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[fictionaltrvlr]

a very desaturated aroace flag color-picked from yelena’s official poster 🫶 (that blue eyeliner is not as blue as it looks lol)

[pretty-hills-i-die-on]

I know this is a long post but bear with me.

I found out I was ace at 14, and once I accepted it I came up with this metaphor, I called it “Dragon Wings”. Here what I wrote about it at the time:

I have dragon wings.

Everyone around me (I think) has bird wings, like angels, with feathers.

You are meant to grow feathers as you get older. I didn't think I was old enough yet.

People can have different kinds of feathers in their wings, the more common kind, a slightly rarer kind, or another all together. You only find out what kind of feathers you have once you grow them. Most people need their feathers to fly.

In school we learnt about different types of feathers, and how you have to accept people’s feathers. How some people are born with wings that don’t belong to them, how that can be fixed.

People with rare kinds of feathers tend to band together at school, inseparable. Some people in the world think that only one kind of feathers is right. I don’t see why, everyone can fly and it doesn’t hurt you if they use wings that look different to yours.

But I have dragon wings.

I always thought I would grow feathers, even though I can’t imagine my wings looking different and I don’t really want to. People can be a bit annoying about their feathers, they can see things in other people that I can’t see or understand. Everyone in books grows feathers, and they end their stories flying. Feathers can hurt you though, really bad, but people need them to fly so we love them anyway.

Most people anyhow.

But that’s ok, I don’t care. I can fly anyway, high and fast and free. I was afraid that if I did grow feathers I would fly different, I love how I fly.

I thought that I was the only one with dragon wings, I didn’t mind, but I wasn’t sure if it existed. If there were words for dragon wings.

But once I tried to put it into words, I began to read. I read that other people have dragon wings too, that people feel similar to me about their wings. How they are just as powerful as bird wings, just different. I’m relieved, I really didn’t want my wings to change, I’m glad they don’t have to. No one should have to change their wings, or feel ashamed of their feathers. People should fly with the wings they love, with the feathers they have.

Ever since then I’ve referred to myself as “Dragon Wings”, mainly in my head.

“Feathers” can be sexual attraction, romantic attraction, or a combination of the two. It’s my fault that they’re kind of lumped together here, I didn’t know about aromantic as a label at the time. But it can mean whatever you need it to.

Love you guys, remember, we have dragon wings.

[denerturee]

The Best Gang

[ravenofmanynames]

Any other aroace ppl struggle with the fact that you'll never have a partner cause u don't want one and are unable to feel that kind of attraction needed to have one, but at the same time long for the comfort of person who for all intents and purposes is just yours.

[retrieve-the-kraken]

Now that it’s been a year since the finale of Young Royals, I’m gonna post another one of my “I don’t know if someone has already said this, but” hypothesis/essays, although this one is a little shorter… (maybe).

Hypothesis: Wille is in the Aro and/or Ace Spectrum. 💚🤍🩶🖤 💜🤍🩶🖤 🧡💛🤍🩵💙

Sure, I might be saying this because I myself am in the aroace spectrum, and already I relate to other aspects of Wille (particularly having major anxiety, due to others’ expectations, not being able to meet them, etc.) so why not this one, right? But it’s precisely because I’m aroace, and I’ve been doing a lot of reading about being aroace (as any person who realized their sexual identity in their adulthood would do), that I feel like I know enough about it now to propose this hypothesis. I’m not just pulling this out of nowhere, nope. I’ve literally been thinking about this since season fucking one (i know, that’s a long time).

Hear me out.

I know we don’t get enough instances of what Wille was like before he met Simon, so we haven’t seen enough of Wille before he became smitten with the boy who sang defiantly in church, but from the beginning of the show, and all throughout, there seems to be no indication that Wille has ever looked at anyone the way he looks at Simon. No crushes, no boyfriends/girlfriends, no rumors, no prior romance rumors/sex scandals, nothing that might even indicate that he has any kind of preference. That is until he meets Simon, of course.

(I don’t know about other aroaces, but for me, besides not having the language when I was young, I just think it’s a little harder to realize you’re aroace. From both a scientific and sociological standpoint, I would propose that finding out you’re aroace, and maybe also bisexual and pansexual, is slightly harder than finding out you’re some of the other sexualities. I second-guessed myself for years, thinking that maybe I “just hadn’t met the right person yet” and all that stuff. Because it’s slightly harder to confirm the absence of something.)

(Asexuality is not an absence of sexuality, to be clear, it’s an absence of attraction. Same for aromanticism.)

But as it happens with most aroace people, the people around them assume them to be allosexual/alloromantic, even heterosexual/heteroromantic, at least until proved otherwise (and sometimes not even then).

And maybe the people around Wille would do the same with him. Even if there hadn’t been, as far as we know, any indication that he was or wasn’t. Until they’re ALL proven wrong.

I would propose that not even Wille knew. I don’t know about other aces, but I was immersed enough in the allonormativity around me, that I didn’t even have to convince myself that I was just like everyone else. I just assumed it. When I didn’t feel like kissing or dating anyone or having sex with anyone around the age of 16, I just subconsciously assumed that it was because I just hadn’t met anyone that I was interested in, that I was a late bloomer, etc. It only caught my attention when I was an adult and I continued to not feel that urge…

So maybe if Wille hadn’t met Simon when he did, he might have convinced himself that he just hadn’t met someone he was interested in, or maybe he would have convinced himself that he could have something with Felice, or someone else that was deemed appropriate for him. Just like he tries (unsuccessfully) to hook up with Felice to see if he would feel something for someone else, or for the opposite sex. (Well, if that isn’t the plot of Alice Oseman’s “Loveless”…) Even if Wille does seem to be getting into it, before they get interrupted… But there’s also a difference between attraction, sexual desire and libido that this ace in particular knows all too well by now. There are many, MANY ways to be arospec and/or acespec.

Rewind to the first season: when Wille becomes coy talking to his brother about his “crush”, and Erik teases him, it doesn’t seem to me like this is something that has happened before. Erik assumes that there has to be a crush involved, because obviously Wille is acting different. Skipping on a chance to come home? To stay at the school that he clearly hates?? To “study”??? Something’s fishy (get it? Fishy. Like Simon’s fish. Haha.)

But also the way Erik tells Wille to enjoy it before people decide to have an opinion on it, makes me think that this hasn’t happened yet. That this advice has not been handed down to his little brother before.

Meanwhile, as we see in season 2 with the girls gossiping at the cafe, they’re talking about the video and Wille and Simon, and then they turn to the topic of Erik’s love life, mentioning the OnlyFans model, and such. I would assume that, if Wille had been with someone, anyone, prior to Simon, that someone would be talking about it. But the only gossip that anyone has on Wille is with Simon. Everyone is talking about them, but the shock doesn’t only come from the fact that they got caught on video, also from the fact that Simon is a boy, his ethnicity and his social status.

That’s not to say that Wille could not have had a crush or even a relationship prior to Simon. Maybe he did, maybe we just didn’t get to see it, or hear anything about it. But judging from the way that he reacted when he first hears and then sees Simon, the way he latches on to him, the way he wants to be with him all the time, and so on and so forth… he’s never experienced that before. This is the first time. He’s inexperienced, but earnest. And so is Simon. But they work. They’re it for each other. Wille has found his person, no need to examine his sexuality further. He just wanted to be loved, to be with the person he loved, and escape all expectations thrust upon him.

Happy ending.

I lied. This turned out just as long as other posts. Could be even longer, but I’m tired…

In conclusion: maybe Wille could be grayromantic/graysexual, or even demiromantic/demisexual. Or maybe he’s just Simonromantic/Simonsexual. Whatever he is, he remains unlabelled. He could be so many things. I just decided to explore the possibility that he is this one thing, and I think I could make a pretty good case for it.

I would love to hear other opinions on this, fun facts, things that I might have missed, questions, etc. Don’t be rude in the comments, though. Thank you for coming to my TedTalk.

💚🤍🩶🖤 💜🤍🩶🖤 🧡💛🤍🩵💙

[ameliathetadclover]

happy pride to our aroace king (don’t repost without permission pls)

edit: repost all u want idrc anymore

I made two versions because I can.

[pumpkincookie269]

Happy Pride Month!! 🧡💛🤍🩵💙

[k--now--what]

[humongousarbiterwolf]

Happy aroace pride!!!! 🧡💛🤍🩵💙

I hope y'all have a wonderful month (and the rest of the year)

[vextheallay]

[fictionaltrvlr]

✧ - 🧡💛🤍🩵💙 - ✧

aroace flag color-picked from this gwenpool panel

[pretty-hills-i-die-on]

Sometimes it’s just really obvious that being aroace means being fundamentally alienated from society’s understanding of happiness.

[denerturee]

I HATE SEX AND ROMANCE

[bakarspace]

HAPPY PRIDE MONTH EVERYONE 🏳️‍🌈

Also this is Smile my persona having my sexuality which evolved like pokemon into .......

AROACE 🧡💛🤍🩵💙

[tired-old-men]

💌Sabre

[💌] Have they ever had feelings for someone else that they confessed, or have they had someone else confess to them?

Sabre has had a rather complicated relationship with love in general. As the Guardian lifestyle tends to come with their own restrictions and weight of expectation, it made the concept of falling in love and raising a family more of an expectation rather than a choice. This made building relationships in general hard for Sabre, especially coming into a culture that wasn’t his own, moving from the Lost Tribe to Angel Island. For most of his life on island he was rather standoffish and kept to himself, until he met Jenna-Lu; with the pair quickly becoming friends and eventually casual lovers. He could tell that she adored him, to his own confusion, and he had a great deal of love and care for her too, even thought it was hard for him to grasp emotionally. Whether it was an immense fear of commitment or a lack of romantic desire it was difficult for him to express or reciprocate love as most individuals do.  It wasn’t until one day that Jenna had the boldness to confess her love for him that made him consider the seriousness of their relationship. As flawed as Sabre viewed himself her love for him never faltered, she always has such a patience for him, and never gave up on him, something he grew to cherish immensely in his life. As much as Sabre struggled with the concept of romance he did have love for Jenna, and her companionship give him a light in his bleak little world. It took a while but he’d eventually express his love for her in return, even if it was in his own awkward way, she just appreciated him being able be vulnerable and express his own feelings openly.

[beetleinyourfloorboards]

Who else really wants to make online Aroace friends but just doesn’t because they’re too nervous??

Like, how do I just randomly start up a conversation 😭