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my best friend and i have this theory that many of our interactions with the world around us can be approached from two broad perspectives: life as a narrative (i interact with the world and the world interacts with me) or life as an environment (the world interacts with the world and i happen to be in it).

in almost all cases, both things are true simultaneously, and i believe most people are inclined one way or the other, but depending on the situation, reflecting on which side you view it from might help with acceptance or change.

a narrative perspective can help you see yourself as a actor able to change their fate, but also lead to unfair self-blame or frustration with the rest of the world when you are not able to change said external factors. being stuck in traffic and hating everyone in a car and yourself when you are late at work because this always happens on important days when this is just what being alive in our world means is a benign example, but narrative fallacy can easily make you view a series of unrelated events in your life as divine punishment or personal failure instead.

at the same time, while an environmental perspective can make it easier to accept things you can and could not influence, it can also leave you stuck in unfavorable situations because you don't consider action a viable or productive option. an environmental fallacy would be hating everything about your job and your relationships with your coworkers but accepting this as a natural part of being an adult when actionable steps, be it self assertion or a job change, could improve the situation in your favour.

of course, not every interaction with the world fits into two neat categories, but often when i am frustrated or angry with the world or myself, it helps to take a moment and ask myself. is this my narrative or my environment? and if it's both, am i looking at it from the wrong direction? am i stuck in the environmental perspective, standing in front of an open door and lamenting being locked inside? or am i stuck in the narrative, rattling at the closed window instead of giving up of enjoying the view?

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“Don’t let your struggle become your identity.”

— Unknown

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“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.”

— Mark Twain

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“You have saved yourself from drowning every time before this. You will rescue yourself again.”

— Nikita Gill, Powerful One Sentence Reminders To Read When You Are Doubting Your Growth And Healing

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“Breathe. You’re going to be okay. Breathe and remember that you’ve been in this place before. You’ve been this uncomfortable and anxious and scared, and you’ve survived. Breathe and know that you can survive this too. These feelings can’t break you. They’re painful and debilitating, but you can sit with them and eventually, they will pass. Maybe not immediately, but sometime soon, they are going to fade and when they do, you’ll look back at this moment and laugh for having doubted your resilience. I know it feels unbearable right now, but keep breathing, again and again. This will pass. I promise it will pass.”

— Daniell Koepke

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“I am lonely, yet not everybody will do. I don’t know why, some people fill the gaps but other people emphasize my loneliness.”

— Anais Nin

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“Sometimes two people need to fall apart to realize how much they need to fall back together.”

— Colleen Hoover

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“So many years of education yet nobody ever taught us how to love ourselves and why it’s so important.”

— Unknown

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“You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.”

— Unknown

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“So, if you are too tired to speak, sit next to me because I, too, am fluent in silence.”

— R. Arnold

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“Don’t ever put your happiness in someone else’s hands. They’ll drop it. They’ll drop it everytime.”

— One For Sorrow, C.Barzak

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“That’s always seemed so ridiculous to me, that people want to be araound someone because they’re pretty. It’s like picking your breakfast cereals based on color instead of taste.”

— John Green

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I married the money along time ago baby, you can't marry me. I've worked too hard to put no niggas name on half of my shit. You shouldn't be worried about what I am going to do to you. You should be worrying about what you can bring into the marriage. I bring $284k in assets alone.. Its a huge risk for me to marry anyone. Ppl are so caught up in themselves that they don't realize what other ppl have to lose. If I haven't already proven to you I am a good person then I have nothing to prove to you. I have proven myself as a woman, mother and good person in this world time and time again.. All niggas will do is get you pregnant and leave you when you are most vulnerable, gaslight you and push you to try and kill yourself and then call you crazy. Wonder why they can't find a good woman. Luckily, I have been tortured by men at a young age and there is nothing worse you can do to me. I am not the one. I am not bitter, it's just safety at this point. Niggas will try to get u pregnant the first time they sleep with you and wonder why they have so many kids. Do we all need to go back to 5th grade science class???? I will never put myself in that position again. I sacrificed my happiness along time ago when I became a mother, I live only for my child. Nothing is going to get between me making money for my child. I'm going to die with my money and leave it all to my son. Nothing sounds more romantic to me than dying alone. No nigga to tell me what to do. Not now and not ever. Peace to my ears 😂 #Diesingle#loveisdead

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“Loving you was like going to war, I never came back the same.”

— Warsan Shire

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“Everything heals. Your body heals. Your heart heals. The mind heals. Wounds heal. Your soul repairs itself. Your happiness is always going to come back. Bad times don’t last.”

— Christiana Rutkowski