#Confession and Clarity

[nathan-r-dooley]

Psalm 73 | From Envy to Intimacy: A Journey of Perspective

A Psalm of Asaph “Surely God is good to Israel,To those who are pure in heart!But as for me, my feet came close to stumbling,My steps had almost slipped.For I was envious of the arrogantAs I saw the prosperity of the wicked.” “Surely in vain I have kept my heart pureAnd washed my hands in innocence;For I have been stricken all day long,And punished every morning.” “When I thought of…

[nova-they-exist-yup]

Keep smiling through, just like you always do

[transformersconfessions]

It feels weird to see praise of Skybound Optimus like he didn’t just bring back Jetfire to use as transportation… Like sure he felt bad about it but it doesn’t really change anything. He basically disabled him and people kinda ignore that part…

I saw spoilers for issue 21 and I see that TC and Skywarp seemingly teleported the arc with Jetfire on it… If they aren’t going to fully acknowledge Optimus being kinda shitty about that, it would at least be nice to see Skywarp and Jetfire bond about being used/their leaders and fellow soldiers not exactly caring about them.

*

[kogglyuffs]

pretty princess and loyal guardian

[healinginpieces]

Why Polyamory Isn’t for Me

People love to paint polyamory like it’s enlightened.

Like it’s this higher form of love that’s more generous, more evolved.

But when it was introduced into my relationship, it didn’t feel generous.

It felt like being slowly erased.

I didn’t agree to it because it felt right.

I agreed because I thought I had to.

Because I was scared that if I said no, he’d leave.

So I made myself small and told myself I could handle it.

I couldn’t.

At first, it was framed as just talking. Just ideas. Just “exploring.”

But that door opened faster than I was ready for, and I watched him step through it without ever looking back.

I watched myself become someone I didn’t even recognize.

Someone constantly wondering if she was being too emotional.

Someone who tiptoed around her own needs, afraid they’d be labeled controlling.

Someone who stayed quiet even when everything inside her was screaming.

I’ve always believed in emotional connection. In depth. In feeling seen.

But polyamory in that context didn’t make me feel seen.

It made me feel disposable.

There’s a difference between loving more than one person and using the idea of freedom as an excuse to emotionally check out.

And that’s what happened.

I was still there. I was still trying.

But emotionally, I had already been left behind.

What I’ve learned is that I need stability.

I need reassurance.

I need to feel like I matter to someone who’s not constantly searching for their next high.

I want to be deeply chosen, not casually included.

I know that polyamory works for some people.

But when it was handed to me, it wasn’t a gift.

It was a slow unraveling.

And I’ve had to spend a lot of time stitching myself back together.

So no, it’s not for me.

And it never was.

- Moxie Thorne

[karumbusarr]

the entire 15 years later scenes was such a dream that was taken away too fast. when you finally calm down thinking all the issues are sorted and they're finally freaking together only for it to be snatched like that. ep 8, you're a wonder, you gave everything and took it all away

[hogwarts-legacy-confessions]

Anon writes:

"Right, let me get this straight. 

Creators in this fandom are shamed for being over 30 or made fun of for being under 30. We're wrong for shipping our MC's with the popular NPC's but just as wrong if we share "too much" lore about our original characters. We're shamed for putting our characters in too much makeup or modern clothing, shipping gay characters because it's not "era appropriate" (despite same sex marriages being literally CANON in the game), or for not shipping gay characters "enough", imagining characters in relationships that would "never happen" because some anon said so, aging up our characters, not aging up our characters, or making an error in a fic that we shared for pure enjoyment and fandom enrichment. If we're popular, it's only because people are sucking up to us, but if we're too nice or supportive, it means we're only chasing clout — and if we DARE try to cultivate some positivity by giving accolades to our favourites on the hype blog, we're made fun of for "sending anon hype about ourselves." 

*slow clap*

It's like you people don't WANT this fandom to exist.

I speak directly to those of us who have personally felt the negative effects of this blog:

Block it, ignore it, filter it out of your feed — do whatever it takes to protect your energy. 

Fandom is a space for YOU, not some nasty-ass anon. Your blog is yours, your creations are yours, your characters, stories, artworks are YOURS and you can do whatever you want in the pursuit of your own happiness without having to adhere to a bunch of nonsensical judgements from self-entitled anons. If they don't like it, they can eat rocks. Or alternatively, use how to use the filter system. 

Babes, you owe these people NOTHING. Stop listening to them. 

Personally, I believe this blog has done irreparable damage to our small fandom and I hope fervently for it's deletion.

Bye."

....

I've done this anon the favor of blocking her from this blog so she can more easily avoid the temptation to look at it. I thank her for her honesty that what she wants is this blog deleted.

I'm not the type to cave to social pressure, so that's not going to happen.

I do agree with what this anon said about not letting things posted here get to you. People are expressing a variety of viewpoints, and oftentimes, even on this blog, others are disagreeing with them and they are sometimes even ratioed.

But - I urge you - if your presence in fandom can't coexist with any criticism, no matter how indirect, that's something that needs to be explored on your end.

I'm a creator too, you know. I'm a writer for starters. I also make the dreaded AI-audios, I make videos, I post photo mode grabs and all kinds of other things. Does everyone like my work? No. Have people expressed that to me? Yes. Have people posted anons here that applied to me, or were directly targeted at me? Also yes.

I don't expect everyone to have my thick skin, but if this blog's mere existence is that bothersome to you, I urge you to please submit an anon request to be blocked. This will make it less easy for you to peek at the blog through your fingers.

Seriously - I've already removed a lot of posts, and vowed to be more censorious going forward. If you won't be satisfied until this blog is no more, I don't know what to tell you. If you have someone in your DMs who is constantly sending you things from this blog or bringing it up, you need to ask them to stop. Otherwise, it's up to you to curate your experience on Tumblr, because I have never once seen a negative post about creators from here be reblogged by more than about one person, and often with plenty of push back. So try to put it in perspective for sure.

Hope this helps.

[smosh-fessions]

In response to that anon, I also started watching after Anthony left but I always thought that og smosh are funny, both of them, especially together, they are the reason the channel is successfull and we get to watch it in 2025. a lot of us here are new fans but most of us appreciate og smosh and are happy they are here, so don't try to divide the fandom and make us look like this to old smosh fans because most of us like Ian and Anthony

Mostly, they stated a fact--it is not all old Smosh fans who beg for Ianthony, but compared to ones who joined in the past year or two, it's absolutely more of the old fans. There is a very vocal group of people who do not give a fuck about them as a duo. Reddit is absolutely full of them.

People are welcome to their opinion. It's just that some of the people on both sides of the aisle get really nasty about it. Both sides have valid points but some people kind of need to work on their presentation, that's all.

[guiltygearconfessions]

hi i'm the guy from a while back who's girlfriend has the anji mito obsession. i wanna say that 1. it was not made up or a copypasta she really was/is like that 2. i think the way i phrased it made it seem like i was more upset about it than i am, i was being sarcastic when i said it was a problem i actually do love anji too and i was really happy that she was showing so much interest in one of my passions

3. the real problem is her second favorite character being happy chaos honestly

Ahh, gotcha. Well, I'm really happy you two are able to share your passions with each other! It's really sweet to have one more thing to bond over.

Unfortunately being a happy chaos liker may be a divorceable offense. It's okay to have limits, anon. I know part of love is embracing the odder and darker parts of a person but that may be just too much

[bookwyrminspiration]

check the @/am-i-the-asshole-official account

Nonsie's directing me to this post, which involves the recent discourse. I'd hoped we could get through this one without using blogs like this, because I've found it's yet to be helpful; it creates non-direct communication and the posting delays drag things out, but oh well. Here we are.

It does give me a chance to clarify things, since I believe a good portion of what they're talking about references what I've said, but they've partially misrepresented my position (I assume non-maliciously).

I agree with them. Tagging is polite and a common fandom courtesy. It's respectful to your fellow fans, allowing them to better curate their online spaces. Wanting tagging is not censorship, nor have I called it such--if that's the impression anyone's gotten, perhaps I haven't been clear enough. Censorship is (simplified) suppressing something's existence/controlling other people's access (e.g. by banning it), not controlling your own access.

Asking someone to tag something is entirely fine, and wanting media properly tagged is, too. Nothing I have said argues against that. The point of my posts was directed to people thinking it can't exist and those who create/engage with that media are immoral/inherently awful/bad people for doing so. Which is separate, though I apologize if the way I presented my points assumed understanding of that

One thing that I will add though: at the end of the day, you can't make someone tag something, even if it is a courtesy. If someone isn't/won't tag how you need or want for whatever reason, then the responsibility circles back to you to take control and remove that person from your online experience. You're both within your rights still. Just another facet to it.

So to summarize: I have no qualms with this person's desire for tagging. If they think that's what I've been arguing, they've misunderstood my posts. However, I do concede I don't think I directly addressed tagging, which may have contributed.

Hopefully this clears things up, though it's possible whoever submitted that has me blocked/I blocked them and they won't see this.

[hellaverse-critical-confessions]

As someone who uses a grey scale filter on my phone*, screenshots from the show are basically hard to look at because of how weird and unfocused everything looks

*please don't ask why i use a filter, its just a preference

Understandable.

[shortstak87]

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[markmcole]

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[project-xxv]

😫 today I DJ’d on the bean, until completion….in the Marshalls parking lot, sanitized and continued to go shopping

[cleverlyconfidential]

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[thecleverconfidante]

What I'm Learning About Wanting

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