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I hate being perceived, stop that, I want to be nothing.

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I dream about the day where I wake up in my own apartment, all alone, and I don't have to overhear conversations about Jesus, the gospel, or "The Most High"

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Shout out to the Christians (especially queer and Black Christians) who found a way to practice and connect to their faith in a way that doesn't feel oppressive or demeaning or like it's ripping you apart from the inside. Totally not jealous of y'all at all

*no proselytizing please*

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the person who helped today when I fell out of my wheelchair actually did a really great job, so I want to share in case other people wonder what to do. [Note: this is not universal, this is merely a suggestion from one person, every wheelchair user's needs are different! I am a person who uses a manual chair usually pushed by someone else who is also disabled.]

Scenario: you see someone in a wheelchair fall out of their chair, and you have the ability to help.

1. Approach and ask "are you okay?"*

2. Next question if they say no, are vague, or open to continuing conversation** is, "is there anything I can do to help?" Or "what can I do?"

If they say no to help, then that's the end, just leave and go do whatever you were doing!

If they ask for help or say they are mildly injured, ask "what would you like me to do?" And wait for an answer before doing anything! If they seem dazed or confused, they might have hit their head or had another medical event*, or they might just be like that due to regular disability. Be patient.

Do not touch the person unless they say to, or they are like, unconcious in the middle of the road, ya know?? Wheelchair users usually have conditions that mean being handled improperly can severely injure us, you could cause much more damage than the fall.

Some things they might need you to do:

Bring their wheelchair closer (mine went about 5 feet away after it dumped me)

engage the brakes of the wheelchair

hold wheelchair steady if it's an unsteady surface (mud, hill, ramp, wet, etc)

offer an arm for them to hold onto to get up (them grabbing you, not you grabbing them) or move another solid item closer for them to use (i.e. a chair) [only do this if you physically have the ability to!]

If the terrain is rough (i.e. a parking lot), they *might* ask you to push their chair to a more stable area once they are back in their chair

nothing

Something else

Do what they ask, NOT what you think would be helpful. If for some reason you have to do something (i.e. you can't stop oncoming traffic and need to get them out) ASAP, tell them what you plan to do

Keep in mind they might also be D/deaf, have a communication disability, be stunned after the fall, have a head injury, not trust other people, etc. Be patient and treat them as a person with autonomy and agency! They might need to just sit on the ground for a few minutes to recover before trying to get back in their chair. They might want everyone to leave them alone. They might ask you to call someone specific. Their chair might have broken and that can be extremely distressing. All of this is like if your legs spontaneously stop working when you're out and about!

A lot of wheelchair users (NOT ALL) have ways to get into their chair on their own once the chair is close enough and brakes engaged (but it's hard from the ground!). Here's what brakes look like on a lot of manual wheelchairs, in case they ask you to lock the brakes. They're levers on each side and pushing the lever pushes a bar against the wheel to hold it still.

ID: A manual wheelchair with the brake levels circled in red and labeled "user brake levers"

*There is also the possibility of course that a person fell out of their chair due to a seizure or other medical event, so that is why it is important to ask if they are okay. If you saw them hit their head, tell them so. If they had a medical event, follow protocol for that, I'm not gonna get into it here (thought I could).

**sometimes a person will be clear after the first question i.e. "I'm all good thanks" clearly means they do not need you to ask another question, you can just leave them alone. Keep walking and don't stare. A lot of the time people will be a bit banged up but be totally fine and able to manage on their own.

TLDR: Ask the wheelchair user if they're okay, then what they need, and then do exactly that, including leaving them alone. Thanks!

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Why couldn't I have been born like 80 years ago?? I'd be dead by now, that'd be so cool

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Someone please go back in time and convince my parents not to try for a second baby

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I feel trapped on Earth. I don't want to be here. I don't know what to do anymore

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Oh to feel suicidal the day after your birthday

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I hate hate HATE when someone makes content or art to vent their religious trauma (in a way that isn't demeaning to others religious practices) and then religious people come out the woodwork talking about "glamorizing hell" SHUT THE FUCK UP SHUT THE FUCK UP SHUT THE FUCK UP!!!!!!!!

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Kinda wish I could harm myself in a cartoon way. I honestly don't want the pain, but I do think I deserve to be put into a wood chipper and shredded into tiny pieces.

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I keep thinking about my death, and I don't know what to do with that...

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Hearing my mom tell my 9 year old sister that "lying is from the devil" has definitely sparked some feelings in me

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When the sun goes down I begin to haunt myself

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I won't because I'm too scared of hell

Lol what if I finally slit my wrists tonight

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Lol what if I finally slit my wrists tonight

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oh boy I sure love scrolling through facebook seeing those "man dies and sees heaven and hell" videos