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The thing neurotypical people don’t understand is that if you decide to be passive aggressively mad at me and delete all forms of contact with me… I will never know why… and I will more easily forget your existence than you will mine.

If you are hoping to accomplish something perhaps try actually telling me what has upset you. Otherwise, a decade might pass before a mutual acquaintance gets drunk and decides to randomly enlighten me as to WHY you went from being a friend to a stranger over night.

It may also be noteworthy, that when a neurodivergent person says they did a literal verb, they likely meant that literal verb and not some innuendo of that verb… because ND people typically say what they mean even if it is too blunt for you.

#Neurodivergence #Autism #PassiveAgressive #JustSayWhatYouMean #YourMessageWasNotReceived

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My boss wrote “You have the great ability to see the big picture and are a sponge absorbing all information as it comes at you” in my performance review; but do you think she realizes my ability to absorb everything like a sponge and then retrieve that information later is a trauma response from past employment?

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went into this book hoping for a cozy murder mystery to read by the fire on a cold winter day. However, the murder mystery was almost being camouflaged by everything else going on in the book. It felt like there were several overlapping but disjointed subplots (family, political, social, environmental, etc) that I didn’t have thoroughly worked out details regarding. The story also reads almost as a retelling after the fact (but not quite), i think writing it from a point of view where we were experiencing it with the characters and being brought along and shown rather than just told later would have helped me to connect to the underlying story and murder mystery plot a bit easier. This book had really strong potential but ultimately was not for me.

I received a free digital advanced reader copy in exchange for an honest review of this book. Thank you to @netgalley and Joffe Books for the advanced copy and the opportunity to review this title.

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Super thankful that I’m in the middle of reading The Windsors series by Catharina Maura or this power outage would be less than ideal.

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Unsure about this one…

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One of my children has created 169 worlds in Minecraft on their switch.

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⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

I started this Novella in the waiting area during the girls dance classes this morning and finished by dinner time. The male lead drew me right into this story and I love a dual POV in a romance. Also, the family drama was very cute.

My favorite quotes:

“With women, problems need to be solved with words. My father taught me that lesson early and reiterated it throughout my life.” -Sumner, Same Time Next Year, Tessa Bailey

“Can you please try to piece together what you’re feeling and communicate it to me?” -Sumner, Same Time Next Year, Tessa Bailey

Read this if you enjoy: fake relationship, marriage of conviction, or hockey romance, and need a quick pick me up read!

🌶️ oh yeah, and the spice level was JUST RIGHT for this story. 🙌

Happy Pub Week @tessabaileyisanauthor!

I received an free digital copy of this novella in exchange for an honest review. Thank you @netgalley & Amazon Original Stories ( @amazonpublishing )

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What a naughty elf! …and on my bookshelf no less! 😳

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“No one will remember our names. No one will know our story.” -Zoulfa Katouh, As Long As The Lemon Trees Grow

“I’m saying what’s happening now, as horrible as it is, isn’t the end of the world. Change is difficult, and it’s different depending on what needs to be changed. Look, I’ll even science it up for you. If a cancer has spread, wouldn’t whatever needs to be done to remove it be different than for something like a wart?” -Zoulfa Katouh, As Long As The Lemon Trees Grow

“As the sun sinks, in those few precious moments when the world is caught between day and night, something shifts between Kenan and me. 'Yes,' I breathe. 'Yes.” -Zoulfa Katouh, As Long As The Lemon Trees Grow

“We will come back home. We will plant new lemon trees. We will rebuild our cities. And we will be free.” - Zoulfa Katouh, As Long As The Lemon Trees Grow

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

This is such a heart wrenching story, and also such an important read for the young adults of the world. Do not skip this one! The characters are well developed, the story pulls you in, and you need this message.

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I’m so overwhelmed tonight I thought I was sprinkling paprika on something…. Turns out it was fucking cayenne pepper. SURPRISE BITCHES!

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“The people that are worth caring about their opinions of you and your life and if they are mad or not will care enough to come to you and say “We’ve got a problem and I want to fix it for us.” The people that don’t do that, they can go right to the…” -Elyse Myers

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Autistics often have decreased autobiographical memory.

Autobiographical memory is an individual's personal history. Things such as where you went to school, how old you were when you learnt to ride a bike, what year you graduated etc.

Autistics have more difficulty recalling these memories at all, have fewer of these memories, or find that there are disjointed episodic memories (memories of the event occurring) but bad semantic memory (the ability to store and retrieve the memories).

This can lead to a difference in how we socially share our own history and narratives and our own social identity. Autobiographical memory is important in letting an individual understand their own experiences, social ties and place in a group.

Memories may take on a third person view rather than a first person view.

This may also lead to difficulties in being able to recall any specific emotions to the events that have occurred.

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Part of being neurodivergent is constantly getting mocked and teased for wearing out easier than neurotypicals. Where they can fit several different activities into a day, I'm exhausted before I've even finished the first one.

It's because so much work goes into masking. Talking to people in general, let alone when I don't actually want to, is exhausting in itself. Even the brightness of the sky can be overstimulating at times, and that's before I've done my shopping or done what I need to do, where there's too much talking and excessively loud music and workers who are often pressured into getting into your space before you've even walked several metres through the door.

What is considered background noise to some people is all I hear. I can't openly stim or do the things that make these jobs bearable because I'll get those looks from people that remind me that I'm not actually welcome unless I can be "normal".

I have to remember the script that I've created in my head for when I talk to the person I'm seeing. If they stray from what I had planned, I then have to create a new script on the spot without them realising that I'm on the verge of an anxiety attack because it's not going as I had hoped.

I have to make sure my facial expressions don't slip into what's natural, because it looks like i'm bored/disinterested. I have to make sure I'm making eye contact on occasions even when I don't want to because it's seen as disrespectful/impolite. Nobody wants to accommodate my needs more than they absolutely have to, but I spend every hour of every day - sometimes even in my own home - accommodating the people around me.

So yeah, small things can be exhausting.

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This is my favorite quote so far and I’ve made it past page 400.

“Because love, at its root, is hope. Hope for tomorrow. Hope for what could be. Hope that the someone you’ve entrusted your everything to will cradle and protect it.” -Rebecca Yarros, Iron Flame