given something heavy to hold, like a book, that they can drop if they need a check-in. If you're doing a form of play that prevents someone from talking, ALWAYS have nonverbal safewords in place.

Consent Acronyms

This section is more about what consent can actually mean in kink. Typically, people subscribe to one of four "ideologies" when it comes to consent: SSC, PRICK, FRIES, or RACK. Other acronyms exist, but these are the most common. The basic idea behind any consent acronym is to get you to think about what actually goes into consent, and how someone can say "yes" to something WITHOUT actually consenting. Understanding these acronyms is a great way to prevent your own consent from being violated, as well as to prevent violating others' consent, even without your awareness. I'll be explaining each of those four acronyms below in brief detail, but I highly recommend that you research consent acronyms yourself.

SSC - Safe, Sane, and Consensual

SSC is the most common, and "basic" acronym. The guiding principle of this acronym is that, in order for something to be consensual, the act must be safe, sane, and consented to by both parties. This means that you must take all necessary precautions (such as safewords, safety shears, etc.), you must both be of sound minds, and you must both give express consent before play begins. Some complaints about this acronym are about the "safe" and "sane" portions, because kink inherently has risks (making it unsafe from the start), and some kinks could be considered "insane" (like flesh hooks or branding).

PRICK - Personal Responsibility In Consensual Kink

Some people prefer PRICK for its acknowledgement that kink can be dangerous. The basic idea of PRICK is that everyone has a responsibility to learn how to go about their kink lives as safely as possible. This also includes educating yourself on consent, in all its aspects, and how to respect it at all times.

RACK - Risk-Aware Consensual Kink

RACK is similar to PRICK in that it emphasizes knowing the risks to all parties inherent in your play. This includes all mental, social, physical, psychological, and/or sexual risks. The idea behind this acronym is that, unless you're aware of all of the risks, no play is truly consensual.

FRIES - Freely-given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, and Specific

FRIES refers to the act of giving consent itself. This ideology argues that nothing is consensual unless it matches those 5 criteria. This acronym was pioneered by Planned Parenthood, and is a favorite amongst kinksters. The idea is that unless consent is 1) given freely (under no coercion or force), 2) reversible (able to be rescinded at any time for any reason), 3) informed (such as with RACK or PRICK), 4) enthusiastic (basically just not reluctant; you can also just do kink because you're fine with it, not because you're absolutely thrilled to do it), and 5) specific (as in you are made aware of all acts that could happen beforehand for you to specifically consent to).

You may notice that these ideologies can coexist. They should. A truly responsible and safe kinkster will consider all of these when playing. They all have very valuable messages that you should internalize and keep in mind during your play. If anyone has any other consent acronyms they'd like to share, please do so in the reblogs/replies!

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As a sadist a huge part of my own aftercare is entangled with the aftercare of my sub. I need to know you’re ok and that I have tended to you in order to tend to myself. I need to know you don’t hate me. That you enjoyed yourself. I need reassurance. I need to bathe you and be bathed myself. To hold you close. To talk about what we did and how we feel. I love to snuggle clean dry warm and naked under a blanket. To watch a movie we’ve seen a hundred times before but that makes us smile, and it doesn’t matter if we randomly chat through it when a thought arises. To have snacks and drinks and all of the comfort items close by. If we can I would spend the night together, because some times drops can happen several hours later once the endorphins have stopped coursing. Let’s just take our time. This part is just as important as the scene <3

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reblog this post to give a nonbinary person earthshattering head

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Tragically out of joints atm